Introduction;
65-year-old Aunt Yang said that her originally had a wonderful retirement life, but because she did not stay away from something in time, her retirement life was extremely tormented. What's going on? Let me hear what Aunt Yang said.
Aunt Yang:
I am sixty-five years old this year, and my wife is seventy-three years old this year. We have reached this age, but we have to live a separate life with the same place. It feels sad to think about it.
says, "Young couples come together in old age." My wife and I also want to be together like other retired elderly people, and the old couple is together every day and live a loving life.
Before retirement, my wife and I were busy with work and had no time to enjoy the sweetness between husband and wife. At that time, our biggest wish was to have plenty of time to enjoy life after retirement.
We plan to go on a national trip after retirement, hoping that our footsteps will be everywhere in the motherland. However, the plan has always changed rapidly, and our wonderful retirement life has finally been defeated by reality.
In my first year of retirement, the birth of my grandson made my beautiful longing completely shattered. I originally thought that as long as my money was given in place, the couple would not make things difficult for me and would not ask me to help them take care of their children.
It’s not that I don’t like my grandson, I just don’t want to leave my home and my wife. I can't stand the hard work of raising children. I am in poor health and plan to take good care of myself after retirement. This is why I can't take care of my grandson.
as compensation. When my grandson was born, I gave the couple a red envelope of 10,000 yuan. Looking at my chubby grandson, I felt happy.
However, my daughter-in-law received the red envelope but didn't plan to let me go. She kept complaining that after the child was born, she couldn't eat or sleep well every day, and she was in a bad mood.
The daughter-in-law’s meaning is to ask me to help take care of the child. I ignored her and thought to myself, I finally survived until I retire and could live a few years of leisurely life, so that I would not take on the errands of taking care of my children.
Seeing her daughter-in-law’s unhappy look, I gave her another 3,000 yuan and told her that if she really doesn’t like to take care of her children, she would use the money to hire a nanny. If the money is not enough, I would give her more appropriately. My daughter-in-law accepted the money and said nothing again, so she accepted my proposal.
The days that followed were the best time after I retired. Every day, I sleep until I wake up naturally, and then make an appointment with my good sisters to watch movies and go shopping, and go to the square dance together at night. I am so happy.
I also bought several recipes and made various nutritious meals according to the production method in the recipe. My wife ate the nutritious meals I made every day, and her health is much better than before.
Before I retired, I had symptoms of insomnia and it was difficult to fall asleep every night. Over time, it would not only make people feel particularly uncomfortable, but also deeply affect my health.
Since I scientifically made nutritious meals, my insomnia symptoms have improved greatly, and I have never been to the hospital often like before.
I told my wife that he must eat and sleep well, so that he can maintain his body in a healthy state and have a good body to accompany me to travel and play in the mountains and rivers after retirement.
My wife solemnly told me that he would do what I said and accompany me on a trip across the country after retirement. However, my beautiful vision was eventually destroyed by a phone call from my son.
The third month after my grandson was born, my daughter-in-law could no longer bear the trouble of raising the children. She clamored to divorce, saying that if I didn’t help with raising the children, she would leave the house alone and leave the children at home.
My son cried and begged me to go to his house to take care of the children. He said he didn't want to divorce and didn't want to be separated from his daughter-in-law. He begged me to help him, saying that as long as I help take care of the children, his relationship with his daughter-in-law will recover as before.
My son's sad look made my heart thorny. I promised my son to help them take care of the children. I convinced my wife to live with me at my son's house.
Since my wife lived at her son's house, my daughter-in-law has always been flirting with her husband.No matter what his wife does, she will be rolled by her daughter-in-law, which makes him very sad.
When we moved to our son's house, it was the hottest season of the year. For the sake of our grandson, the air conditioner was not turned on at home. My wife was very angry. In order to understand the summer, he had to give up his image and wore a vest and shorts every day.
When his wife saw her husband wearing a vest and big shorts, she always rolled her eyes at him and complained to her son, saying that he was disrespectful and had a daughter-in-law at home, and she was dressed so "cool."
The son passed the daughter-in-law's opinion to her husband. Since all the daughter-in-law protested, we can't ignore it, right? I advise my wife to wear more clothes, it’s nothing, anyway, it’s not too hot.
My wife listened to my flowers and wrapped herself tightly. Even though I was so hot that I was sweating profusely every day and had numb prickly heat on my body, I didn’t dare to wear a vest and big shorts anymore.
However, after this matter was over, the daughter-in-law started to do new things again. She said that her husband would pick his teeth after dinner, and said that seeing his husband picking his teeth, she couldn't even eat.
The tea cups and rice bowls that my wife drank and had eaten were required to be washed separately, and we were not allowed to be washed together with our cups and bowls. My wife lives in the cold eyes of her daughter-in-law every day. He couldn't bear it and finally chose to return to his home.
My wife left, and I became a lonely person at my son's house. Apart from doing things, my son and daughter-in-law rarely talk to me. After all, we are two generations and do not have much common topic.
Whenever I see the couple's loving look, I will hide aside and feel sad. Young people always arbitrarily believe that the elderly do not need the love of husband and wife at all, but in fact, the elderly need companionship more than the young people.
After my wife moved home, every time she called me, she urged me to go home early and reunite with him and his wife. But, where can I go? As long as I tell my couple about going home, my daughter-in-law will threaten her with divorce. This is a curse and my son and I are powerless to resist.
finally survived until my grandson went to kindergarten. I thought I could finally go home this time. However, I accidentally got news that my daughter-in-law was pregnant with her second child.
I heard that my daughter-in-law was pregnant with her second child, and my patience collapsed instantly. I cried and told the couple that they would either abort the child or take care of the child by themselves. In any case, I would never help them take care of their second child.
I said that my wife is still waiting for me at home, and I want to go back to my own home and live a quiet life for a few years. Unexpectedly, my words touched the sensitive nerves of the couple. They said I was selfish and only cared about enjoying my life, but I didn't think about them at all.
The son told me righteously that if I didn’t help them take care of their second child, he would never forgive me. The daughter-in-law also said that if I didn’t help with the child, she would divorce her son and leave the house alone as before.
I can't watch my son's small family collapse, nor can I bear the consequences of my son's breakup with me. For my son's happiness, I can only sacrifice my own happiness.
Now, my daughter-in-law has given birth to a second child, and I have started a life of raising children again. When I thought about having to last for a few more years before I could return to my home, I felt particularly broken.
Due to the hard work of raising children, my health is getting worse and worse. I don’t have time to exercise, nor do I have the energy to take care of myself. Because my wife lived alone for a long time, she was not good at housework and did not have my care, she lived a mess.
Even now, my wife and I are very clear in our hearts that our plan to travel together has long been shattered. After several years, where can we still have the strength to climb mountains and wader? By that time, let alone traveling, we will even struggle to go downstairs.
The reason why my retirement life was so painful was because I was unable to stay away from the "threats from my son and daughter-in-law." I regret it very much now. If I had persisted, decisively, and not accepted my son's threat, it would not have been the result of today.
If I were braver and rejected the unreasonable requests of my son and daughter-in-law, I would not have separated from my wife for a long time and would have made my retirement life so collapsed.
I can't imagine what kind of scene will happen when my wife and I reunited several years later. I guess by that time, we would have long been so old that we would have lost our romantic mood. We would have nothing to be interested in except eating and sleeping.
Conclusion:
Many retired elderly people still live a life of retiring because they have to help their children after retirement. As old people who have worked hard for most of their lives, at the age when they should have "lived their own way", they have had to take the lead in the family for their children and devoted their entire lives to their children.
Parents should also put their own efforts for their children, and put themselves in their shoes. If you just enjoy your parents' efforts selfishly but have no gratitude at all, such behavior will only make your parents feel heartbroken and bring endless disasters to their later years.
As elderly people, we have worked hard for most of our lives. When we retire, we should enjoy our retirement life well so that we will not leave any shortcomings in our lives. In the face of the unreasonable demands of our children, we must firmly oppose them so that we can spend our old age comfortably.
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