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I am Ye Feifei yff, a non-famous emotional instructor, who writes heart-wrenching emotional texts, hoping to bring you some spiritual comfort with warm words.
When people talk about older single women, they always think that they are single because they have high vision and high requirements. In fact, this view is not correct.
Many women have not gotten married after they are 30 years old. They are often not picky, but have experienced scarred love, which leads to certain changes in their body and mind, and dare not fall in love easily.
They long for marriage, but they are reluctant to take a step forward, and they seem very hesitant to delay themselves.
I have seen many older single women around me. They are not as picky and not materialistic as people understand. Instead, they are more reasonable, able to be themselves and know how to be kind to others.
For example, her colleague Ms. Su is 35 years old and has always been single, but she has a good attitude and is very polite to interact with others, and is very popular with everyone.
The reason why she didn't get married is because she was disappointed by her ex-boyfriend when she was young, she never dared to fall in love, and was afraid of gains and losses in her relationship.
Moreover, her values are very positive. No matter who they interact with, she will not be greedy for small gains. She insists on AA and sometimes she will take the initiative to pay for it. She will basically not owe others favors.
Regarding marriage, she said that she could meet the right person. As long as two people are sincerely together, she doesn’t care about each other’s conditions.
It can be seen that "older leftover women" are single, not because of high vision, but because of the following four reasons:
1. I have been hurt in love, afraid of being let down
The biggest reason for older leftover women is that they have been hurt in love, which makes them afraid to fall in love again and are afraid of being let down.
In the past, they loved seriously and devoted themselves to each other, but in the end they were not cherishing, but being let down and hurt.
So, they have experienced a long time to heal their hearts. After slowly letting go, they may be over the marriageable age and are forced to be single.
In life, even if they meet a man who is moved, they dare not express their love, and just watch the fate missed.
is like Miss Su. She met a male colleague she liked at work, but she never dared to talk to him, let alone add friends, and she always liked him silently.
The male colleague did not notice it, and she did not give any hints. As a result, another girl finally took the lead and missed the good fortune.
Therefore, many older single women are not single, but , but , who are sensitive and weak in their hearts, do not have the courage to actively pursue the love they want. is worried that they will be let down again and eventually miss their fate.
2. Being single for a long time makes them afraid to get along with the opposite sex
In reality, many older single women have been single for a long time and are becoming more and more accustomed to the life of one person and dare not easily accept the pursuit of the opposite sex.
Because, they are afraid of getting along with the opposite sex and don’t know how to date the opposite sex, and they seem to be very confident.
Whenever they see a man pursuing him, they will subconsciously protect themselves and then silently avoid them without giving the man a glimmer of chance.
It’s not that they don’t want to date, but they are too worried and always worry about saying the wrong things and doing the wrong things in front of men, and they dare not face the men alone.
My colleague Ms. Su is deeply touched by this. When she met a man's pursuit, she also wanted to fall in love, but she hasn't been in contact with the opposite sex for too long and really doesn't know how to get along with her.
Many times, she is afraid of men's eyes when they look at her, and always feels that something bad will make them laugh at her. This psychological burden is very heavy, which deepens her pace of escaping from the opposite sex.
Therefore, older single women are largely due to the fact that they have been single for a long time and have lost the ability to get along with the opposite sex. they are not confident and dare not accept the pursuit of men rashly.
3. The circle is too small to get in touch with more men
Older leftover women are single. Another important reason is that their circle is too small to get in touch with more men, so the choice is too narrow.Women like
basically maintain a two-point and one-line life. Apart from commuting and getting off work, they don’t have much social activities and often stay at home.
We know that if a girl stays at home for a long time, she will get used to wrapping herself up. If they don’t go out, others will not be able to come in.
As a result, they almost lose the opportunity to date men, making it increasingly difficult to get out of singleness.
Although they long to fall in love, they never have the courage to date men, so they naturally lack opportunities.
Furthermore, they stay at home for a long time and become introverted in their personalities and talk little to men. Men do not understand their true psychology and will definitely not pursue them rashly.
4. It's so excellent. It's delayed getting married for busy with career
Older leftover women are single. Another reason is that they are so excellent. They are all focused on their work or career, and they don't care about falling in love at all.
Women like this have a strong career aspiration and the ability to be independent and have achieved certain achievements in their careers. There are two results in this case of
: On the one hand, they are getting better and better, have a strong economic foundation, and have a very high quality of life, making it difficult to be backward compatible.
On the other hand, they are busy working hard for their careers and don’t have much time to consider personal issues. Although they are not opposed to getting married, they can’t find time to have a relationship.
Therefore, the better the woman, the harder it is to find a partner. is not because they have high vision, but because they are too busy and too excellent .
For ordinary men, they have almost no confidence in front of such women, so they dare not pursue them.
And those equally excellent men have been in love and married for a long time, and will not wait until now, which makes women unable to match the right partner.
So, such an older single woman has to be forced to be single for the time being, so she has to comfort herself with a natural mentality and continue to wait for a good marriage.
Ye Feifei yff emotional message:
In summary, "older leftover women" are single, basically caused by four reasons:
has been hurt in love and is afraid of being let down; being single for a long time makes them afraid to get along with the opposite sex; their circle is too small to get in touch with more men; they are too outstanding, delaying their marriage for busy careers.
I read a sentence: "It's not difficult to be single, the difficult thing is to deal with those who try every means to get you single."
Indeed, people should treat older single women correctly. They may not be as single as you think.
In fact, most leftover women are not very sensible, nor are they like to be picky, nor are they materialistic, but they have experienced scarred love or delayed marriage due to personality reasons.
Especially some women are excellent and are dedicated to pursuing their careers, they will not focus on love at all, but work hard to work hard for the future.
In short, people should not look at leftover women prejudice, nor should they guess the reason why they are single based on secular ideas. It is better to understand and tolerate them more, which may be more helpful to them.
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