Introduction: I (Mr. Zhou) met her three years ago. She has a family, and I have it too. At first, she first broke through the subtle relationship between us. I clearly rejected her out of moral constraints, but the more I refused her at that time, the more she expressed her love

Introduction:

I (Mr. Zhou) met her three years ago. She has a family, and I have it too. At first, she first broke through the subtle relationship between us. I clearly rejected her out of moral constraints, but the more I refused her at that time, the more she expressed her love for me, and later I really couldn't withstand her love and fell completely!

However, in the past three years after we determined the relationship, I found that she had never considered us to achieve success; and I also found that in the past three years, she said she loved me just by saying that she was just talking about it, because almost no cent of her money was spent on me, and it was all spent on her lover and daughter!

Recently, I always want to push our relationship a step further, each of them handles the current marriage well, and then be together openly. But what I didn’t expect was that whenever I have this idea, her first reaction was to end our relationship and she chose to return!

Now, while I was in pain, I could not understand why she chased me frantically when I refused, but I fell, and now she chose to return? So I hope you can analyze for me where our relationship will go and what kind of ending will end, because I want to know in advance and then prepare as soon as possible... Thank you.

or above is Mr. Zhou’s distress. How do readers and friends think about this “feeling” between them? Leave your opinions in the comment section and help them!

In fact, I cannot give an answer to Mr. Zhou’s distress with certainty, so I can only analyze their “love” in depth and let him find the answer and make a choice by himself.

I believe that almost all people who have had extramarital affairs have troubles like Mr. Zhou, who cannot make progress, and cannot retreat and cannot give up; in fact, this is a common trouble for extramarital affairs. You think, "This kind of relationship is not only carrying a family forward, but also having to bear the psychological pressure if it is exposed. Do you think such a relationship can be not tired or distressed?"

So, I advise those who are restless in marriage not to try to get closer to such a relationship, because the biggest pain of this kind of relationship comes from you clearly knowing that there is a problem, but you still can't bear to end it. Even if you can learn from the pain and make a decision to "let go", and you do the same, but your psychology will still be very painful.

So can this kind of "feeling" last for a long time and can it be possessed for a long time?

In fact, if we only logically say it is OK, but if we can truly do it, unless you are a saint, you will almost end up exhausted, hurt each other, or helplessly! Why does

say that it can last for a long time just logically? Because:

1. You must have common interests as a restraint!

As the saying goes, there are no eternal enemies, but there will be eternal interests. This sentence is also applicable to extramarital affairs, because only if there is a common interest that involves you, you can walk on the surface openly; if there is no false answer, there is only love. If you love, then it will not last long, because after all, it is shameless and it is impossible to have too much companionship; but humans are animals with a particularly possessive desire, so over time, dissatisfaction occurs, and quarrels appear, and people become tired and part ways.

Maybe some people will say, "The extramarital affair I have seen has been intact for many years. I think they may not break up in their entire lives."

But I don't recommend you to learn from other people's examples, because this is just the surface you see, but the real situation is that they are getting colder and colder as they go. Maybe they will occasionally make an appointment to get intimate, but is this still a relationship? In fact, it has deteriorated a long time ago, and it is just a matter of fulfilling its obligations.

But this kind of response has deteriorated. It is no longer the kind of "feelings" that they are excited, caring for each other at the beginning of their understanding, giving help to each other, hoping that the other party will become better. Isn't this contrary to their vision of the beginning of their understanding? Violate it? So, this kind of "feeling" has not lasted!

Therefore, I said that to maintain this "feeling" for a long time, then you have to see if there is a common interest involvement, because only with a chain of interests between people can we give each other for a long time.

I say this, you may not understand it. You always feel that love should be simple and there should be no material intervention. So let me give you an example:

For example, "It is easy for unmarried men and women to break up when they are in love, but once they enter marriage, it is difficult to divorce, because they invest too much, and the interests involved will be more, such as real estate, property, children, various family relationships between the two parties, etc. If you want to divorce, you will accidentally cut these chains of interest. It is difficult to clarify, not only will it bring about it, but it will also bring about a lot of economic and spiritual losses. Therefore, although so many couples want to divorce, they all choose to live by themselves, and they have to work hard for this family." You should understand, right?

If you don’t understand, then I’ll put it bluntly:

That means if you want to maintain such a high-quality "feeling", then you must have interests and interpersonal relationships, and you must also ensure that this kind of interests continues to appreciate until the other party cannot live without you, then this kind of "love" can last for a long time.

2. You must be able to accept the other party’s bottom line of extramarital affair!

The bottom line is almost the bottom line for almost everyone who can only accept being lovers, not husband and wife! The bottom line of

is:

①. You cannot interfere in her real life. You must allow him to love you while also loving the original wife. You will not interfere in your own daily life. At least you must be able to avoid causing trouble for the other party.

②. You must be able to treat him as always, express less opinions in daily life, and nod more and say "yes", because you are not a couple, because only husband and wife cannot quarrel, and lovers need perfection (you must remember this); and that is, when he needs you the most, you must appear, when he needs help, you must reach out, and there must be no complaints about all of this. These terms above

seem simple, right? But if you think about it carefully, if you can do it, it is not a lover, but a saint.

3. You have to ask yourself, how long can you last without regrets or seeking rewards in this "feeling"?

Of course, I know that as soon as this problem arises, those who have just entered this kind of "feeling" will get hot and say, "As long as he lives well, I am willing to do anything"!

But at this time I had to pour a basin of cold water to the person who said this sentence; I also know that maybe he might be sincere when he said this sentence, but people are all greedy and possessive, so they will be tired after giving without reward for a long time. At that time, he may have the will to give, but he will not have motivation!

So, if you want to ask how long can an extramarital affair last?

Then I can only tell you: "When this relationship is faded, how long can you still pay without desires, then how long can this relationship last? It will not be permanent anyway."

To sum up, if you have to make an estimate for Mr. Zhou's relationship, then I guess it is almost impossible to get along with it. Its direction is an ending that cannot be achieved...

Of course, this is only my personal opinion. As for what Mr. Zhou should do, it is personal freedom, and others are not qualified to control it.

Finally, I want to say to my friends through the story of Mr. Zhou: "You must understand that if a person really loves you, then he or she will not tolerate you being wronged or hurt you, so he or she will definitely not interfere in your marriage life; if you answer it, then he or she or she will not love, but selfishness.