The most important relationship of a family is the relationship between husband and wife. As long as the relationship between husband and wife is harmonious, the family will naturally be harmonious. The whole family will be happy together, and everyone's face is filled with a smile. As the saying goes, family harmony is prosperous. Once you reach a harmonious state, your career development outside and interpersonal relationships will be well improved, and your family will definitely get better and better.
But the ancestors left a saying, "Loving couples are in no way." Why is this? In fact, this is not groundless, but also the experience gained by our ancestors based on a large number of factual cases. Even if the times have developed to this day, it is still applicable to the present. The key is how we understand it.
The so-called loving couple, if a couple is too close and has to stick together all day long, even if there is a short separation, it will make the other party feel sad or anxious. Such "love" may be a little too much. Such a deep love will make the other person breathless. If you are too attentive and care too much, not only will you feel very tired, but the other person will also feel tired.
In addition, the love mentioned in worldly law is completely different from the love in the realm of sages. Love in the world is often out of self-desire. Too deep love means that you have control and possessiveness too strong, and problems are often prone to problems. For example, suspiciousness, sentimentality, etc. The love of sages is exactly the opposite of this, which is a great love that completely abandons oneself and is selfless and beneficial to others.
The couple gets too close to each other and it is easy to find the problems in each other. They may be ignored in a short period of time because of "love". Over time, they will definitely feel bored. The little bit of the accumulated "resentment" and "annoyance" may suddenly burst out on one day and gradually evolve into a kind of "hate".
So the deeper you love, the deeper you hate it. As long as it does not explode, once it breaks out, it will reach an irreversible situation. This may be the reason why our ancestors said that "a loving couple is invincible."
In fact, no matter what kind of emotion it is, we should grasp a principle of "moderation". Don’t be too late, and don’t go too far, this is the best state. It is obviously not good to have a couple who are too cold to talk and don’t care about each other. It is not the best way to be too close and love too deeply.
On the contrary, the two sides always have some conflicts, and they often make small noises, but after a while, it’s fine again, or even in the quarrel or cold war, they still silently care about each other and care about each other in their hearts. Isn’t this the best state? Often, only such couples can truly grow old together, do you think so?
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