Source: Philosophy Life Network
Psychological Master Adler said: "All human troubles come from interpersonal relationships."
In this complex world, people always need to deal with all kinds of people around them.
And getting along with people is an art and a science, and it requires attention to methods and methods.
Do not make these three mistakes, otherwise it will cause yourself a lot of unnecessary trouble!
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Don't reason with confused people
Ancient saying goes: "I would rather fight with a wise man than say a word to a confused person."
Everyone has different experiences, and their views and patterns are naturally different. Never explain to a confused person.
The greatest misfortune in life is not suffering endless suffering, but trying to reason with confused people.
Northern Song Famous minister during the reign of Emperor Renzong Fu Bi , he liked to study since childhood, and had outstanding talents, which was difficult for ordinary people to reach.
Fan Zhongyan also praised him very much, believing that he has the spirit of a gentleman and is a good talent to assist emperors in governing the country.
One day, there was a scholar who was proud of his talent. He was dissatisfied with Fu Bi, so he wanted to compete with him.
He stopped Fu Bi and provocatively said, "I heard that you are knowledgeable, I want to ask you a question.
If you want to correct your heart, you must first be sincere in your intention. The so-called sincerity of your intention should not deceive yourself. What does this mean?"
Fu Bi saw that he deliberately made things difficult for him, so he pretended to be confused and said, "I haven't heard of it, and I don't know what it meant."
The scholar laughed and said, "Everyone said that you are full of knowledge, but I think that's just like this, and you're so fond of fame."
Fu Bi left without thinking, and the servant said angrily: "Why do you pretend that you don't know the answer?"
Fu Bi smiled and said: "This person is young and frivolous, arrogant. If he always talks about reasoning, he will definitely not accept it.
Instead of wasting time and reasoning with confused people, it is better not to argue, do your own thing, and go your own way."
Indeed, if a person wants to live comfortably in this life, he must be clear and not reason with confused people.
Don't try to convince a confused person, just like you can never wake up someone who pretends to be asleep.
reasoning with a confused person will only waste your energy. If you are not careful, it will harm yourself.
principles must be told to those who understand, and to be silent at the right time to avoid unnecessary troubles.
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Don't cooperate with unreliable people
" Maximary Joint " says: "A villain deals with things, those who are in good faith are profitable, and those who are in good faith are harmless."
If you plan with villains, you can make profits together when interests are in good faith, and you will be harmed by them when interests are not in good faith.
Whether it is working together or making friends, meeting an unreliable person is the greatest sorrow in life.
Once upon a time, there was an old carpenter with superb skills who worked diligently and sincerely throughout his life.
After learning that his wife was seriously ill, he resigned from his boss and decided to return home with his wife and children to spend the last time together.
At this time, the customer needs a delicate box, so the boss asks the old carpenter for help, hoping that he will leave after finishing it.
family members advised him: "Just do it casually, you can go home early after finishing it early. Even if there is any problem with
, you have already gone home by then and it has nothing to do with you."
The old carpenter heard this and said sternly, "How can that be? Since I have agreed, I will definitely do it well." After
was completed, he was about to go home, and the boss said goodbye in person: "It's so dangerous, thanks to your help.
The box was made by a senior official. If something goes wrong, it may cause big trouble.
I am also worried that you will be perfunctory because you are eager to return to your hometown, but you have always been down-to-earth and reliable, so I feel relieved.
It turns out that you are a reliable person, and the production is still so good. I specially come to thank you. "
people. If you want to work together for a long time, you must be kind and do your best, and finally achieve a win-win situation.
Reliable people are kind and kind. There is no worries about working with them, and they also save effort.
Unreliable people are treacherous and will be calculated at any time for cooperation with them, which will only make them suffer losses.
for the rest of their lives, and are reliable. Only by walking with people and working with reliable people can you have a lifetime of blessing and wealth.
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6Don't talk about feelings with affectionate people
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"" says: "When you meet a deep and silent person, don't lose your heart. "
When you meet a kind, cold-blooded and ruthless person, don't give your sincerity easily.
Fragile people treat people indifferently and ruthlessly. Talking about feelings with them will only be hurt.
A netizen on Zhihu shared his family affairs:
Grandpa has five children, father ranks third, three aunts, and an uncle.
When my grandparents died, the three aunts had already married, and the property at home was left to my father and uncle .
Because of grandparents' spoiling, the uncle developed a arrogant and unreasonable personality, which made people unwilling to get close to him.
In order to fight for family property, the uncle did not care about family affection at all, cursed him wantonly, and even fought with his family.
After the uncle took away all the property left by his grandparents, the father also stopped dealing with him.
After obtaining the family property, the uncle was proud and unwilling to be lonely, so he raised a woman outside with his aunt on his back.
Aunt was thinking about the relationship between husband and wife and said kindly to He asked for an explanation, but was beaten up and kicked out of the house.
Helplessly, my aunt decided to divorce. He lived with his daughter, and his uncle was happy to have sex with the little three.
Unknown, the mistress only likes his money, and after spending all the money, she abandoned him.
Until now, my aunt and children ignored him, and he became a lonely man who was betrayed by relatives and relatives.
people are afraid of making friends, and their hearts are afraid of giving to the wrong person. No matter how good they are to the unkind person, the other party will not be moved.
If you entrust your sincerity to a heartless and righteous person, you will only give your feelings in vain and eventually suffer deeply.
Only when you talk to a kind person will you be treated sincerely. Only when you talk to someone who understands you can get along without being tired.
Fragile is an invisible killer in love. Only when you talk to someone who deserves it will you have the best rest of your life.
Thomas Fuller once said: "I would rather swallow my chaff with good people than have a feast with bad people. "
Life goes around in circles and spending time interacting with the wrong people is the biggest waste of life.
When you get along with people, you must learn to know and argue people so that you can reduce some troubles in life and live comfortably.
May everyone can master the tricks of getting along with people and walk side by side with the right people!
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