Author: Shijiu | Scorpio woman, who is afraid of society and loves to dream.
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"The most important ability of a person is the ability to clean up what happened in the past. The love has passed, then let him pass. ”
——Yu Minhong
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Yesterday, a friend laughed at himself that it would be better for him to go up the mountain to practice and stay away from the troubles. In this way, he doesn’t have to deal with people. It’s best to recite sutras every day.
I say that all monks now need a master's degree. Let's first study in the world of mortals and then go up the mountain.
A joke is a joke. I know that my friend has been having a hard time these past few years. I went with her to the hospital several times to get medicine.
Every time, the doctor said that there was no big problem with my body, but I was worried too much. Sleeping aids were just a supplement. The most important thing was to relax and don't worry about too many things in my mind.
Relaxation is probably the word least related to friends. The most common comment her teachers gave her since she was a child is that she is "too thoughtful".
When I was a child, I didn’t understand what it meant, but when I grew up, I was tortured by insomnia all night long.
Sometimes I say a wrong sentence during the day, and it can be tossed around in my mind for a long time at night.
The leader gave her an ordinary reprimand. She felt uneasy at work that day. One moment she felt that the boss had already disliked her, and the next moment she felt that she was not suitable for this job and wanted to leave.
is not just a friend, there is probably a place in everyone’s heart that is difficult to digest.
Maybe it’s a sad love, maybe it’s being maliciously slandered, smeared and bullied, or maybe it’s a painful childhood memory.
It’s a hard life experience to swallow, right, but to be brutally honest, there is nothing I can do about it. If I want to survive, I can only let these things go.
Really, forget it, stop thinking about it, and let these uncomfortable and painful stories end.
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When I was in junior high school, I was very good at being a teacher. I often gave psychological counseling to my classmates after school.
lived close to her family at that time, so he would always find a place between the two families to sit down and talk.
talks mostly about family, usually surrounding her mother.
Her mother is a very capable professional woman who can earn a monthly salary of tens of thousands in that small 18th-tier city.
Perhaps the career was too smooth sailing, so the marriage suffered setbacks.
At that time, my father caught up with the dividends of the times and accumulated a lot of assets through business. Perhaps it was the distance or a third person. The marriage of his parents ended before his classmates were sensible.
Her father went to a first-tier city to continue working hard, while her mother continued to stay in a small eighteenth-tier county to take care of her.
It is said to be taken care of, but to the students, it is called confinement.
The TV in her house has never been turned on because it delays her study;
She cannot go out to play because it delays her study;
She cannot learn to draw anything that interests her, and will tear it up whenever she is caught because it has nothing to do with study.
My mother kept telling my classmates all day long that dad had a child, and that child’s grades were so good, we couldn’t be worse than him...
So my classmates would rather listen to my nonsense after school than go back to a depressing and humid home.
She didn’t want to see her mother’s always worried face. She accused adults of why she was involved in their grievances, and she felt sad why she was the unlucky one.
You see, people who are unwilling to turn the page not only trap themselves in the past marriage, but also trap their children in the past.
The marriage has ended, the love has been missed, the person who should leave has left, and standing still is a joke.
Why do you use other people’s mistakes to punish yourself and the people you care about?
Coming out of sadness generously and turning the page bravely is the best explanation for yourself and those close to you.
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Mo Yan mentioned the most painful thing in his memory in " Storyteller ".
Everyone was poor at that time, so they could only secretly go to the wheat fields to pick up wheat ears in exchange for money.
But one time, I and my mother were discovered by the people guarding the wheat field, and they slapped my mother hard.
The caretaker looked at the mother who fell to the ground with blood dripping from the corner of her mouth, whistled and left proudly.
Only the young and frightened Mo Yan and his miserable and desperate mother were left behind.
Many years later, Mo Yan met the field guard at the market. He had become an old man leaning on a stick.
Mo Yan remembered the revenge of the past and wanted to rush over and punch him.
However, his mother just pulled him quietly and said, "The person who hit me is not the same person as this old man."
When I saw this story, I remembered the previous news about "a man beating a teacher on the street 20 years later."
It is probably an old story, so the man still can’t swallow this breath 20 years later and still fights against the gray-haired teacher.
The man was later sentenced to one and a half years in prison for picking quarrels and provoking trouble.
Under this news, the comments were overwhelmingly in favor of the man, believing that the sentence was too harsh. Many netizens even shared their own experiences of being bullied by bad teachers.
Suddenly, at this moment, I understood why her mother stopped Mo Yan.
Perhaps she is worried that causing trouble in the street will affect her son's future, or perhaps it is because the mother does not want her son to be trapped in the miserable past.
is just like the recent hit TV series "星汉Brilliant". Ling Buyi has been hiding a bloody hatred for decades. He can't sleep, eat or sleep, and chooses revenge on the occasion of his wedding.
He not only hurt the heart of Wendi who had loved and nurtured him for many years, but also failed his fiancée who had entrusted his sincerity to him.
There was a popular Internet saying before: Never hold grudges, because if you have grudges, you will avenge them on the spot.
To be honest, if you have a grudge, you must either avenge it on the spot or let it go.
Otherwise, you will find that no matter how you choose to live with the hatred for many years, the person who will be hurt the most is either you or the person who loves you.
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Carnegie wrote in "The Weakness of Human Nature": "Happiness does not depend on external factors, but on the inner state."
Only by turning over the grievances and injuries suffered can life move forward.
The earth never revolves around anyone. If you keep holding on to the original pain and refuse to let go, you will only fall into an endless cycle of being hurt and wronged repeatedly.
Just read the article. The sooner you read it, the faster talents will be liberated.
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