1. Stay away from each other to avoid conflicts
I remember that in high school there was a friend who had a very good time. Once, the reader didn't want to go to the cafeteria and wanted his friends to bring a meal for him.
Because the friend had other things to be busy with, he did not agree to the readers' request. The reader was very angry and the friend did not talk to her when he came back.
Because readers think the relationship between the two is so good, why don’t they even help with this little busy?
But if the same thing falls on students who are not so close, readers will feel that it is nothing. After all, the other party has his own things to do, so it is normal for him to refuse him.
people are like this. Leave politeness and politeness to others, and leave harshness and dissatisfaction to the people they are closest to. The closer the relationship and the closer the distance, the more serious it is.
We will feel that the other party should unconditionally agree to any of their needs and do not allow the other party to refuse. Rejection means not loving, which leads to disputes.
However, this itself is unfair. Even between husband and wife, there is the right to do it and not to do it, rather than to bind a person's freedom because of marriage.
Therefore, it is a wise choice to keep a distance between middle-aged couples. It will allow us to return to the most essential politeness and will also allow us to learn to respect each other.
2. Stay away from each other, in order to find yourself faster
The second young master in the TV series "Qingqing Daily" does not like his wife to show up in public, so since she got married, she has only managed the backyard and does not worry about anything outside.
However, the second young master was full of calculating her and did not want her to get pregnant, so he cooked tea for the wife to drink medicine that was not conducive to the woman's pregnancy.
For so many years, the wife has devoted all her thoughts to her husband, so she has forgotten what she originally looked like, but in the end she has received such a result.
When we enter marriage, we will focus all our thoughts on him alone because we love and care about him very much, and never think about what we need to do.
Therefore, all our affairs are mainly based on our husbands. Every day, we think about what our husband likes to eat and where our husbands go, but there are very few things related to ourselves when we think about it carefully.
Yang Lan once said: "The best marriage is the joint efforts of two people, continuous progress, continuous improvement, and once again attracting each other."
If we stay away from our husbands, we will take back the time we used to manage ourselves, so that we can do our own things.
At that time, we and our husbands will have more common topics, which will be more conducive to making the relationship deeper.
3. Stay away from each other, in order to better bring each other closer
Cai Kangyong said: "I don't think it's too warm. It's the best way to maintain a good relationship with others. If you are bound by the word warmth, it will be even more difficult. I advise you to be a cold person and learn to be indifferent, so that you can be warm."
Once the relationship between people is close, there will be more conflicts.
If we want to get a person, we just need to approach each other. If we want to lose someone, we just need to approach each other infinitely.
A couple also needs to keep a certain distance. Sometimes we think the closer the distance, the better. However, once sincerity and enthusiasm lose their sense of proportion, it will become a disaster.
For example, we will think that the other party is already close enough with us, so when we do something, we will take our own initiative and not discuss it with the other party;
For example, we will follow our own temperament and do whatever we want, without considering whether the other party is willing or whether the other party is in the mood to accompany us to make trouble.
In addition, when we get closer, we will feel that everything we do is for his own good, but we don’t know whether the other party needs it. In fact, “I’m for your good” is the heaviest shackle in love.
A comfortable marriage will not make people feel stalemate and sticky. It is like Chinese ink paintings, with color, but it also leaves blank space, giving people plenty of room for imagination.In this way, the couple will avoid disasters caused by too close distance.
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