Author丨Windowsill
To be honest, I don’t really recommend some girls to learn some love routines online based on the actual situation.
is completely unreliable.
For example, deliberately not replying to the message and hanging the other party, using the method of disconnecting, etc., wanting to get some initiative back, but in fact, this method is only effective when the other party loves you deeply, and they will take the initiative to reflect on whether they are wrong and care about your emotions.
If this person doesn't care about you so much, or if you like him more, then your routines are just trapping yourself. The other party wants you to do this. You don't bother him anymore and cause less trouble for others. You are very happy, but you start to suspicion.
For example, such as "something that is close and distant", pushing and pulling, etc., it seems to understand people's hearts and is also useful, but in actual applications, it may not be tenable at all.
Because it is obvious that these tricks can only be controlled by you when you are stronger than the other party, and he is willing to be dominated by you. In other words, if this is the case, even if you don’t use any tricks, the other party will still love you.
Then, what you do is a waste of time.
In fact, no matter in any relationship, the effective way to eat a man will always have only 2 words: value.
The value refers to your personal comprehensive value and is effective value. The small routines I mentioned above about using, grasping the other person's emotions, etc., are all invalid values. If these values are not based on effective values, you will never be firmly chosen.
Even if the other party is temporarily with you and acts like love you very much, it is very likely that he is actually choosing you shortly in the name of long-term choice.
And what is effective value?
To put it bluntly, your education, work, income, ability, family background, personal emotional intelligence, etc., are all your personal effective value.
These values cannot be taken away by others, and only these values are the core factors that make you more competitive in any intimate relationship.
Of course, when you are in love, the other party may not tell you this at all, but only say something you want to hear, but when you really face the actual choice, anyone has a scale in their hearts.
Two days ago, I saw an anonymous contribution from a girl online.
This girl met a boy last month. The boy was 4 years older than her. The two of them had always had a happy chat. She had long liked that boy.
So, they met. But after meeting, the boy became more cold to her. She felt a little sad, and at the same time she wanted to work harder, but was worried that there was still no result, so she posted it anonymously, wanting to ask netizens what they think.
At first I thought the boy was dissatisfied with her appearance, but the girl said in the reply to someone else, no, they had videos in advance and had posted photos of each other, and the boy said that he was not much different from the photos.
I continued to flip through the answers she gave to others and quickly found the key point. The girl said that when they met, they talked about their career plans, their current jobs, including approximate income, etc.
The comprehensive conditions of a boy can be said to be to crush her. Whether it is at work, annual income, or family background, they are much better than this girl.
So, this girl is naturally very satisfied with the boy, but obviously the boy is not satisfied with her, because her comprehensive value is obviously not up to the standard in the boy's measurement system.
can't help but sigh, which really corresponds to the saying: When you are particularly satisfied with the other person, the other person will generally not be interested in you, because most people are prone to overestimating their value. When you are on a blind date, you can match yourself with people you are actually not worthy of.
may be a bit heartbreaking to say this, but it is true in reality.
In real life, especially in love after leaving campus, it is impossible to be very pure. Everyone will measure the other party’s conditions and strength, hoping to have a stronger partner in the future, which can also enhance their ability to resist risks.
This is not snobbish either. This is the instinct of human nature. Most people actually cannot avoid this. It is normal to face it correctly and make reasonable choices.
Therefore, if you want the other person to love you more in an intimate relationship, you cannot do without you. In addition to learning some love routines, the most important thing is to continuously enhance your comprehensive value. You can't just fantasize about finding a particularly outstanding partner without improving your strength. This is unrealistic. Life is not about acting in fairy tale . There are not so many stories about tall, rich and handsome people who don’t like white, rich and beautiful women, but they love ordinary girls.
Only if you have a higher overall value, if the other party leaves you, according to his conditions, you may never find someone better than you. On this basis, if you use a little more love routine, the effect will be twice the result with half the effort.
If it is just a simple routine, it will not make the other party obey you, but it may easily make you overestimate your weight in his heart.
Another step back is that your personal strength is strong, but in fact your stubbornness towards anyone will decline. After seeing a bigger world, your state of mind that is bound to love will be constantly neutralized. You will understand a truth: If you leave this person, you can live a good life. There are many things worthy of your liking in this world.
In other words, as long as you are strong yourself, you will not be afraid of losing anyone at all.
In fact, the more you are not afraid of losing, the more others will not leave you.
Emotions are sometimes like sand in your hands. The tighter you hold, the faster you may lose. Of course, this does not mean that you can just show off your bad luck, and there is no need to go to the other extreme. What I said is that you should treat any relationship well, but if the other person wants to leave, you can also let go calmly.
None of us can change others, we can only restrain ourselves.
Only after the person’s strength and inner strength are strong can he truly be strong in his relationship.
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