The ancients said that marriage is a major event in life. When everyone talks about marriage, they must think twice before doing it. Otherwise, it is easy to make mistakes and bring eternal regrets, and the gains will not be worth the loss.
This sentence from the ancients is not difficult to understand. It is really a rigorous and thoughtful thing to talk about marriage. It’s not like going to the market to buy vegetables, you can buy them because of the cheap price.
can find a partner to get married, but this cannot be done. You cannot be together because the other party is rich or powerful. Instead, you must have a good impression from the bottom of your heart and feel that it is real and lasting, not on a whim.
In addition to clearly knowing the love in one's heart and the other's love, men also need to understand these two issues of women. Otherwise, it is very easy to suffer losses or live a mess after marriage.
1 [need to know the family situation of a woman]
We all know that men should get married when they are old, women should get married when they are old. It seems to be a marriage between a man and a woman, but in fact it is the marriage connection between the two families behind this man and a woman.
For this reason, when a man gets married, he must have a thorough understanding of the family situation of his future wife. Including but not limited to the character of their parents, their relationship with brothers and sisters and their relatives.
If their parents are both sinister and cunning in dealing with people, especially those who are petty and like to take advantage of others, and become in-laws with such a family, the future life will be difficult.
After all, once two people become husband and wife, their contacts with the woman’s parents will become closer, and they are indispensable for visiting each other during festivals.
If parents are not upright, they will find it difficult to satisfy their greed and will easily be called a bad crime by them. No matter how you give gifts, they will feel it for granted and will not be grateful.
A decent parent will not regard marrying a daughter as "selling" her daughter, and the bride price will be of interest and can stop at the right time. He will not speak loudly and will also be respectful and treat guests with respect and respect.
Some women don’t get along well with their brothers and sisters. If this is the case, if you have difficulties in the future, they may not be able to lend a helping hand in time.
Therefore, before talking about marriage, men must understand the other party’s family situation clearly. They can learn from their neighbors, or through observation, and they cannot be too hasty.
2 [need to understand the woman’s financial situation]
When my cousin married his cousin’s wife, he did not listen to his parents’ opinions. He first understood the woman’s financial situation, and then married him blindly. After marriage, I found out that my cousin's wife was in debt and every time my cousin helped her repay it, which made the family's expenses not enough.
This is a typical consequence of not understanding the woman's financial situation clearly. The lessons of money are so unforgettable.
If you don’t understand the woman’s financial situation clearly, both parties will have a big fight over this matter after marriage.
As a man, you can take the initiative to ask women about this topic. For example, you can ask her if she has debts, what is the amount, whether she has the ability to repay it alone, etc.
No matter what, it is best to have a bottom line before this. You can be mentally prepared in advance or take various aid measures in advance, so as not to be in a hurry.
After all, nowadays, most people will have more or less debts. Because more and more people like to use future money, use it first and then pay it back, reducing the burden.
If you do not understand the situation in advance and find out later, then the two parties will easily have differences and disputes, and even one party will say that the other party deliberately conceals it, which will make the difficulty of solving the problem more difficult.
Perhaps some people will say that if it is a debt owed before marriage, it has nothing to do with men at all. That being said, you are now married and your wife is in debt. Can husbands stand by and watch?
But if you made it clear in advance, you might be able to make plans earlier and use a portion of your income to fill the gap.
If you don’t say it all the time, and just secretly use part of the deposit to repay it, if you are discovered one day, there will inevitably be disputes.
Therefore, before talking about marriage, it is best for both men and women to discuss topics about their own economic situation and to understand them in advance so that they can understand them. This is also a communication between hearts.
No matter what, when a man gets married, he must understand these two things about women, otherwise he will easily suffer losses;
1, understand the woman's family situation;
2, understand the woman's financial situation.
Marriage is a sacred and thoughtful thing. Since you love each other so much, you should understand clearly. It is both for your own happiness and for this relationship.
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