The reader wrote to me and said:
After graduating from university, I have been working hard in other places. For a "half-half-baby" who is scattered in a foreign land, when I choose a marriage partner, I become a difficult household to find a marriage partner, because many girls politely retreat when they hear that I am a man from another place and have no house in the city of work.
When I was 29 years old, I met my current wife through a relative's introduction.
We were almost married in a flash. When we got married, I was 30 years old and my wife was 27 years old.
The biggest advantage of a wife: beauty.
Because my wife also works odd jobs in our hometown, after getting married, my wife followed me to the city where I work to live with me.
From getting married to now, our relationship is quite harmonious, but my mother told me on the phone: Your wife had a bad reputation before she got married. The roughly meaning is: My wife had talked to many partners before I got married. Among them, he had cohabitation with several of his exes and had a history of abortion.
In theory, I shouldn’t care about my wife’s past. But I feel really uncomfortable. This has led to my attitude towards my wife a little cold now.
want to ask: Should I mind this matter? Or maybe what should I do to keep myself from grudges, after all, my wife’s previous love history has seriously affected our relationship with each other. To be precise, I will invisibly develop indifference and disgust towards my wife.
Muzili Emotional analysis:
Why do girls live with boys during love? Is it really because of curiosity about that little thing between men and women? I don't think so. But during the relationship, the man made this request, and the girl also felt that she loved the boy very much, so she chose to fulfill her wish.
The purpose of girls is very clear: I hope they can date each other with heart and heart, and eventually get the result of marriage.
However, some girls will be a little sad: even if they are pregnant with the other person's child, men are unwilling to be responsible for it.
Your wife is just too unintentional during her relationship, or she meets bad people, which leads to her having those bad emotional experiences.
I believe she is very hurt and regretful about her past. But how can we erase what has happened?
Now, your wife has finally married a woman who is willing to marry her.
Put aside her past: 1) Her appearance satisfies you; 2) Your relationship is also very good.
So, you should manage this relationship well.
In fact, your wife is also very inferior and hurt, so you should not sprinkle salt on her wound.
can understand your loss at this moment, but her past cannot be washed away and can't go back.
Now, you live in a city where no one knows what she did in the past, and you should live your current life well.
What you need to do now: adjust your mentality and try not to use your wife’s past to punish your current happy life.
Many things do appear: it is easier said than done. Even so, you should try to make yourself open-minded.
here reminds all girls: Don’t think that cohabitation experience during love is nothing. If your experience during love is promiscuous, it will inevitably become a flaw in your marriage life. At least when choosing a marriage partner, don’t be too casual and hasty.
In this life, people not only need to make money and experience, but also need face. At any time, they must take good care of their bottom line and dignity and try not to leave stains on their lives.
(The picture is from the Internet, the picture is irrelevant)
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