Recommended words: Starting a family and starting a career has been a major event that every ordinary person will experience since ancient times. However, when it comes to marriage, since each person chooses different standards, the quality of marriage obtained is also different.

Recommended words: Starting a family and starting a career has been a major event that every ordinary person has experienced since ancient times.

However, when it comes to marriage, since each person chooses different standards, the quality of marriage obtained is also different. The so-called "Women are afraid of marrying the wrong man, and men are afraid of marrying into the wrong career" is a saying that reminds us to be cautious in our attitude towards marriage.

After all, a good partner can complement oneself in career and life. When two people are combined, they can burst out with the greatest power; on the contrary, if they are with an inappropriate person, then the couple will consume each other, which will not only bring endless conflicts to the family, but will also affect their lifespan in serious cases.

However, with the development of the times, we find that today's young people are becoming less and less likely to like getting married. Because there are a large number of single and unmarried older leftover men and women in society. They are obviously at the age of 30 or even 40 who are suitable for starting a family, but they have not been married for a long time. What is going on?

Most single young people have only three short words for this phenomenon, that is, it is difficult to get married.

At present, the reason why the difficulty in getting married is becoming more and more serious is because it is affected by many factors, but overall, it is mainly focused on these three reasons.

The first reason: material conditions are taken too seriously.

Generally speaking, young people value the most when they get married, the relationship and views of each other, but after getting married, it is inevitable to consider the material issues of food, food, oil and salt. After all, a good marriage not only requires love maintenance, but three meals a day are also the top priority.

However, as society continues to develop, the phenomenon of profit-seeking between people seems to be becoming more and more serious. For example, when looking for a partner, many women are not interested in the man's character, but how much money they have in their pockets, whether they have a house and a car. Moreover, they often do not easily make concessions to these marriage conditions.

The author has a boy from a relative's family. Although he has a house and a car, the woman refused to give in because the dowry was not given enough 150,000 yuan, and the woman refused to give in, which eventually led to the failure of the marriage and the two families parted unhappily.

Nowadays, many men cannot meet the general requirements of women to have a house, a car and a deposit, which is why it is difficult to get married.

We believe that because two people love each other, they are willing to stay together for life, which is the best combination. Only marriages that are bound based on love are the healthiest and natural. If you only value money from the beginning, this kind of marriage is actually difficult to end.

The second reason: Too greedy.

I don’t know if you still remember that in the 1970s and 1980s, young people would not consider material conditions when they got married. At that time, people had a very high yearning for love. As long as both parties were in love, then any bride gift and marriage conditions were secondary.

But now? Young people have extraordinary standards for finding marriage partners. Not only does it require the other party to have a good material foundation (car, house), but it also requires the other party to be able to behave well and not be too old to be much older than yourself. It is always very demanding.

But for young people who have just left society in their twenties, if their family background is average, then it is really rare for people to buy a house and a car before the age of 30.

After all, it is too much to work hard in the city now. Rent, living expenses, and people’s friendships are basically spent. One month’s salary is basically gone. Being able to save money can be said to be a luxury.

Of course, some older young people have better families, but they overestimate or underestimate their abilities and conditions, and they will not make it too high or low, and they will easily miss the best time to choose a mate.

In short, young people today are too greedy and want to have too many things, but their own abilities are often difficult to match, which makes getting married more and more difficult.

The third reason: It is not easy for young people to find a stable job.

Stable work is an important guarantee for married life, so many women will first understand the other person’s work situation before getting married.However, young people today are trying their best and trying their best to find a good job. They have come from small cities to big cities and wandering in a foreign land. This makes it difficult to find a long-term and stable job.

Most of them, even if they find a stable job in a foreign land, may have to give up years of accumulation when they get married and go back to their hometown to find an ordinary job because they can't afford to buy a house.

Plus, the "midlife crisis" is now prominent in all walks of life, and employment stability is really difficult. Therefore, many young people are afraid to get married because they are afraid of not being able to bear the responsibility after marriage and are afraid of not being able to give their partners a happy life. These are very realistic problems.

I wonder what you think about this?