A man can't run out of home every few days, and then he will pick his nose and look at you as soon as he gets home. Then let’s talk about it today, why don’t men like to go home?
When faced with this situation, many of our sisters often make the point wrong, and they especially emphasized to men: If you want to enter the house, you will come back after get off work. You must finish the meal with me and the child in the evening.
But you haven't thought about it in depth. Since he doesn't like to go home, it means that even after he finishes these superficial work, he doesn't know what he does when he stays at home.
Speaking of this, I would like to ask everyone, Have you ever had such an experience when you were a child? One night, your parents have a very important thing to solve. They are not at home at night, so what do you entrust to you to, my second aunt and uncle's house.
Then your second aunt prepared dinner for you very enthusiastically, making the bed you slept neatly and fragrant, but when you lie in that quilt, do you feel very strange? You wish you could go back to your cozy little room now.
So it is not a house, it is not how good the material conditions are. Home should be a place where a person's body relaxes and his mind belongs.
I have many male students who describe it to me. When the relationship with his wife gets worse and worse, he spends a long time doing psychological construction every time he goes home. He feels that stepping into that house is fearful for him, and this family is strange and alienated to him.
This actually explains the deep reason why many of us men are reluctant to go home after marriage. So if you are facing this situation, Teacher Hu hopes you can ask yourself two questions.
The first question is, how are your close contacts in recent times?
Is your frequency high? Are you investing heavily in this process? I found that many sisters are like this. After giving birth, they feel physically lacking the energy, and then mentally because all their time is spent on the child, you are not very interested in this matter.
To put it bluntly, many people choose to sleep in separate rooms. is basically gone in close contact, so what kind of consequences will this have? You are strangers to the man.
Because what is the most basic principle of husband and wife relationship? Keep physical interactions regularly. If the quality of your couple's life is very poor now, this is also a very important reason why men are unwilling to come back.
What is the second question you need to think about? What is the quality of your communication now?
If you think about it, what is the content you said to him every time a man returns home? Is all those trivial matters in life, and they mainly focus on complaining and accusing?
It is a lot of negative emotions in what you say : You don’t know your son, and his academic performance has been not good recently, so the head teacher called me again. Today I went to that supermarket and wanted to grab that offer but failed to get it. I was really annoyed with S. Today I was in the company and had a quarrel with my colleagues again.
What do men feel when you output these emotions? I just feel very nervous. When I get home, I should be relaxed and at ease.
But if you keep putting pressure on me, he will feel that getting along with you is stressful and he will not relax. These two parts are problems that many of us need to reflect deeply on. In other words, if you find the solution to these two problems, the frequency of men going home will definitely increase.
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