Many women have such a trouble in intimate relationships, that is, I have suffered from the other party’s hurt. I am very confused now whether to forgive him. In fact, there are big and small, and when you two quarrel, he may blurt out some hurtful words. You are always like this

Many women have such a trouble in intimate relationships, that is, I have encountered the hurt of the other party. I am very confused now whether to forgive him. So today we will talk about whether to forgive the harm when it is hurt?

So what is the advanced way of dealing with you that Teacher Hu wants to teach you today? means you have to choose to understand him, but you can't forgive him.

Let’s think about it first, what harm does men have to you? actually has big and small things. When you two quarrel, they may blurt out some hurtful words. You are always like this. It was a mistake for me to marry you. The big harm, including the fact that you find out that he is deviant during marriage, and he has betrayed you emotionally.

Then most people will choose a more extreme way to deal with this kind of harm. One is to blindly forgive the other party , tolerate not to say what they feel, and always feel that I can exchange tolerance for his turn.

But in the end you find that your behavior is sending a signal to men that you can be hurt and you have no bottom line.

There is another type. Some of us sisters have a stubborn personality. She will choose to blindly forgive , but I will not let you bully me. This matter is your fault from beginning to end, and then your relationship will eventually become a deadlock.

Then what are you going to do when Teacher Hu teaches you today? You need to understand his behavior , just say you have to think clearly, why did he do this?

For example, when you two quarrel, they hurt people, so what are the causes and consequences? Did you say something to hurt him when you said everything you said before, including this serious behavior of deviant marriage? So was your husband-wife relationship not harmonious enough before, which made the man get bored of marriage.

This is the part you need to understand, that is to say, you have to accept the fact that this man is not perfect, he has shortcomings, and he has problems. So what is the part that is unwilling to forgive? It is you who hurt me now, you make me very painful, you have been denying me, ignoring me, and you don’t care about my feelings.

So I don’t forgive this part. So when you have this mentality, you can promote a very important thing, that is, you can reach an effective communication between you .

You can tell the other party directly that I understand why you do this, but for the part you hurt me, I will not be responsible for your behavior. If you want to get my forgiveness, then you must pay a certain price. You must make up for me and you must see the pain in my heart.

Then this effective communication will achieve two results. The first type of is that a man reflects on his own problem. , and he also knows clearly what you want. He will make compensation. He will be awake to 's realizes the harm he had done to you before, which is a promotion of relationships. What is another type of

? means that you can't agree on at all. No matter how you say it, no matter how you tell the other person your inner thoughts, he still ignores you. So what can you choose in this situation? Leaving coolly.

So what I want to tell all the sisters is that when you face hurt, you must first choose to use an appropriate way to promote communication between you, so that the problems between you will have the possibility of solving them.