The entanglement after a broken heart is not because of lack of self-esteem, it is because I really care. Not being entangled is not letting go. It is because I understand your determination. Your free and easy turn may be because I really don’t like the other person’s free and easyness, or maybe it is your way to protect yourself. A broken heart is indeed painful, but when we pass through the trough of our lives, we will have more courage to face our future life, and will have a clear understanding of many things and will no longer be obsessed with it. Change what we can change (self), accept what we cannot change (reality and others), let go of what we cannot accept, and in the end, let the things we cannot let go of will be natural. Time will give us the answer, and believe that everything is the best arrangement of fate. The journey of life is long. We will meet many people, allowing others to leave midway, allowing love to disappear, allowing ourselves to be mediocre, and embracing all the uncertainties in life.
I am very grateful for your company, dedication and tolerance in the past, and for enriching my life experience. From this experience, I saw my childish behaviors and thoughts in the past, my childish love, and my self-confidence and persistence. Through reviewing experiences and reading a lot of books, I began to understand every word you said to me in the past, every word you said, what you wanted to say but didn't say, and even wanted to communicate with me about my personality issues, I began to understand, and I also had a more three-dimensional understanding of you than the past. I understand myself better, and understand why I cannot express my true feelings in time every time I want to express myself, and why I am so nervous, and after realizing it, I can see everything clearly and think through it.
After reading intimate relationships and non-violent , we have a deeper understanding of managing love and marriage relationships. It is normal for any conflict in any relationship. We should maintain rationality and rationality dominate sentiment, rather than making trouble or getting angry. Fighting and crying will harm the cultivation of feelings without any benefit, and it is easy to pull each other's relationship to an inequality state. We should analyze contradictions from the perspective of the difference in thinking between men and women and deal with emotions. In fact, we should be more about bravely expressing our true feelings in our hearts, rather than subjective evaluations. Our goal should be to solve problems, rather than argue about right or wrong, not targeting people, but about the current matter. After solving the problem, we should turn it over and don’t make up old accounts overnight.
also understands what love is and being loved. Mature love should be given, not demand, acceptance and tolerance, not control and forced change, and when separated, when independent and together, it is companionship and encouragement when sad. We should all love the concrete people in life, not the abstract people in imagination. All love and love should be put into practice, such as eating, dressing, sleeping, etc., in every little detail of life. Only when mature love is calm and then loves others, and with the ability to love and be loved, can we enter the happy marriage we want.
After reading the truth of marriage, I understand that the essence of marriage is a long-lasting companionship. I also understand what you mean by respecting each other, treating each other with courtesy at all times, respecting each other, being grateful at all times, and thanking each other for all their efforts, and not taking all this for granted. If you regard love and marriage as a cooperative project, work together and do your own part well, your life will be much less trouble and pain and much easier. Stay sober and independent, be kind and sincere, likes and love are cultivated and accumulated bit by bit, and long-lasting companionship is more important than anything else.
Read the weakness of human nature and can calmly accept that most people only love themselves, seek benefits and avoid harm, and begin to rationally look at the complexity and change of reality and human nature, as well as the dark side of human nature. You must not have the intention to harm others, and you must be careful of others.
Balance rationality and sensibility, balance work and life, properly handle your emotions, vent pressure reasonably, do not worry about the future, do not worry about the past, live in the present, and enjoy focusing on every moment of the present.Accepting your own imperfections with others, not having too high expectations and requirements for others, accepting and tolerating all opinions or behaviors that are incompatible with yourself, but interfering in other people's topics more. These are things I have learned and will continue to learn and implement them in practice. The reason why you become who you are now is also due to past experiences, rich social experience, emotional experience, and the grievances hidden in your heart. I also want to be a strong self in my heart. Only when I am strong in my heart can I protect myself and protect the person I love. Looking inward in everything, you should also give yourself a sense of security, rather than asking for energy from others.
I never thought of deliberately blaming you and saying you are not good, but it is true that I have too straightforward personality and low emotional intelligence. I have not controlled my emotions and speaking styles well, and I do not understand the relationship between business. I am with you because I like you, and I want to have a stable relationship, enter a happy marriage, and find a sense of belonging. I used to think and believe that you would be my destination because of the words "Scattered islands will find the sea, and slowly become long." I missed the scene of you cooking, I washed clothes, I washed dishes, and you hang clothes. This is the marriage life I want, sharing each other's burden, understanding and support each other. I like you and want to marry you. But in the past, I was afraid that I could not handle the interpersonal trivial matters in my marriage and that I was afraid that I would drag you down, so I was worried about anxiety. In the dull relationships in the past and busy work, I forgot my original intention at the beginning and gently expressed my concern and recognition. I am very sorry that I was enlightened so late. I know that the past works and troubles made you physically and mentally exhausted and you could not see the stable life of the future, so you don’t like me anymore and it’s difficult to tolerate my shortcomings. I feel that stopping the loss in time and choosing faster than running-in, because of age anxiety, I am unwilling to accompany me to grow up. Maybe there are more suitable people around you. Maybe you will marry someone else in three or six months. Although it’s very sad, it doesn’t matter. You are free and have the right to choose someone who is more suitable for you. When love surging, embrace each other sincerely. When love fades, leave politely, let you go freely and let yourself go.
Thank you for teaching me everything and thanks for the growth this experience has brought to me. The ex is the best teacher, and you are internalized into my use, taking your strengths and making up for your own weaknesses. Based on what you have told me in the past and the theoretical knowledge learned in the book, I will start to observe carefully, think about the real intention behind other people's words, identify people based on details, communicate patiently with parents, and immediately ask yourself the reasons for the emotions when you develop them, and control your bad emotions. Two loves, one is ignorant, and one is profound. A broken love is indeed a huge blow to people, but it can also bring rapid growth. Read more, look at the world more, and exercise more is the way to adjust your mindset, grow your cognition the fastest, and it is also the greatest wealth accumulation in our lives.
It turns out that people can’t teach people, but they can do it once. I hope the next love will be the end. The practice of oneself cannot be stopped, internal and external practices.
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