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Tu Lei Teacher once said: "Any love that can go from love to marriage will have at least 10 times at the beginning, the idea of breaking up, and the urge to slap each other 50 times. 100 times you fight and I fight and 1000 times questioning the original choice."
In this world, there is no love that is made in heaven and smooth sailing. All the happiness and happiness and long-lasting life are achieved through constant running-in and entanglement of heart.
After getting married, it is not like when we are in love. There are more things we need to deal with and deal with. How to better manage a marriage is a big question.
As a woman, if you want to better manage your marriage, don’t do these 5 things that hurt each other’s relationship and family harmony.
01. In front of your husband, appropriately show weakness
In marriage, the strong are showing weakness, and the weak are showing off their abilities. Knowing how to show weakness appropriately is a lubricant for marriage.
I have seen an interesting story about life in the former Prime Minister Mrs. Thatcher .
After attending the inauguration ceremony that year, she went home in high spirits. The "bang bang" knocked on the door alarmed the husband inside the house.
He asked: Who?
Mrs. Thatcher said loudly : "I am British Prime Minister !"
As a result, the door not only did not open, but there was no movement in the room. She thought about it and then suddenly realized.
So, he said again: "Dear, open the door, I am your wife. " this time. Although the sound is not high, it works particularly well.
As soon as the husband opened the door, he gave him a warm hug.
A little weaker will not only bring surprises, but also enhance the relationship between husband and wife. If she was arrogant and domineering, how could she have a gentle reward?
The more she knew how to show weakness, the easier it was to be loved. This is a manifestation of love for a man. He feels respected and admired, and meets her inner needs as a man, and then he will love you more and more.
02. Don’t give up dressing up just because of marriage
Yang Lan once said: “No one is willing to understand your excellent inner self through your sloppy appearance.”
Workplace drama “Please call me director”, html l2Tan SongyunMeet the noble man, Mr. Shi, the following is a passage that Mr. Shi said to her heart~
"You know that in the workplace, dressing yourself up to the eye is not only respectful to others and yourself, but most importantly, the symbol of ability. It means that you can calmly take into account work and life, not to be exhausted."
Whether you are single or married, it is necessary for women to dress themselves up and pay attention to their image.
Because your face is what your soul looks like. No one would think that a woman who is sloppy, ungrateful and full of anger is a woman with a happy marriage.
Woman, you have to dress up and dress yourself up, while please yourself, make your husband's eyes lit up, be curious about you again, praise you, and praise you.
Changes in the image will also bring about changes in your mentality. Seeing such a beautiful self, there is not so much dissatisfaction or sadness.
03.Don’t complain, there is no perfect marriage
In "The World of Not Complainting ", the author Will Bowen described complaining about this behavior in this way~ "Complaint is like bad breath. When it is revealed from other people's mouths, we will notice it; when it comes out of our own mouths, we are unaware of it."
In the eyes of men, the biggest shortcoming of women is that they like to complain and chatter.
No one likes resentful women. Just like taking them out of bitter water, they are full of negative energy.
Women need to talk and vent. Appropriate complaints are understandable, but they must be moderate. The endless complaints will not only not be distressed by others, but also make people bored.
If you have any dissatisfaction, just say it outright. Two people will solve the problem frankly. Don't keep it in your heart. If you have too many times, you always feel that you have done more, you have suffered losses, and you have not been loved.
In fact, men can't guess your thoughts, your attitude, or your mood. Instead of sulking and complaining, it's better to say it out loud and feel happy, and it's also a relief to reduce the burden on your marriage.
A man who often listens to your complaints may not be less psychologically stressed than you.
04. Don't always put pressure on your husband
Why do we get married?
04. Don't always put pressure on your husband
html Why do we get married?
. In order to find someone to take risks with us, share our burdens with us, and overcome difficulties with us; instead of putting pressure on our husbands, and making marriage a difficult adventure for him alone.
Choose to get married means that you have to bear the pressure and burden of various material life. At this time, it is better for two people to share the burden together and understand each other than complaining and nagging alone.
As a woman, it is inevitable that you will constantly put pressure on men. In order to live a better life and not disappoint women, men will work harder, and are even forced to do jobs that he doesn't like, accompany various people to socialize, just to make more money.
After a long time, men will inevitably feel dissatisfied and will feel that living with you is very tired. Apart from pressure, you cannot feel love and warmth at all. It is inevitable that there will be problems with your relationship.
We are all for this family good, so try a different way, learn to think from the perspective of others, think about the difficulty of men, and have more understanding and encouragement, the effect will be counterproductive.
05. Less aggressive nagging
There is a saying: "Women's nagging and pickiness can bring misfortune to their families more than luxury and waste. "
A woman's appropriate complaints are expressions of warmth, care and love, but once she complains endlessly, even to the point of being aggressive, it is a disaster for men and a misfortune for the family.
The famous psychologist Dr. Toman, after surveying 1,500 couples, came to such a conclusion. In the eyes of husbands, the biggest shortcoming of the wife is nagging and picky.
Good communication can solve 90% of the things in marriage, and the remaining 10% can also be communicated through communication, making big things small, and small things small.
Instead of complaining and aggressive men pushing farther and farther, it is better to communicate calmly, express your needs and true thoughts, and discuss it, which is the greatest love and respect.
"Marriage is like a bank account. Every little emotion is saved, there is more happiness, and every overdrawn hurt is more deficit. "
Marriage is not easy, cherish it whenever you want.
or above, encourage them together!
I am Xiaoyue, a wild contributor, and a writing enthusiast. Focus on female growth | Sexual emotions | Personal diligent information | Self-disciplined information | Looking forward to being friends with you and growing into a better self together.
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