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The relationship between people is like a bridge and a road. A bridge needs a road as a support point, and a bridge connection is required to not be broken. Only by being independent and supporting each other can interpersonal relationships become better and better.
A marriage will tie two families together.
Although the two families become in-laws, they must master the sense of proportion to the degree of "closeness". Caring for each other, not interfering with each other, and respecting each other.
A harmonious in-law relationship can have a positive impact on children, but it is easy to cause trouble, so how to get along with in-laws is a question worth discussing.
Cai Kangyong said: "The relationship between people exceeds that measure, which is called causing trouble."
Becoming a family is a kind of fate. Any stable relationship between cannot be separated from careful management.
If you don’t want to have a quarrel, you can’t help with some busyness. This is not distant, but foresight.
02. Marriage problems of in-laws, don’t help
Every family has a different lifestyle and will also encounter different problems.
Get along with each other, no matter how close you are, don’t interfere with each other’s family affairs. , especially, do not interfere with your family’s emotional problems and conflicts.
Some in-law couples have bad relationships. As a in-law, don’t advise the in-laws to divorce, let alone how to deal with emotional problems.
Guo Degang said: "Don't advise others to be kind without the suffering of others."
Don't help with the marriage problems of the in-laws. Many times you don't know the causes and consequences of the incident, nor do you experience the other person's life, and rashly point fingers in the face of their marriage problems.
If you give advice at will, you will not only not receive any thanks, but may instead cause new conflicts.
Everyone has a different understanding of marriage. Sometimes, giving too much advice can easily cause yourself to be in a dilemma and embarrassing situation.
If you kiss your in-laws, you will be two families, don’t worry about other people’s housework. Don’t help with the marriage problem of the in-laws, let him solve it himself.
03. Don’t use money, and help your son-in-law and daughter excessively
The relationship between parents and children actually needs to be drifting away. Only by learning to let go can children grow better.
However, after many children get married, their parents are worried and worried everywhere. I can’t stand my children, encountering little by little storm, and encountering little by little difficulties.
When children encounter difficulties, parents will use money to help them "solve" the problems, causing their children to stop growing.
Hongzhi Sangu said: "90% of family conflicts stem from the lack of sense of boundaries between parents. Moreover, excessive intervention by parents will deprive children of their children of opportunities to study and grow."
Children and grandchildren have their own blessings, and they can help for a while, but not for a lifetime. So don't use money and help your son-in-law and daughter excessively.
On the road of life, no matter how much you love your children, parents should learn to let go, let them learn to be independent and learn to become rich by themselves.
Moreover, excessive help to children can easily make children dependent on their parents and not be grateful. On the contrary, it is easy to cause conflicts and is not conducive to family building.
Children, learn to grow up yourself. It is the most important thing for parents to live their own life well.
After children get married, it means establishing a new family. Only with independent lifestyles and spaces are more conducive to family management.
04. Don’t interfere with the private affairs of your in-laws
In life, everyone has their own way of living, as well as their own privacy and secrets.
People get along with each other, no matter how close they are, they must learn to keep a distance and learn not to over-invest the other party’s privacy. Otherwise, it is easy to cause discomfort among others.
Don’t interfere with the private affairs of the in-laws, too enthusiastic is not a good thing.
When getting along with your in-laws, it is easy to lose your sense of proportion when you are too involved in your in-laws’ private affairs. It was an offense to him, and it also seemed that he was not well-educated.
Everyone has their own privacy, their own lifestyle and space.
Between in-laws, you must recognize your position and not ask too much about your in-laws’ private affairs. Digging into the bottom line will only put the in-laws in an embarrassing situation.
The most comfortable relationship between people is: don’t say what you shouldn’t say, think twice before saying what you should say. This is especially true when getting along with your in-laws.
When you encounter a family member who tells you about your private affairs, just listen and don’t over-examine it. At the same time, you must also keep your mouth and not pass it on.
05. Summary
On the road of life, when you get along with your in-laws, you need to keep a clear mind and grasp the sense of boundaries.
No matter how close the relationship is, you need to grasp the sense of proportion in your words and deeds.
Before becoming in-laws, the two families were strangers and did not know each other. If you get too close, it is easy to get estranged, which will have more or less impact on your children's marriage life.
becomes a rare fate. Don’t seek to share happiness and woe, but you have to live in harmony and cause less trouble. Letting the two families live in harmony is more conducive to the stability of the marriage of young couples.
is a course that people need to learn throughout their lives for dealing with interpersonal relationships.
In-law relationship is a special interpersonal relationship. When getting along, you need to be more cautious, careful in management, respect each other, and keep a proper sense in order to have a harmonious family and everything will be prosperous.
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Author: Xia Mo, a new emotional tutor, psychology scholar, a popular emotional writer on the entire network of over 1 billion, a happy woman manager, focusing on emotions, gender, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.
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