As the saying goes: It is difficult to get old; when people get old, their physical functions are no longer as good as before, and they are unable to move around, and their thoughts and ideas are not always able to keep up with the pace of the times; even rich elderly people can

As the saying goes: It is difficult to get old;

When people get old, their physical functions are no longer as good as before. They are unable to move around, and their thoughts and ideas are not always able to keep up with the pace of the times;

Even rich elderly people can hardly resist the invasion of loneliness;

Therefore, many people think that they can rely on now only their children, and their spouses and themselves need the care and care of their children;

As parents, they work hard all their lives. When their children are old, it is natural to be filial to themselves;

However, children have also started a family and started a business. They have their own small family to protect and have a difficult career to work hard. They cannot become the last shelter and guarantee for their parents;

As parents, they work hard all their lives. When they are old, it is natural for them to be filial to themselves;

However, children have also started a family and started a business. They have their own small family to protect and have a difficult career to work hard. They cannot become the last shelter and guarantee for their parents;

However, their children have also started a family and started a business. They have their own small family to protect and have a difficult career to work hard. They cannot become the last shelter and guarantee for their parents;

So the elderly can rely on themselves and try to rely on themselves, because living at their children's home is of course not as easy and comfortable as they come at their own home;

If you really need to live with your children, please try to consider the problem from their perspective, instead of sticking to your old habits, which will lead to unhappiness and unhappiness in both yourself and your children;

The following three things should be done at their children's homes, which is really embarrassing;

Don't try to interfere with your children's choices

Many parents have become accustomed to interfering and deciding their children's lives;

When their children are young and ignorant, parents are afraid that they will choose the wrong direction and suffer great losses and be deceived, so they like to weigh the pros and cons for their children and control their lives.
However, after children get married, they already have their own ideas. The process of working hard in society has also allowed them to understand new ideas, understand their own strengths and weaknesses, and how to face life in the future;

So, when people get old, they should learn to let go of their children;

people are constantly growing and improving. You can protect their children for a while, but you can't protect them for a lifetime;

Some troubles are some, they need to solve them independently, and some setbacks are They also need to digest and reflect on themselves;

Only when you have experienced the attacks of wind and rain and can you stand up by yourself can you be considered a mature and independent adult;

As an elderly person, just find a problem and remind a few words;

If you blindly interfere with your children's choices and make them dependent on you, it will be detrimental to their development and maturity;

Especially when you give your opinions, your children may listen to a few words, but they may not necessarily obey them. You are strong Instilling your ideas in your children will only backfire, making them resistant to you, and making their families angry and depressed;

Don't get involved in the marriage of a couple

The key between parents and children is to communicate and get along with each other with an equal identity;

When children get married, they have their own unique way of getting along with their partners, as long as they live well and comfortable life is enough;

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Even if the elderly are a little disliked and disliked, it is not convenient to point it out in person;

If it really involves a matter of principle, the elderly can put forward their own opinions;

But don’t be picky about their children’s marriage when they don’t understand the whole story, and blame and complain about their children’s partners when they don’t understand the whole story;

will intensify the original conflict between the couple, and may blame the good people wrongly;

children enter the marriage, You must try to learn to manage gender relations and properly handle conflicts between husband and wife, instead of looking at the parents' faces everywhere and acting without your own judgment;

Since the elderly are living in their children's homes, they must learn to respect different lifestyles, and not treat themselves as absolute authority, and get involved in the marriage of the couple;

They are indeed our children, but they also bear the responsibilities of the family and obligations in marriage;

You cannot completely want If you want children, you must meet your expectations and meet your requirements;
Therefore, not getting involved in your children's marriage is the greatest consciousness of being an elderly person;

Don't inquire about your children's privacy and concerns

Some people say: No matter how old your children are, parents will care about them all their lives;

Parents look at their children, but they just keep them in their mouths for fear of melting, and they always feel that they are not giving enough;

If children have knots and thoughts, they always hope to be the first to know, hoping that their children can tell themselves the privacy in their hearts, so that they can also give their children advice;

But after children get married, they are already mature adults;

You cannot fully understand their ideas, and you really don’t have to treat them as children, and you care about them everywhere;

On the one hand, children hope that their parents can feel at ease and are used to reporting good news but not bad news;

0On the other hand, children also hope to have a basic sense of boundaries with their parents, both intimate and distanced;

If you always inquire about your children's privacy, it will make them feel that they have no space and feel depressed and bored;

Not only can you not solve any problems, but it will cause trouble for them and make them worry;

So, please believe in your children, don't worry unnecessary, and let your children have their own little secrets. This is the real high emotional intelligence.

People are old and longing to spend a peaceful and happy old age;

Then you must understand the degree of speaking and doing things;

people live a lifetime and learn for a lifetime. Don’t become willful and weird just because you are old and wantonly plunder your children’s attention;

Try to talk with your children intimately, communicate with each other equally, and you will live a happy and comfortable life.

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