Regarding the dilemma of middle-aged men, writer Zhang Ailing once said such a popular saying:
Middle-aged men often feel lonely because when they open their eyes, they are surrounded by people who have to rely on him, but there is no one he can rely on.
Women can cry occasionally, but men can’t. No matter how much bitterness and pain there are, they can only knock their teeth and swallow them into their stomachs.
In addition to making money and supporting a family, these things are more important for middle-aged men.
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will not be absent from children's growth, helping them grow up and become talents, so that they will not leave any regrets.
Born as a human being, everyone wants to "cultivate oneself, manage the family, govern the country, and pacify the world". Therefore, some people say that a person’s greatest success is to help his children become successful.
Indeed, no matter how great the success in your career is, it is limited to your own life. Educating children well and allowing them to "better than their ancestors" is the most important continuation of life.
For example, writer Lao She attaches great importance to children and always tries to accompany them, letting their daughter graffiti on his manuscript paper, read British picture books with their son, compile fairy tales together, listen to operas together, and comfort them when they fail the exam, etc.
This "strict and loving" look different from other fathers made the children very close to him and gradually developed independent and authentic personality traits. It not only satisfies Lao She's desire for the children to be "healthy and become an ordinary worker when they grow up", but also found a foothold in the fields of culture and education. It can be said that it far exceeded Lao She's expectations.
Want your son to become a dragon and your daughter to become a phoenix is the wish of parents all over the world, but too many people either encourage the seedlings to grow or let it go. Under high pressure, things often go against your wishes, and regardless of your concern, the results are often not satisfactory.
A truly smart person who knows how to maintain a good parent-child relationship is the starting point of all education.
Take time to accompany your children to do something "useless". As you get along little by little, you subtly impart your values and methodology of being a person, learning, career and home to your children, so that your words and deeds can become role models for children to imitate, learn and refer to. This kind of "unabandoned" companionship will become an inexhaustible source of motivation for children.
As mentioned in "University ": "Therefore, a gentleman does not become a monk and becomes a teaching in the country. Filial piety is to serve the king; brotherhood is to serve the boss; kindness is to make the people."
means: a well-educated person receives education in governing the country at home: filial piety to his parents can be used to serve the monarch, respect for his brother can be used to serve the officials, and loving his children can be used to rule the people.
When a middle-aged man begins to take time and energy to raise his children and become a guide and witness in their adult development process, he leaves the best way for his second half of his life: when children become self-reliant, parents are the real "one and all".
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Only by not giving up on self-growth and being brave enough to accept new things can you spend the rest of your life with confidence.
Middle-aged man, facing fierce workplace competition, is like sailing against the current, if he does not advance, he will retreat.
I want to lie on the previous credit book once and for all, it is simply self-deception.
The development of any career requires the change and upgrading of "the future waves push the previous waves". Yesterday's glory has become a past, and every "today" is a new beginning.
No unit can "raise idle people". If the heroes of the past cannot adapt to the present, they are the people who should be eliminated in everyone's eyes.
Middle-aged man, even if he has "successfully achieved fame", cannot stop learning. Even if he encounters setbacks again and again, he cannot give up his own growth. Only in this way can he see the most beautiful scenery in the deepest despair and be proudly independent in the worst environment.
Northern Song Dynasty Great writer Su Shi , not only is he very talented, but he is also a politician who advocates "people-oriented and considers the people."
However, he opposed sudden changes, advocated gradual changes, and advocated stable reforms, which was contrary to the radical reform faction headed by Wang Anshi and was repeatedly demoted for this reason.
However, Su Shi did not care too much. No matter where he was demoted, he actively adapted. On the one hand, he settled his life well, and on the other hand, he still upholds the concept of "serving one official and benefiting the people" to drive local economic and social development. When
was demoted to Huangzhou, facing the dilemma of the family having a meal of worry, Su Shi happily accepted the help of his friends. On the wasteland of " Dongpo ", he wore straw shoes, wore a hat on his head, held the plow and rake in his hands, and worked tirelessly. Not only did he settle the family's food and clothing, but he also settled the heart of "picking up all the cold branches and not willing to live", completing the transformation from "literati" Su Shi to the farmer " Su Dongpo ". When he was demoted to Danzhou, Hainan, facing the barbaric and backwardness here, he vigorously developed education, established a "drill hall" for teaching, taught his own teaching, and cultivated the first juren of Danzhou , Jiang Tangzuo, and the first Jinshi Fu Qu. Danzhou culture has been around for a long time since then, and the customs of the people have moved from barbarism to civilization, and agricultural production and handicraft production have also gradually developed.
These "performances" that are still talked about by people today. If Su Shi had not given up on self-growth and never gave up on learning, perhaps everything would have been just a sigh.
When a middle-aged man begins to grow up, he no longer complains about the injustice of the world and no longer feels about the ruthlessness of time. With a "sight to the day" attitude, he strives to depict his own beautiful tomorrow.
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Conclusion:
In the dictionary of middle-aged men, the word "easy" cannot be found, and they cannot easily say "giving up".
Make money well is a daily necessity. In addition, accompanying your children to grow up and not giving up on self-growth is the best investment in the rest of your life.
Only in this way can we make a messy life, see hope, see the future, get what we want, and bloom wonderfully.
Author: It’s as light as the wind and light as the clouds.
Your happiness, my blessings.
pictures are from the Internet.
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