"Save some money, the family has no money"
"You are not young anymore, it's time to be sensible"
Some time ago, the neighbor's nanny invited all the leaders to have dinner to celebrate the housewarming. Our family was also invited to
I thought it was an ordinary banquet, but I didn't expect it to be a Hongmen banquet
Everyone was sitting properly at the dining table, the closest to my house She is the aunt who loves to gossip the most
. As soon as she took her seat, her mother called me to call me. At first I didn’t want to shout, but because of the family, I still opened my mouth
. He responded disapprovingly. He thought it would be over, but the good show was still at the end. When she was having a meal, she asked, “Where are you working now?”
“How much is the salary”
“Is there a fixed holiday?”
. When facing several questions that others are concerned about, I still answered one by one.
"You have to be more sensible, now you make money, be more filial to your parents, it is not easy for your parents to be filial to you."
"Sensible" word seems to have run through my life. No matter where I go, I must be sensible
Naturally I thought as long as I am sensible, I will get everyone's likes and recognition
But in fact, it is not as I wish
Since I can remember, because my family is poor, I must learn to save money early and choose the cheapest food and clothing. It seems that in my understanding, clothes should be durable and dirty. My mother also said that this can save her a lot of trouble
Even when others are eating snacks and snacks, although I long for a penny of pocket money from my parents, unless they give it to me on their own initiative, I can't speak
Since then, I have been labeled as "sensible" by my parents and neighbors
, but only I know that being sensible does not make me happy. On the contrary, it makes me bored
What I am sensible is just a few words of praise, not "candy"
When I was young, I understood a truth: "Sensible people don't have candy"
After growing up, I beat me up all the way I found a pretty good job, and my salary was also very popular with me
At that time, I just wanted to pause at this moment and let me take a breath
I thought I could make money with peace of mind after I found a job, and I could buy what I wanted
But when I thought of "How filial do you have to be filial to your parents" I still silently sent them money every month. Deep in my heart, I always thought that I should let them enjoy themselves.
Facing my unbearable original family, I work diligently every day, and sometimes it makes me feel that I am fighting for my family at this time
After working every day, I lay in the bed. When I closed my eyes, I saw those annoying relatives and parents' oppression, so I couldn't breathe. I slowly got used to this kind of oppression. At the end of the month, I would still send money to my parents. The chat records were full of transfer records, which made me realize that I seemed to be just a tool to make money, but all of this was attributed to my "sensible".
Until now, I have deposits and my life is still stable. During the years of working, I have met many colleagues, and their circumstances are not much different from mine. I told them about my life's "sensible" experience
, but through them I realized that is not the only one who is sensible. When did the word "sensible" bind our lives?
I think this may be related to my growth environment.
When I was a child, I never longed to have what I wanted. I don’t need to flatter anyone. I can have my own ideas. My life
When I grew up and worked, I didn’t need to work hard. I used the money I earned to subsidize my family. I think I only live for myself. I can be ignorant and don’t have to be a parent, neighbor, and even any sensible child in my heart.
In my past life, I was often bound by "sensible"
I often forget that I am also an ordinary person.
Sensible child has no candy to eat, and only pain has. Now I think it is right
It is endless to be sensible. I think as a girl, those who can express themselves are never sacrificed to make others happy. I can also have my own life posture like a normal woman
can be sensible, but it cannot be endless.
Now I just think that being a human being does not require flattery. A word from others cannot determine our life.
Only we dominate our life. Life is finally gone, why not live for ourselves?
When I set out on the way home again, I chose to ignore the useless people I am. Being sensible and doing my duty is my greatest limit. In today's era, making money is for myself. Isn't it a good thing to grasp everything around me that I can have?
Finally, I want to say that we can be "sensible" girls, but we must never step into the whirlpool of "sensible".
There are also related cases in the recent popular drama "The Big Test":
Tian Wenwen is played by Li Gengxi . In order to make a living, his parents work in Wuhan with their young daughter. The eldest daughter Tian Wenwen became a left-behind student preparing for the exam alone in their hometown. Even when they were sick, only the young class teacher Li Xiaoxu was with them.
"She is very sensible, tolerant and tolerant. She learns to express her emotions reasonably, and understands that while being tolerant and tolerant, she must express her truest thoughts in her heart."
As a left-behind child, she is just a female student with no power. When facing thieves, she is afraid that parents from afar are worried, even if she is afraid, she is calm and calm.
Maybe the left-behind children will do this in general, but if they are on her, I feel particularly distressed, because she is the only one living in the Tian family's ancestral home, and when it gets dark, she is still alone when she returns home.
In today's society, there is more than one "Tian Wenwen". Excessive sensibility is only a virtual tag. We don't need to be "sensible" at all times
Don't be wronged for others. While is "sensible", we should also take care of our own emotions, so as to take into account both
The more sensible a person is, the less people feel sorry for, the more understanding you are, the less people understand your child who is not easy to cry. There is the most grievance of sensible people. This is the most true portrayal of my personality.
I really don’t want to be an understanding and reasonable person anymore, and think about others everywhere. It's so tiring to be such a person!
Author: Xiaoxin Buy Crayons & Chen Huanhuan
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