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In my country, there has been a tradition of men giving women a dowry since ancient times. Nowadays, when many young couples talk about marriage, they will also cause many problems due to the dowry.
And with the improvement of civilization now, the concept of equality between men and women has become more popular, and more and more people are calling for the cancellation of bride gifts. Therefore, nude marriages and zero bride gifts have become common words in the news over the years.
But from a girl's perspective, I think it is important for girls to get a bride price when they get married. Although sky-high bride price is not recommended, appropriate bride price is important, especially after understanding the ideas of some parents with sons. Attending a wedding, I understood the importance of a girl asking for a bride price. The reality is too cruel.
During the National Day holiday, I attended a wedding of my relatives and sons. Before the wedding started, I heard two elders around me chatting, one of them said: “ My son is capable. When I got married, I didn’t ask me to pay a penny. My daughter-in-law paid for it myself. Now my daughter-in-law is still respectful to me. I don’t have to treat her very well. Anyway, it doesn’t cost much money to marry her. My son is so outstanding, so it’s easy to marry again. "
Another person said: "It’s better for your daughter-in-law. My daughter-in-law didn’t ask for a bride at the beginning, but later she became serious and did not go to work. I am still at home and have no income in the past two years. I have been raising my son. I have been raising it for a lot of money. I told my son a few times not to give my salary to my wife. Two days ago, my daughter-in-law bought a set of clothes. I said that she should not spend money if she doesn't make money. She had a big fight for me, and she was so ignorant. "
As a woman, I felt very uncomfortable listening to the conversation between the two elders around me. The reason why these two daughters-in-law don’t want bride gifts is also a sensible girl. Unexpectedly, in the eyes of her mother-in-law, she was a woman who paid for her son’s money indiscriminately. So I think it is very important for girls to talk about bride prices when they get married.
people are all very cheap. Women don’t want bride gifts, but in the eyes of the in-laws, they are not worth it for free
Marriage is not a matter of two people, it is a matter of two families. The girl married a man naked for love, and thought that she would just live her own life after marriage. But the reality is that after marriage, we must deal with our in-laws. People are all inferior. In the sense of parents, it is natural to buy a house and a car for their son to marry a wife and buy a bride price.
If the girl does not give a bride price and gets married naked, the parents-in-law in the future will not think that the girl is sensible and treats the girl well in the future, but rather that their son is capable and marry a wife for themselves without spending money. They will naturally not value this daughter-in-law if they have no bleeding.
Women who don’t want bride gifts are just losing money in the eyes of their in-laws. They have no status and will not value them. Anyway, they can’t marry again without spending money.
There are many unknown risks in pregnancy and childbirth. Women bear the risk of pregnancy and childbirth, and men have to pay some money.
Many women do not want bride gifts and think that they can make money with a job. But once many women become pregnant, the serious cases will not be able to go to work at all, and accidents during prenatal examinations and babies require money to support them. Not to mention, many women have no one to help take care of their children after giving birth, and need to be housewives themselves and have no income for at least three years.
If you don’t have money in your hands, it’s okay if the man who takes the initiative to give money, otherwise it will be difficult to ask for money.
At this time, the dowry is the way out and confidence of a woman, and she can save her life at critical moments. I think the bride price is the compensation for the risks and losses borne by the man and the losses caused by the woman. Most women spend their brides on their own small families and children after marriage.
[Topic Discussion: Do you think the bride price should be cancelled? 】
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