Introduction:
As the saying goes, "Young couples come with old age." However, in real life, there are many couples who cannot get what they wish. As they walk, they part ways due to various reasons.
What about the remaining one? I have to face a new journey of finding a new partner.
After being single in his later years, many people will try to remarry, and it is very common for elderly people to remarry now. This "love" in the elderly may not be as sweet and greasy as when they were young, but it also makes many people addicted to it.
However, no matter how good the elderly half-way couple is, there will always be many problems, because they are elderly people who have experienced more than half of their lives, have mature family structures, and their complex family relationships. These factors will greatly affect the quality of remarriage in their later years.
The single old man Chen, who is 67 years old this year, cried like this:
"The elderly remarried, the purpose is not simple and unreliable. After I retired, I remarried twice and realized that women are all the same virtues!"
So, why did Old Man Chen say that? How did he live in his later years of remarriage? Let’s listen to the story of Old Man Chen’s remarriage in his later years together!
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I am Old Man Chen, 67 years old this year, and a retired employee of a factory.
My wife and I went through the 35 springs and Autumn in our lives through ups and downs, but in the year I retired, she filed for divorce to me.
She said, "Living with me is really meaningless." Our marriage is like a stagnant pool. If this continues, we will be exhausted to death!"
Now, we are all retired, so we might as well let each other go and find new happiness!
02
I agree with what my wife said.
Indeed, we are like two parallel lines that never intersect, and it is difficult to have intersection.
When I was young, I kept quarreling and conflicting, and even fought many times. I slowly endured until I was 40 or 50 years old. I stopped making noises anymore, but I found that the two had already had different dreams in the same bed and had no common language, and sometimes I could not say five words to each other a day.
We all know this and this scene, but no one wants to break the last layer of paper.
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Now, since my wife has proposed it, I also think that divorce may be the best choice for us at this time!
so I went through the divorce procedures with my wife.
two houses, one for each of us; each of our property is divided into half, so it can be considered as the two clearances from now on.
Just like that, I just retired and became a single widowed old man!
04
As soon as the news of my divorce came out, some old colleagues from the past were busy helping me arrange and introduce partners. There were single women as divorced as me, and widows with dead husbands. However, I was still immersed in the loss and despair of the previous marriage, and I had no intention of going to such a muddy water again.
colleague Lao Qi advised me:
"I said Lao Chen, you can't do this! You are only 60 years old, are you planning to die alone from now on? With your conditions like you, a single man who is not old and has a retirement salary, is very popular in the marriage and love market!
You have to seize this golden age. After this village, there will be no store. Don’t wait until you are old and no one wants it. It will be too late to regret it when you regret it!” ”Han Qi’s advice, like a good medicine for soberness, has rekindled my hope for my marriage.
05
Just like that, under the help of Lao Qi, I met one of his distant faces.
His distant cousin is called Awen, six years younger than me, and his wife died in a car accident two years ago.
To be honest, when Lao Qi first introduced me, I was very shy in my heart, because in my understanding, I think that a woman who dies her husband is unlucky and is a husband.
When I told Lao Qi about this concern in my heart, Lao Qi scolded me and said that I am old and there are still many statements. Why do I pay so much attention to it? As long as the two of them are in love with each other!
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Just like that, Awen and I started dating.
Awen is a gentle woman, a good wife and mother type. She always speaks softly, never speaks loudly, and will not blame me, but will use a negotiated tone in everything, giving me a feeling of being respected and valued. This is an experience I have never had with my ex-wife.
Also, Awen is very good at cooking and moves very quickly. She washed a lot of vegetables and started to stir-fry in the pot after a while. From time to time, an attractive fragrance wafted out from the kitchen. Soon, a large table of hearty food arrived on the table.
People often say, "If you want to grasp a man's heart, you have to grasp a man's stomach." Every time I eat delicious food Awen cooks, I feel that my heart is also hooked away by her.
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soon, I confirmed my relationship with Awen. Half a year later, we went to the Civil Affairs Bureau to get a marriage certificate!
Since I got married to Awen, I have been living my own little life leisurely, going out for a walk, playing chess, and fishing with a large group of old friends every day. As for Awen, she is doing housework at home, and is careful to make three meals a day for both of us in the firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea.
One day, Awen asked her to keep my salary card, saying that she would buy some vegetables, meat, fish, and some daily necessities every day. She asked me for money every day, which was very troublesome, and it was better to manage it directly, and it was convenient for her to use it.
I have no comment on Awen’s request, yes! Since they are a couple, they should trust each other. My money is her money, so it doesn’t matter who cares about it.
08
However, I still thought it too naively.
One day, I suddenly received a call from the bank. The staff told me that my bank card had several large expenses recently. If it weren't for my own operation, I would recommend that I take my ID card and bank card to the bank counter tomorrow to check it.
The next day, I came to the bank in a hurry. When I checked the balance, I was stunned: The 200,000 yuan in my bank card has been transferred away in several transactions in the past two months! At that moment, I was so angry that I came back and asked Awen what was going on.
09
5 Awen cried and told me the truth:
said that her wife owed many debts to others before her death. Now that her wife is dead, even if these debts are on her head, she still said aggrievedly that she has no choice, otherwise those creditors will force her to death! I hope I can forgive her and give her a chance to be a new person.
At this time, I was completely in a state of no mood to listen to her telling other things. How could I pay the 200,000 I only care about?
Finally, she said shamelessly: "Don't worry, I will definitely give you back in the future!"
10
For such a woman who is inconsistent with words and deeds and is very scheming, I can only be speechless!
so I asked a lawyer to consult, and the lawyer asked me to sue Awen in the court. I knew that our marriage relationship could not continue.
After Awen and I divorced, we went to the court to file a civil lawsuit with Awen. In the end, the court made a decision, limiting that Awen must pay off my 200,000 yuan in installments within two years, otherwise we will face jail!
Awen also nodded in agreement. Finally, we signed and pressed our handprints on the black and white words. At this point, the matter was finally settled.
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Three or four years after my divorce from Awen, my relationship was in a "window".
Last year, I browsed news on my mobile phone, but accidentally clicked on a single dating website. By chance, I met Xiaomei in the same city.
After chatting, I found out that Xiaomei is ten years younger than me and is also single. She divorced her husband due to her disagreement in personality. She now has a son who just got married last year.
Through the virtual network, I felt that Xiaomei was a passionate and romantic person. When chatting with her, my whole body and mind felt comfortable. The depression and dullness that had been accumulating in my heart before seemed to be swept away in an instant!
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After chatting online for three months, I felt that I fell in love with Xiaomei. I didn’t want to have a tea every day and didn’t have a good meal. I just wanted to meet her as soon as possible. When I made this request, Xiaomei agreed readily.
A week later, Xiaomei and I met!
When I first met Xiaomei, I was really deeply attracted by her. Although Xiaomei is in her fifties, she still looks charming, with a smooth and white face, without any wrinkles, and a slender and graceful figure. She has no signs of weight and bloatedness in middle-aged and elderly people.
After seeing Xiaomei's appearance, I believe that she must be a person who loves life and is very self-disciplined in life, otherwise, her appearance would not have been maintained so well.
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Not long after we met Xiaomei, we got the certificate.
I believe that this time we are in love in two directions, and Xiaomei is the soul mate I am looking for.
However, I was still blinded by love! What I didn't expect was that since I got married, Xiaomei always asked me for money. At first, it was hundreds, then thousands, and finally tens of thousands. Every time she went out to buy clothes, she was all kinds of famous brands, saying that wearing it like this was for me to save face.
and cosmetics. A bottle of 200ml toner costs three to four thousand. I asked her, "Is there any fairy water you apply on your face?" Every time, she retorted unhappily: "You are ignorant. This water is very effective when used on your face!"
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clothes and cosmetics, although it seems very expensive to me, it is not bought every day after all, and I can barely accept it.
But in terms of eating, Xiaomei's luxury amazes me.
Xiaomei can’t cook, so we either order takeout or eat in restaurants outside for every meal. It can be said that basically every meal is a big meal, either crayfish or hot pot, or some famous dishes, each meal costs at least one or two hundred. In this way, just eating is about tens of thousands.
Every time I watch the money in my bank card flow away like flowing water, my heart hurts so much that it can't be suppressed.
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In a blink of an eye, half a year passed quickly!
I calculated carefully. In the past six months when Xiaomei and I were together, we have consumed nearly 150,000 in total. When I told Xiaomei about this amazing amount, she disdained and said in a mocking tone:
"What's the matter? If you can't afford your wife, don't marry me!"
At that moment, I was completely desperate. I knew clearly that I really couldn't change her cognition and thoughts.
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so I decisively filed for divorce to Xiaomei.
Because I know that this is a "bottomless pit". Her desire is like an invisible black hole, constantly sucking away the limited money on me and the trust in her.
Marriage without love and only interests is absolutely impossible to go long.
The only thing I can do is to stop the loss in time, exit in time, and give myself peace and dignity!
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After retirement, my two marriages ended like this!
Although it sounds ridiculous and bitter, it is indeed my real experience.
Maybe it was because I had a bad fate. When I met two such women, my kind and simple heart was destroyed and tortured again and again. I couldn't help but sigh: It turns out that women have this kind of virtue!
But I believe that there must be good women in this world, but my wisdom is too shallow and my blessings are not enough, so I have not encountered it!
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