will not believe it if you have mature judgment. Lies are commonplace, so let credibility become a rare thing. Making judgments hastily often leads to embarrassment and consequently, they are unable to recover. But you should not openly question the honesty of others. If you regard someone as a liar, or claim that he was deceived, you add a little more insult to his pain. There are even greater risks in doing so: distrust others will lead to suspicion of your honesty. The liar suffers from a double torment: he neither can believe others nor be believed by others. Cautious listeners do not rush to make judgments. As one writer advises us: Even love should not be in a hurry. People can lie or act, and the latter type of deception is even more harmful.
"The new official takes office for three fires, and retires to the old official with one character; be cautious and can catch the cicadas of a thousand years, and be careful to sail the ship for thousands of years."
Nothing can strike a person's self-confidence better than frustration. The feeling of frustration is that you feel that "I can do it" and the fact that "I can't do it" will cause a sense of blow to yourself over time.
There is a term in psychology called learnt helplessness. This means that if you fail frequently in doing things, it will lead to a cycle of failure, and things will only get worse and worse.
So keeping others failing is enough to make him doubt his life; at the same time, reducing the number of failures he fails, so that he can improve his self-confidence and efficiency in his work and life.
Frustration in life and work comes from trusting others. This world is originally woven by lies. If you don’t have some wisdom, it is inevitable to suffer losses. It is wrong to not believe anything about anyone.
"If you see through or not, you are good friends." What we need to do is to distinguish the authenticity of their words. In order to lie, liars only talk about what you need to listen to and like to listen to, and do not care about the authenticity of what you say. We can just obtain valuable information from it, and there is no need to delve into their words. If you want to know if it is a scam, you can indirectly or logically reason, compare common sense, or even turn to due diligence. Of course, it also depends entirely on intuition. In fact, sometimes intuition cannot be held back. Either being deceived or missing out on opportunities.
If a person always doesn’t believe in anyone, then he is a complete liar; if a person always believes in others, then he is also a trustworthy person. Therefore, liars who lie suffer double suffering: they neither believe others nor believe others. In fact, they also want to be trusted and just want their fraud to not be seen through. Therefore, when we meet such a person, don’t tell the truth and let them live in the lies they create, so as to avoid malicious intentions towards you because of embarrassment.
"People can lie or act lies, and the latter kind of deception is even more harmful." Most people can see through sweet words, but they are unsuspecting to be attentive. The liar will not only use his appearance to confuse you, but will also take real actions to impress you. An elderly couple spent two years disguising themselves as harmless and charitable living Bodhisattvas, and then suddenly commit fraud on the people around them, running away with a 10 million yuan.
So, we should not trust anyone easily, but we should not be smart enough to expose the lies of the liar.
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