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As the saying goes: It is easy to fall in love with each other and is difficult to stay together.
If you want to start a relationship, it is very easy to be with the person you like. You just need to work hard and express your love with practical actions. Generally speaking, it will get the other party’s response.
What is rare is that two people can stay in their original state for a long time, and their love for each other increases instead of decreasing.
The ideal love for most people is to be able to stay with the person they like for a lifetime, taste the ups and downs of life together, and face it together no matter what setbacks and challenges they encounter, and be able to withstand the temptations of the outside world and remain unchanged.
But in real life, most people’s feelings are the longer they are, the less they feel. The longer they are together, the less they don’t know how to cherish them. The more they pay, the less they get, and the more disappointed they are.
often hear some women sighing, men are the same: they are sincere and enthusiastic when pursuing you. Once you get it, the freshness will be dispersed, and you will no longer take care of your feelings and cherish your efforts.
Many women are puzzled by this and think that they have not paid enough and have not cared for and loved men enough.
Therefore, in order to retain a man's heart, many women either change their external appearance to attract men's interests, or they humbly please, begging for peace, and make themselves humble into the dust.
But in the eyes of men, the easier it is to get something, the less valuable it is. Men like to chase the process. The more difficult it is for you, the more effort he will spend.
So you must understand that the best way to penetrate into a man’s heart is often not to lower your principles and bottom line, nor to take the initiative to cater to it, but to “delay satisfaction.”
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What is "delaying satisfaction"? Simply put, don’t let men taste the sweetness too early, and don’t be easily deceived by a few sweet words from men.
If you have too low requirements for him and are always easily satisfied, men will leave you behind and put your time and energy on others.
For example, he just did a few things for you. Occasionally, he would be moved to tears, which would make him feel that you are worthless and too lazy to treat you sincerely.
Therefore, in the process of pursuing you, you must let him see your value, and at the same time, you must also let him understand that if you want to get your love, he must first show enough sincerity.
If his love for you is just a whim, just to seek a sense of freshness, or to see you different from others, it arouses his desire to conquer, once you get it, it becomes cold and alienated, and you must learn to reject and stay away fiercely.
Furthermore, in the process of getting along with him, you must make him clear about your principles and bottom line, and do not make concessions just because of a soft heart or impulse.
You should know that once you take a step back, you will only retreat more and more, and the grievances and injuries you will suffer will only accumulate more and more. So no matter what, don’t downgrade yourself and please me humbly.
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Li Xiaoyi once said this:
"All love is based on appreciation. It is hard to imagine that someone will fall in love with someone he despises. The person who truly loves you never needs to please me deliberately, even if he is handsome, a master of the universe, rich enough to compete with the country, and power in the world."
deeply agrees. Love comes from appreciation. If you want to be loved and cherished, you can never maintain it by relying solely on humility to please.
As the saying goes, love yourself first. If you love someone, you need to keep taking the initiative and constantly paying to get a little response from the other party. Then such love will not have a result.
You must learn to grasp the degree and understand the right amount of effort. You cannot give everything you best just because you recognize the other person.
You should know that love cannot be too full. If you want to grasp a man's heart and occupy an irreplaceable position in his heart, your best bargaining chip is to "delay satisfaction" and release your love step by step.
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Author: March.
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A long-termist who loves words, reason and sensibility coexist. If you want this article, please move your rich little hand and like it, leave your opinions in the comment section, and look forward to having more communication with you~
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