People get along with people, like a hedgehog hangs together to keep warm:
If you get too close, it will hurt the other person; if you are too far away, you will not be able to keep the cold.
The key to dating is to grasp a "just right" measure:
Keep a distance of three inches, three feet, three ft, three ft, three ft, and three ft hrs .
Leave three inches when speaking: Don’t hurt people
"Zengguang Xianwen" says:
"Speak three points when you meet people, and you can’t give up all your heart."
Leave room for speaking. Although speaking out is a kind of straightforwardness, the speaker is unintentional, and the listener is intentional. If you ignore the occasion and lose your sense of responsibility, it is easy to offend others.
Sometimes, others will give up on what they have been persisting for a long time because of a cold word;
Sometimes, others will be deeply trapped in self-doubt because of a blow.
Smart people only say three inches to everyone:
One inch is in a person, two inches are in the time, and three inches are on the ground.
11 is what people say, if the person is wrong, he should not say;
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When interacting with people, be careful in your words and actions, and leave yourself with good deeds. The so-called blessing comes from the mouth and misfortune comes from the mouth. The good and bad fortune in life lies in the words.
Leave verbal virtue among acquaintances, which will avoid embarrassment and maintain affection to a certain extent;
Leave verbal virtue among acquaintances will avoid unnecessary disputes and eliminate more misunderstandings.
A truly wise people know how to talk to others, and not talk deeply about others. Before the 1 episode of
, think more from the perspective of others and put yourself in mind to avoid unnecessary contradictions and troubles.
Let three feet when encountering something: Tianheqi
" Caigen Tan " says:
"Where you can't go, you must know the way to take a step back; where you can go, you must give in three parts."
Let three feet when encountering something is a kind of mind, a kind of demeanor, and a wisdom in dealing with the world.
The reason why there are many contradictions and disputes in life is because we have not mastered the art of "letting".
I have seen a story like this:
Qing Dynasty The Prime Minister Zhang Ying received a letter from Tongcheng . He said that his home plans to expand the courtyard house, just to occupy three feet of land, and he had a dispute with his neighbor.
Zhang Ying finished reading the letter from home and replied to a poem: Thousand miles of letter from home is just for a wall, so why bother to make him three feet?
million-mile Great Wall is still here today, and I don’t see the Qin Shihuang .
House family members took the initiative to give up three feet of the courtyard wall; when the neighbors saw this, they gave up three feet of the courtyard wall as well.
A six-foot-wide alley was made between the two mansions.
To this day, this " Liufo Lane " is still a scene in Tongcheng and has been praised as a beautiful story by the world.
gives way for life without losing size. Give it is not a loss, on the contrary, Give it is a virtue and a kind of cultivation.
When playing chess, it is a master's move; when giving one point in
when playing chess, it is a general's style.
The more cultivated a person is, the more he knows tolerant and humble he is. When interacting with it, we will feel comfortable and trust will double.
Benefits make Sanren: Win the hearts of the people
Success or failure in life, everything, ultimately depends on whether we can bring out our "altruistic heart".
"Zhongshu·Li and Music" says:
"For profit, intersect, disperse, and disperse; for power, intersect, and disperse; for power, intersect, and lose power, abandon; for emotion, intersect, and the love is gone, and others are hurt; for only communicate with hearts, indifferent and clear ambitions, and friends are not lost."
The maintenance of long-term relationships should be exchanged for sincerity, rather than gaining from temporary benefits.
As the saying goes, "Those who give in profits will benefit, and those who make immediate profits will not benefit."
makes concessions to make three ren, which means that people value friendship more in their interactions. It seems to be a temporary loss, but in fact it will have long-term blessings for life.
html l4 Only when a person attaches importance to friendship and forms a virtuous circle of social circles can interpersonal relationships last for a long time and last.
treat people far away: good relationships
Many times, when we get along with people, we do not know how to get close, but we do not know how to be alienated.
No matter the distance, people should have a certain sense of boundary between them, so that distance can produce beauty. .
Interpersonal relationships without a sense of boundary. No matter how close it is, the final ending is likely to be hurt.
There is a saying that goes:
Keep a distance of a piece of paper between lovers;
Follow friends, keep a distance of a glass of water;
Follow relatives, keep a distance of a bowl of soup.
does not hurt yourself because it is too hot, nor does it make people's hearts cold because it is too cold.
A gentleman's friendship is not demanding, does not cater to each other deliberately, does not be distant at will, is as plain as water, but makes people feel like spring breeze.
"Caigen Tan" says:
"Make people have the joy of having a lasting relationship, it is better to make people feel sick for a long time. "
know boundaries, understand the degree, advance and retreat, make yourself happy and make others comfortable, so that you can get along with others, and your relationship can move forward steadily.
Source: Confucian style, Philosophy Life Network
Editor: Deng Rubeng
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