In this era, more and more young people, even if they are thirty years old, are still single.
On weekdays, they live alone like that and take care of themselves.
Regarding this kind of situation, there are always some people who simply cannot understand it or why they are like this. They think that they do not want to get married because they have been stimulated or have some shadow in their hearts.
In fact, most young people don't really like being single that much, and they don't really dislike marriage, but they just haven't met anyone they want to get married.
If there is such a person, they will never look back, but if there is not one, they will not be willing to be with someone casually.
In their hearts, they always prefer lack to excess and have certain requirements for love.
This is their choice, and it is also because they know very well that they already have no choice.
was unwilling to give in and always wanted to wait a little longer.
As you get older, when many of your peers get married, and your circle becomes smaller and smaller, finding a partner will indeed start to become more difficult, even more difficult than before.
Therefore, it seems so necessary and urgent to catch someone while they are still not too old.
It's just that if you just want to get married, it can be very simple. However, if the other person is not the person you want, you don't like it at all, and the other person doesn't like you at all, they will still be a little reluctant.
has and only this life, and they are not willing to easily bind their life to such a person, and throw away the life they have worked so hard to get so casually.
They are not that generous. When they think about the long decades to come, they will have to live with each other, and they will be unable to convince themselves and feel that they cannot tolerate it at all.
Although the chance of meeting the right person will only get lower in the future, they still want to try again.
also wants to give myself a little more time to meet that person, recognize that person, fall in love with that person, and then get married.
Even if it is a little late, even if it is possible that they still cannot meet it, they are willing to do so and bear the consequences for it.
If you know yourself, you will never be able to do anything about it.
Come to think of it, for many people, they are not always so firm, and occasionally they will waver.
would tell himself that he would live with everyone, and if he gritted his teeth, he would still be able to live his life.
will also have such moments, but whenever they have such thoughts, they will soon begin to deny them, and they will still warn themselves that they should not think like this, let alone act like this. They know very well what
is like. They know very well that if they are not willing and there is no emotional basis for each other, they will simply not be able to tolerate or make do with it.
The other person is a good person, but I feel very awkward. I can't accept the other person's closeness and accept the other person as a part of my life. I simply can't face all the storms with the other person.
If the other person is unreliable, I will directly not want to see the other person, and it will be very painful to be in the same room with the other person.
knows his own virtue too well, so since there is no one he wants to get married to, he doesn't want to delay others, nor does he want to delay himself.
It is destined to be a lose-lose situation. In the end, if you stay in a marriage, you will only end up separated. From being together to being separated later, no one can escape unscathed, which will also affect their own hearts and future trajectories.
pursues quality of life, not form.
People of the previous generation were more concerned about the completion of marriage. As long as they were not single and entered into marriage, that would be enough.
This generation is different. Not everyone can do it. Rather than completing the marriage in the eyes of others, what they want more is that the person they marry is really what they want.
is a partner that I recognize more. If you are with the other person and live together, your life will be happier, and it will not be much worse than when you are alone. You will not be in pain every day, and you will not be able to see the future at all.
Because they have such a pursuit, if there is such a person, they will be happy to get married and start a family with each other. Like everyone else, they will build each other's small world with each other and have each other's children.
If not, they feel that being alone is fine, and they don’t want to break the existing balance and existing living conditions.
After all, they are independent enough to support themselves and solve all the problems they encounter in life. Alone, they can withstand thousands of troops and live their lives happily and comfortably.
A life like this may not be as good as a high-quality marriage, but it is really much better than a low-quality relationship.
In this case, there is certainly no need for them to give up on themselves and force themselves into a marriage.
Everyone who is unwilling to give in is actually a person who has higher requirements for life and marriage.
doesn’t want to make do with it, doesn’t want to make do with it, and also can’t make do with it.
Don't give in, this is an attitude. It's your marriage, and there's nothing wrong with choosing not to make do with it.
Just when you firmly choose not to give in, you must also start to become more proactive on the road to finding a partner, take the initiative to expand your circle, and have a try with people who feel good.
has requirements. If you don't take the initiative, the chance of not being found is really high.
I haven’t tried it properly, and if I remain single like that, I will eventually seem to be missing something.
In this life, you don’t have to make do with it, but it’s best not to do nothing.
text/Tan Meng
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