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Zhang Yan is a famous filial son in our community. The neighborhood committee selects the top ten filial sons every year, and Zhang Yan is on the list and ranks first.
Zhang Yan and I got married, and I also liked his filial piety. I am paranoid that those who can be filial to their parents can also be filial to their wives' parents, and those who are filial are easy-going and have a gentle temper.
Zhang Yan's job is also good. In the system, there is a separate house and you don't have to live with your mother-in-law. The couple came to live their own life behind closed doors.
The mother-in-law is a retired worker, receives a monthly pension, is self-sufficient in life, and has medical insurance when she is sick, and has no burden on pension.
When I was preparing for pregnancy, Zhang Yan made a clear statement that he would not need his mother-in-law to serve the confinement period, nor would he have to help us take care of the children. He said that his mother-in-law lost her husband in her early years, and she worked hard as a mother and a father all her life. She finally survived until retirement and her son started a family and started a career. She should enjoy her own life in the future.
I can understand Zhang Yan's filial piety. My mother-in-law devoted all the time and energy to her first half of her life to work and her son. In the second half of her life, she has no constraints on her job and her son. It is also worthwhile to have money, leisure and conditions to enjoy her life. What's more, the elderly have no obligation to help their children take care of their children.
After retirement, my mother-in-law picked up her hobbies when she was young and joined an elderly model team. She lived a lively and colorful life.
I think life should be happy and harmonious in such a family. But, real life is like a swaying hammer, hitting me again and again.
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Daughter Niu Niu Niu has never asked my mother-in-law to take charge since she was born to kindergarten.
Fortunately, my mother's home is close. After my maternity leave, I sent my child to my mother's place at work and took her back after get off work. In this way, my mother was a free nanny for three years.
The mother-in-law saw her teammates in the model team taking her grandchildren to perform together. She envied other people's family happiness and wanted to take her granddaughter with her.
Niu Niu grew up with her grandmother since she was a child, and she got along very little with her grandmother, so she naturally didn't get along with her. When my mother-in-law asked Niu Niu if she would like to play with her on the big stage, Niu Niu shook her head like rattle , and she didn't want to.
Mother-in-law sighed and glanced at Zhang Yan with her eyes. Zhang Yanxin understood and used a set of Barbie dolls as bait to persuade Niu Niu to perform with her mother-in-law. Niu Niu couldn't resist the temptation and agreed, but asked her grandma to accompany her.
According to my mother-in-law’s request, I prepared the same parent-child clothing as Niu Niu. After washing and dressing neatly, Zhang Yan repeatedly told Niu Niu not to make her grandma angry, he set off.
When I was at work, I was always restless, worried that Niu Niu would not be able to adapt to the environment for the time being and would cry. Fortunately, with my mother accompanying her and grandma by her side, she should be able to feel more at ease.
Before lunch time was over, Zhang Yan called me and asked me to hurry to the performance venue in the suburbs as soon as possible, saying that my mother called my mother-in-law.
What's wrong with this?
My mother usually doesn’t like my mother-in-law and has complained to me. My mother-in-law is very old. She only wears makeup and walks on the show every day and buys clothes. She doesn't touch her ten fingers and can't even take care of her own daily life.
Zhang Yan even spoiled his mother-in-law. He couldn't bear to pay for his daughter to hire a nanny, but instead hired a nanny for a mother with healthy limbs and healthy body.
My mother feels sorry for my life is tight. Most of Zhang Yan’s salary is used to pay the nanny’s salary, and most of my salary is used to pay the mortgage. The remaining money is supported by our family of three, basically the moonlight clan.
Although my mother was dissatisfied, she just complained to me in private. Could it be that she and my mother-in-law made it clear today?
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I hurriedly asked for leave and rushed to the performance venue in a hurry.
At first glance, I saw my mother-in-law holding her messy hair, lying on Zhang Yan's shoulders and crying with exquisite makeup. My mother was safe and sound on the other side, coaxing Niu Niu to play games.
Zhang Yan was comforting his mother-in-law softly the previous second, and changed his face like a book in the next second, and roared at me with anger, "I'll take my mother home, you take your mother home!"
Before I could figure out what was going on, Zhang Yan had already whistled away with his mother-in-law.
On the way home, my mother told me what happened. Before going on stage, Niu Niu was stage frightened and wanted to go home, but her mother-in-law refused. She dragged Niu Niu to the stage with a harsh and harsh attitude.
Niu Niu did not cooperate with her mother-in-law as she had been rehearsed in advance and started crying. Not only did her mother-in-law not comfort the child, she scolded her loudly.
My mother felt sorry for her granddaughter and rushed to the stage to take Niu Niu away. My mother-in-law felt that she was losing face, so she stepped down from the stage to settle the score with my mother, saying that my mother didn't take care of the child well and brought the child into a coward.
My mother refuted her that forcing her child to do things she doesn't want to do is a selfish ghost. The two of them said something, and in desperation, my mother called her an "old fairy".
My mother-in-law stopped working, she reached out to grab my mother's hair. My mother-in-law has always been pampering and has no power to tie a chicken. How could she beat my mother, who has worked hard all year round, but my mother grabbed her hairstyle.
Settling down my mother and Niu Niu, I rushed to my mother-in-law's house, thinking of apologizing for my mother. No matter who is right or wrong in the cause of the matter, after all, my mother-in-law suffered a physical loss and lost face in front of her teammates.
Zhang Yan opened the door and did not let me enter the house. He said that my mother-in-law's mood was not stable yet, and it would be more exciting for me to enter.
Before I could express my purpose, Zhang Yan spoke in his throat, "Your mother must go to the model team to apologize to my mother in person. She beat people in full view. It's so bullying!"
Zhang Yan couldn't stand his mother being wronged, I understand. But asking my mother to apologize in person is also aggrieved.
A hint of displeasure offset my apology, "I can't slap my face, let's not slap, no matter who is right or wrong, if your mother wants to apologize, then I'll say."
"No, your mother let my mother lose all her face in front of her teammates. She must make up for her face in front of the whole team!" Zhang Yan restrained his tone and looked inconsistent.
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My anger was pressed under the water like a scoop. Zhang Yan protected his mother indiscriminately, just like kicking away the pressure from the scoop, and his anger rubbed the ground and surfaced.
"Indiscriminately, whoever cries is right? It's your mother's move first. My mother is self-defense, at most it's too much defense. If you want to apologize, you also apologize to each other! Also, your mother scolds Niu Niu in public, and she has to apologize to Niu Niu..."
The more I talked, the more excited I became, the louder I became. Zhang Yan was holding his throat because he was afraid that his neighbors would hear it. Seeing that I was yelling loudly, he hurriedly covered my mouth with his hands. I beat his hand hard and pulled Zhang Yan to the ground.
It was my turn to feel wronged this time. I cried and scolded Zhang Yan for being a "bastard".
When the mother-in-law heard the movement, she came out and shouted her son to go back to the house. While Zhang Yan wanted to come and help me, he was at a loss when he was at a loss when he was furious about the anger that ejaculated from his mother-in-law's swollen eyes. Finally, he surrendered to the "blazing flame" and returned to the house obediently.
This scene reminds me of the famous world problem. My wife and mother fell into the water at the same time. Who would you save first?
Mother-in-law looked at her, Zhang Yan obediently and cruelly left me drowning.
On the night, when I picked up my daughter from my mother and returned home, Zhang Yan had already prepared a table of exquisite meals and bought her daughter a complete set of Barbie dolls she had longed for.
Because Zhang Yan was serving me diligently and apologized to me and my daughter, I was half relieved.
The next morning, before my daughter and I got up, Zhang Yan had already gone out and said that we would go to see how my mother-in-law was in good condition before going to work.
I then got up and made breakfast for my daughter and found that my daughter's cartoon steamed buns and children's dumplings were gone in the refrigerator.
When hesitated, I thought that Zhang Yanlin seemed to have opened the refrigerator door before leaving the door, so I quickly opened the refrigeration door. Sure enough, all the boxes of masks I stocked up disappeared.
No need to ask, Zhang Yan gave the few things to his mother-in-law. Zhang Yan used to steal my mask and dedicate it to his mother. My mother-in-law is not an outsider, so I don’t care.
This time he was too much, why did he take away his daughter's things?
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I thought my mother-in-law was applying my facial mask and eating my daughter's cartoon steamed buns. Suddenly, the extinguished flame rekindled.
I grabbed my phone and called Zhang Yan, ready to scold him.
No, I thought about it again, Zhang Yan should still be with her mother-in-law at this point in time. I want my mother-in-law to know that the mask she used was stolen from me by her son.
The more you want to save face, the more I want to pull off your mask.
I made a video call to Zhang Yan. As expected, Zhang Yan was still at her mother-in-law's house. I asked him if he had stole the things from the house to her mother-in-law.
Zhang Yan first apologized, and then defended himself, saying that he either steals the family’s things or borrows flowers to offer Buddha.
"You steal my mask again and again, I don't care about you, but you shouldn't steal your daughter's food. That's children's food, for three-year-old children!" I deliberately raised the volume, just to let my mother-in-law hear it.
"I just want our mother to try it, change the taste, and I will double the supply you when I get home, okay?"
"Niu Niu's comfort pacifier, should our mother try it too? Or should we experience Niu Niu's diapers?" With the help of anger, I couldn't care about so much. I rushed out of my mouth.
The other end of the video came from the phone, and my mother-in-law shouted hysterically, "Take it away! Take it away! I don't want your things!"
My "conspiracy" succeeded, and the splash of happiness extinguished the anger.
The current situation is, I think Zhang Yan has to ask for leave again. By relying on his words alone, he would not be able to coax his mother-in-law, the old princess, for a while.
At about 12 o'clock in the evening, Zhang Yan called and said that his mother-in-law felt that my mother had let her lose face in front of her teammates, and she had no shame to go back, so she quit the model team.
To put it bluntly, it was my mother who destroyed her delicate princess character pretending to be in front of her teammates, exposing her tough side.
Zhang Yan also said that in order to comfort his mother-in-law's injured self-esteem, he planned to take his mother-in-law to the beach for a vacation, and he also took the opportunity to take a few days off.
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In a busy day, Zhang Yan's so-called "how many days of vacation" has passed, and he still doesn't want to go home.
If he keeps resting like this every year or not, how much salary can he receive this month? Is the nanny's salary no longer paid? Don't pay back the mortgage? I wonder how heavy the burden on my shoulders is?
I called Zhang Yan and asked him to come back to work. My mother-in-law just needs to take care of her with a nanny.
drag and drag, and Zhang Yan didn't come back after two days. He carried a few large bags of seafood and delivered it to my mother's house.
After six years of marriage, Zhang Yantou was so generous to my parents. I joked that he had found out that he was only concerned about respecting his mother and treated his father-in-law and mother-in-law badly?
Zhang Yan took me out of the house mysteriously and said that there was something to make money with me. When I heard the word "making money", my eyes immediately shone and the corners of my mouth were raised.
"I want to sell our house and invest in a large square meter sea view house, so I can make sure to make a profit. I am optimistic about one, but my house is sold and the down payment is almost done. Tell us to our parents and borrow 300,000."
Weasel wishes the chicken a happy new year, but it is indeed unhappy. It is the most expensive season for seafood, and Zhang Yan has bought so many more, which is really an ulterior motive.
"Our house cannot be sold, and my parents cannot borrow money. Don't use any investment to fool me. Do you think I am a fool? Don't just want to buy a sea view house for your mother? Then sell her house to invest!"
Zhang Yan flattered and flattered his actions, isn't he just wanting my parents to pay for his mother to buy a big house?
"My mother can't sell that house. How can she not live in her own house when she comes back? She is used to being alone and can't squeeze together with us. After selling our house, we can move in with your parents, or rent a house."
Zhang Yanyue looked as if nothing happened, and my anger was so raging that I couldn't control it. With a crisp "bang", a clear slap of five fingers appeared on Zhang Yan's face, and my right hand was numb.
Zhang Yan was caught off guard, so he stood there in a daze.
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My parents asked Zhang Yan to go back first, and my daughter and I stayed for a few days.
Zhang Yan's filial piety without principles and bottom lines has completely overturned my understanding of "filial people".
He surpasses his abilities and binds his wife and children. The so-called "filial piety" with him is foolish filial piety.
Also, he always puts his mother first, and my daughter and I are the ones he can sacrifice at any time for "filial piety". How can I not feel upset?
If I don’t have a daughter, I would file for a divorce without hesitation. I spent the whole night thinking about what impact the divorce will have on my daughter. How should I continue if I don’t divorce?
The next day, I returned to our home and wanted to have a peaceful conversation with Zhang Yanxin for the last time. I had a little luck in my heart, fantasizing that he could give up the idea of buying a sea view house.
Zhang Yan was overjoyed when he saw me coming home. His first sentence was "Wife, have you agreed to sell the house?"
Unexpectedly, Zhang Yan was obsessed with it.
I have already set the balance in my heart. Zhang Yan's words undoubtedly added a heavy weight to the end of "divorce".
"Agree, but I have two conditions."
When Zhang Yan heard that I agreed to sell the house, he tilted his head like a chicken pecking at rice. He said not to mention two, and he agreed to two hundred. The balance in my heart was completely tilted, and the end of "divorce" fell heavily.
"First, divorce, second, my daughter belongs to me." After making up my mind, I didn't want to be entangled with Zhang Yan for another minute, I just wanted to make a quick decision. "Although the down payment of the house was paid by your family, I have always paid the mortgage after marriage. My name is also on the property certificate, so the money for selling the house is half the money."
Zhang Yan hung his shoulders, and fell heavily on the sofa like a weight falling rapidly. He covered his face with his hands and lowered his head without saying a word, "Don't you leave?"
"You are anxious to use money, I am anxious to get the divorce certificate , and go to the Civil Affairs Bureau tomorrow!" After that, I turned around and went out.
The despair of Zhang Yan made me more determined and relaxed, as if I was throwing off a large cloak filled with lead.
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One month after the divorce, the former mother-in-law quickly moved into a large square meter sea view room. Zhang Yan ranked first in the top ten filial sons selected by the end of the year.
year later, Zhang Yan suddenly became a figure in local explosive news. Because of his benefits, he embezzled/public funds and purchased real estate, and was sent to prison, becoming a prisoner.
The great filial son became a big joke, and the price of foolish filial piety was extremely painful.
The former mother-in-law has no deposit, and her pension is basically used to buy clothes and do beauty and nail art. I heard that I was selling my sea view house and her own house at a low price, and at the same time, I also had a delicate princess face and lent money to fill the holes for my son.
The so-called character that she once saw more important than life was now collapsed into scattered sand like an avalanche, scattered all over the ground, being trampled under her feet.
I just feel glad, fortunately, I jumped out of this pit early!
Filial piety is the first priority. However, filial piety is not a foolish filial piety without principles and bottom lines, nor is it a boundless filling of the material desires of the elderly.
Filial piety must be within your ability. What filial piety requires more is to build a rich spiritual world for the elderly.
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