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"Don't marry two brothers" I believe many people have heard this sentence.
The reason is nothing more than the family of two brothers. Parents are inevitably favored by one and the other, and the phenomenon of bias and unfairness can occur from time to time. And then we must not only deal with the issue of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but also the conflicts between sister-in-law. Therefore, many girls will yell to never marry a family of two brothers before choosing a blind date.
But in life, there are still many families of two brothers, and it is impossible for them to not be able to marry a wife. Moreover, some boys are very good, and they can't stop them even if they get to the point of fate. But according to reality, women who marry into a family of two brothers often take advantage of the eldest, which is heartbreaking.
When marrying the eldest, the in-laws were still very young and could contribute money and effort
If it was a family of two brothers, the in-laws were still very young when they married the eldest. Moreover, the eldest daughter-in-law is the first daughter-in-law to marry in the family. The man’s parents have become more of a parent-in-law identity for the first time, which is fresh and is more precious to the first daughter-in-law.
The most important thing is that when the boss gets married, his parents-in-law are still young. He knows that he will marry his son in the future and has savings. So when the eldest daughter-in-law gets married, she will have everything. When the grandchildren are born, because they are the first grandchildren in the family, the older generation will be more favored and will receive more favors.
It can be said that when the boss gets married, his parents are strong and can help everyone more and contribute money and effort.
But when the second child gets married, the parents get older and their ability to make money has also decreased. Because I don’t have much savings to marry my eldest daughter-in-law, and I have limited help to the second child. The second child has to rely more on myself, which will be more difficult, so the second child’s wife will work harder.
The most important thing is that when the second wife came in, her parents-in-law was older and might have helped to raise the children of the old people. When the second child was born, the parents-in-law did not have the slightest and freshness. In addition, due to their physical reasons, they might not be able to help take care of the child. At that time, the second couple will have to earn money to support their families and take care of their children themselves, which will be more difficult for them.
The reputation of the old man is also good
In life, many families of two brothers are born when their parents are young, and their parents contribute money and efforts, but because at this time, their parents can still set up their own business, many outsiders cannot see the efforts of their parents to the old man.
When the second child gets married, the eldest child may have already gone out independently. And parents have to help take care of their children with their second child. When outsiders see it, they will feel that their parents take care of the second family's daily life and contribute money and efforts to the second family. But in fact, it may not be necessary for the second family to raise their parents.
But outsiders only discuss what they see themselves, so if you marry a family of two brothers, you may get any benefits and you can still gain a good reputation. The second family may have suffered a lot of grievances, but they have also taken advantage of them in the eyes of outsiders.
[Topic Discussion: Do you agree with this phenomenon? 】
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