Text丨Love words I am here at half past ten, waiting for the wind and waiting for you. In the eyes of most people, women should obey their parents when they are at home, and should serve their in-laws after getting married. It seems that a woman's life is always living for others.

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I am here, waiting for the wind, and waiting for you.

In the eyes of most people, women should obey their parents when they are at home, and should serve their in-laws after getting married. It seems that a woman's life is always living for others.

To be honest, as a woman, I hate this old-fashioned thought. Born as a human being, why should women live under the shadow of others for the rest of their lives?

But there is a gap between ideals and reality after all. Women desire freedom, but they cannot completely live out of the world.

So, before the age of forty, women can contribute to their filial piety. But after the age of forty, you must live for yourself.

"Save money" is the best choice for women after they are forty.

Whether it is mental or physical freedom, it cannot be separated from the support of money.

So, listeners may think it is too realistic. But life is such a reality. After all, women after forty can no longer be as unrestrained as girls in their twenties.

Aunt Changqiu (pseudonym) was the first person who enjoyed a wealthy life in his parents' generation. Because she married a good husband, she was a rich wife who was not touched by others' eyes.

I thought so before I came into contact with her, and even envied her good fortune.

But two years ago, under the leadership of her parents, when she went to visit her house, she realized that she was not as uncontested as others said.

On the contrary, she, who is almost 40 years old, does not stay at home like other elders, but does her own career.

At that time, the mother also said: "We sisters are the best for you. Not only are your children already married, but there is also a husband who cares about you."

Faced with her mother's envy, Aunt Changqiu did not say much, but introduced her business to her mother with great enthusiasm.

When facing me, she held my hand and said, "Jingjing, girls must be independent and not rely on others to live."

At that time, I didn't understand why Aunt Changqiu, who had no worries about food and clothing, would say such meaningful words to me.

But the day before yesterday, my mother suddenly told me: "Aunt Changqiu divorced at the beginning of last year." I can't believe that the model couple who once envied others chose to separate at this critical moment.

When I think of my former aunt Changqiu, who relied on her husband to live and chose to divorce at her forties, wouldn’t it be embarrassing for me?

After all, she can ensure her own life without a stable income without her husband’s life supply.

The facts prove that I was thinking too much. After the divorce, Aunt Changqiu not only did not become embarrassed because of her life, but instead immersed in the fun of making money and saving money every day.

Perhaps it was because of a premonition, or perhaps it was because of Aunt Changqiu's independence in her bones that she did not become panic and uneasy after leaving the man.

Mother said: "She originally thought that Aunt Changqiu would be in a slump because of this, but now it seems that her long-term preparation has diluted the crisis a lot."

Yes, when everyone thought that her leaving a man would reduce her quality of life, she proved to us that her wealth and food and clothing are always given by herself, not by men.

According to her mother, "Aunt Changqiu is now a shareholder who valued the industry at the time and is busy on business trips every day."

Not only that, she also persuaded her mother to save money by herself. Women are not like men. The older they are, the more money they need.

Yes, women have been serving others since they were adults and contributed everything they had to their family without reservation.

But efforts may not necessarily pay off. Only strong financial support can give women the confidence to be themselves.

To be honest, mothers of the same age envy Aunt Changqiu's free and easy life at this time, but she can never be as free and easy as Aunt Changqiu.

Because different from Aunt Changqiu's idea is that every penny in her mother's hands is more willing to spend on her husband and children.

But as a woman, I agree with Aunt Changqiu's approach.Since the front half of your body is destined to be unable to be just yourself, you must live for yourself after you are forty.

Just imagine, when you get old, you can still live with money in the card, oil in the car, and occasionally chat and laugh with your old sisters. Wouldn't it be beautiful!

What's more, when you are old and lose your sex, men will not be able to respond to your requests as they used to. All you can rely on is yourself.

So, if you want to live a more comfortable life for a woman, you must develop the habit of saving money after you are forty.

You must understand that the older a woman is, the more she desires freedom, and money is your only confidence in pursuing freedom.

Although, not every woman will have the same experience as Aunt Changqiu when she is forty. But facing the ever-changing surroundings, you can only be invincible by making preparations in advance.

Don’t think it’s unnecessary, and don’t think it’s a black human nature. When you really reach forty, you will find that you have to rely on yourself for whatever you want.

As the saying goes, eating people is short-speaking, but taking people with mercy. What you ask for is never as comfortable as you have.

So, age is not a problem, and unwilling to try is the cause. Be bold, "save money" will really make you more free at the age of 40.