In the context of fast-paced life, it seems that many people have lost the patience of "sitting together for a lifetime".
Someone is advocating: "Marriage should be straightforward, divorce should be fast."
The most terrifying thing is that some people don't take love seriously, changing a partner is as simple as changing clothes.
people will grow old. The consequence of being carefree when you were young is "lost and helpless".
From lover to husband and wife, from husband and wife to husband and wife, this is the path that love should take.
suggests that you create "three commonalities" and lock in the happiness of your life.
01
Actively pay attention to the other party and experience the "change".
During the process of getting along, many people will think that the people closest to them should see everything, which can be self-evident.
The fact is exactly the opposite, the people around you "ignore" you. You think the other party knows everything, which is overestimating the position in others' hearts, which is very touching.
The correct way to do it is to make an agreement with each other and actively pay attention to each other's every move. If you have any questions, ask them in time and don't "guess".
No one is the roundworm in his belly. How can we truly understand it? You were in pain, but you were hiding it and trying hard to squeeze out a smile. The people around you thought you were very happy.
" People in the World " has a plot where Zheng Juan met Zhou Bingkun. Their love was not favored at first, but he persisted.
Zheng Juan is a very unfortunate woman. She was abandoned since she was a child and then trampled on her. Without getting married, she had children.
When he was desperate, Zhou Bingkun came to his side and gave him care.
As a woman, she is definitely unwilling to give up the opportunity to be loved, but she has to worry about whether her own experience will be understood? Facts have proved that Zheng Juan’s approach was right - she told Zhou Bingkun about her life experience.
As the saying goes, "Egic words are ahead."
shows off his ugliness. As for what to do next, let the other party make a decision. Zhou Bingkun thought about it before and afterwards, accepted Zheng Juan, so love really began.
First of all, paying attention to the other person is to love the other person better and make love accurate. For example, the other party’s belt is very old, and you will take the initiative to buy a new one, which will make the other party very moved. When the other party strongly requests to replace it, you only buy it, and the effect will not be obvious.
Then, confess everything about yourself frankly, attract the other party's attention, and avoid all kinds of suspicion and misunderstandings . Under any circumstances, avoid being "restless" and hindsight.
is best. Both of them can do the "first line", pay more attention to the other party, and change their words and deeds according to the other party's changes. This is the "empathy" needed.
02
together, and give up "pretentiousness".
Who is not a "child without an umbrella" in today's life?
However, some couples or lovers don’t think so. They think that if they find a partner, they can find a place to shelter from the wind and rain, and they can be relaxed for the rest of their lives.
Once an unexpected situation occurs, the people around you no longer cover themselves like big trees, and immediately shake the foundation of love and start the "escape plan".
The ancients said: "Honey and wife are birds in the same forest, and they fly away when the disaster comes."
Why would anyone fly away? The fundamental reason is that one party is "unwilling to bear pressure and consequences." Or there is a glass heart, and if you use a little force, it will break the ground.
writer Taleb pointed out in his book "Anti-fragility" that a truly powerful person is like Hydra . If he loses one head, he will grow two heads, and he will become more courageous as he sets down.
As a couple, you should think this way. If you go through a setback, it means that you have survived a test and your marriage will be stronger.
As lovers, I experienced the feeling of wind and rain, and got closer to each other, and I was determined to be together and never be separated again.
of the Northern Song Dynasty Why do Su Shi love Chaoyun ? It is fundamentally "together anti-fragility".
Chaoyun was a singer with no social status. It was her lifelong luck to meet Su Shi. In the process of being demoted by Su Shi, she felt that it was not hard at all. Compared with her past life, what is it?
Su Shi also knew clearly that in a difficult life, what can he do if he doesn’t be an optimistic person? If you live a life crying, there is really no day to make a comeback.
In Huizhou , Su Shi wrote an oath - "The beauty meets for a thousand years."
Don’t think of love as a romantic firework. Whose life is full of mud and sand. You are not strong, and I am not strong. Who will be strong for you?
Those couples or lovers who are willing to endure hardships together, even if their monthly income is only 1,000, can still make a certain amount of savings, giving you a lot of hope in life.
03
Find the way to make money and bear the "pain and happiness".
Remember, love cannot be eaten as a food, it requires money as a "cushion".
Let’s talk about Zheng Juan and Zhou Bingkun in "The World". When they are together, they face the problem of "poverty". What's even more terrifying is that Zhou Bingkun was locked up because of his mistake.
A woman with a child, only money can change her destiny. Therefore, Zheng Juan became a businessman, and since she started a small business, she became a big boss step by step. Against the backdrop of making money, they ushered in the final victory.
Whether it is studying, working, trading, or partnership, the fundamental goal is to make money.
Only with money can love be enjoyable.
When in love, if two people consider the expenses of getting married and getting married, it means that love is about to fall; if a couple finds their way together, they will definitely cheer, even if the road is difficult to walk, they are not afraid.
It is very vulgar for two people to talk about money, but if you talk a few more times, it becomes "communication without stress".
If you think about it carefully, you will find that many loves start with "a popsicle, a box of lunch, and a train ticket" - spend a little money and buy happiness.
Later on, love is a house and car, a child, and poetry and a distance - spend a lot of money and positioning the future.
04
0 You have invested so much, but the other party doesn’t appreciate it? It’s because we don’t pay enough attention to each other and we don’t understand your “goodness”.
You are always wronged and feel that life cannot continue. They are too fragile. Everyone wants to rely on each other, but they cannot rely on each other. If two people have powerful wings together, it is "will be a pair of wings in the sky."
Your life is bad, that is not enough money. Planning to make money and save money, love will have confidence.
The commonalities in emotions are not necessarily innate, but are often created together.
Love someone, you can make something out of nothing; love together is the same.
Author: Common people eat coarse food.
Follow my text and enter your heart.
The pictures in the article are from the Internet.
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-