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Just finished dealing with my father's funeral, I was sad and relaxed.
Since my father was supported by me in 2016, his body has become weaker and it either hurts here or there all day.
I am taking care of twelve minutes a day, focusing half of my attention on my father, and the other half is assigned to my work, children, and family.
2020 After my father found out that gastric cancer , I took good care of him, gave him peace of mind, made him happy, and finally let him leave without regrets.
I tried my best, and I felt no guilt for my father at all. Although I did not save his life in the end, every day he lived, I made him feel my full love.
Now I can take back my focus, take good care of my husband and children, and make up for my debts to them.
I was packing up my father's belongings at home. My sister called at this time and said that my mother wanted to come and see me.
I suddenly became alert. Back then, my sister threw her to me after saying "Dad wants to come to my house to see you." This loss lasted for six or seven years, and she ignored it.
I subconsciously looked through my father’s treatment fee list over the past few years. It was a thick stack. It seemed that this could not be thrown away. Maybe one day it would come in handy.
I thought about it and told my sister that I was exhausted and planned to go out for a walk. I was not at home during this period. What else my sister wanted to say, so I hung up the phone.
polite rejection is just a temporary stopgap, and dragging it out is definitely not a solution. If the sister makes up her mind, she will continue to act.
I know that no matter what, my image cannot be changed in my mother's eyes, so I don't want to try again, as soldiers come to block the water and soil.
If my sister was still as virtuous as a child, she would want to take all the good things, that would be impossible. She refused her just reminded her and told her my position. If she really wanted to tear her face off, then tear her.
02
0 What should be come?
A month later, one Sunday, I was cleaning at home and the doorbell rang. When I opened the door, my sister and mother stood outside the door, and there was a big suitcase behind them.
I stood at the door without moving. My sister pushed me away and helped my mother into the door. She said as she walked: Mom misses you, I want to come and see you. You were not available some time ago, but now I have delivered it myself.
My sister went into the house to check out the house and asked me which room was the guest room. She helped my mother put her luggage in.
I said coldly: My family is small, not as good as your 140 square meters house, and there are no guest rooms.
Although I had a cold face, the mother and daughter were in a good mood. After all, they were relatives. I couldn’t say that I didn’t even care about the meal when I came. I had to keep them at home and go out to buy groceries by myself.
Since sister is here, there is still room for communication in everything. I think if you have something to do, let’s talk about it after dinner.
Who would have thought that when I got home, my mother was the only one, and my sister had already lost her feet. She wanted to escape from the shell and throw her mother to me!
Mom looked at my face and instantly sank like a dust on the bottom of the pot. She also pulled her face down and showed her power at me: What's wrong, can't I come to your house to live? Your dad raised you and grew up, didn’t I raise you? Shouldn't you support me?
OK. Since the words are clear, it is best. I will call my sister, good guy, shut down! She did this on purpose, and she thought it was quite beautiful!
Can't run away, the monk can't run away, so I threw the vegetables I bought on the floor and said to my mother: Call the boss back, tell her that if she doesn't come back today, I will go to the provincial capital within three days, so that her colleagues in her unit and neighbors in her community will understand her "glorious" deeds.
My mother asked me to cook first and said she was hungry.
I said lightly: You are a cow and a horse in the old people every day. When you come to my house, you want to be your ancestors and do it yourself!
My mother smiled embarrassedly: Your sister is busy and can’t take care of me. Now that your dad is gone, I will help you.
is not needed. The boss won’t come back today, so I will go to the provincial capital in the afternoon. After I said that, I continued to clean up. My mother was neither standing nor sitting.
03
Don't think that I'm doing them too much, they are even more overdoing it. Whoever tells them that they only have themselves in their hearts, and they can do whatever they want, and then what they can do.
I was born in a small county town in northwestern Hubei. My father was the driver of a loading and unloading company and my mother was a clerk of a public institution.
My sister is four years older than me and looks like a doll. She is so beautiful that she doesn't say anything. Her mouth is still in a honeypot. My mother is afraid that she will melt when she holds her in her mouth.
I am, thin and black, and I don’t like to call people. Many people don’t believe that my sister and I are real sisters. I have never liked others since I was a child, and I don’t even like me.
The delicious and delicious food at home are fun. She is always close to her sister. Only when she is tired of playing will my mother throw it to me. And I am not interested in buying new ones.
For this reason, my mother was not angry with me and said that I was ignorant. But she didn't know that I was also angry with her. My sister and I were her daughters, so why did she treat her the same thing?
Dad can't stand it. Sometimes he secretly bought me a new toy or a new piece of clothing. My sister had to make trouble for a long time, and my mother had to argue with my father for a long time.
Later, my sister was admitted to university and stayed in the provincial capital. I graduated from university and returned to the county town.
After my sister got married, she had a child and called my mother to the provincial capital to show her the child.
My dad handled the internal withdrawal at that time. Because he drove all year round, he had sciatica and couldn't do anything. As soon as my mother left, I took on the responsibility of taking care of my father.
Two years later, my sister wanted to change to a big house, but she didn't have enough money, so she encouraged her mother to sell the old house in the county and go with her, saying that she would be responsible for my mother's retirement, and my father would be responsible for my retirement.
My mother didn't listen to my father's advice, and sold the house without hesitation, and arrived at the provincial capital happily.
My sister took the money and just helped the sick girl's father to my house and threw it to me, and then she left. Now, she repeated the same trick and threw my mother to me.
You should know that in the past 6 years, my sister has only visited my dad once. And my mother didn't even attend my dad's funeral.
plus my dad’s funeral, my sister gave me a total of 5,000 yuan, and I spent 220,000 yuan to treat my dad alone.
My mother has been serving my sister's family for six or seven years and helped them raise their children. Now she is not in such good health, and my sister throws her to me again. Why? Anyone who thinks this matter is unfair.
04
I packed two pieces of clothes in the room and came out to change my clothes. My mother asked me where I went, and I said I would go find my sister. If she doesn't handle the matter well this time, I will make a big fuss.
My mother put down the food in her hand, sat on the sofa and started crying, saying that she could not take care of the child, and her lumbar spine was in severe pain. My sister hired a nanny at home, but she couldn't stay at home. I heard that I was very careful in taking care of my dad, so she came to me, but I didn't expect that I would be so embarrassed.
I almost got angry when I heard this. I threw my luggage on the sofa and said: Yes, my sister can’t live in a big house of 140 square meters, but I can live in a two-bedroom apartment of 70 square meters. My sister has money to hire a nanny, but don’t have the money to support the elderly? Besides, they are the ones you raised.
You have been letting her do everything since you were a child and treat her as a treasure. Now, someone swept you out with a broom.I think of me now, no way!
My mother didn't expect me to get angry. She said with a firm word: Your sister has raised me for six or seven years, and now it's your turn. I have given birth to you and raised you, so you should raise me!
I laughed angry: I will go to the provincial capital to find the boss now. If she doesn’t show up, I will go to her unit and the community to make a fuss. I asked everyone to judge. I will give you retirement, unless the boss tells me personally, otherwise I will make her look good in the future.
Pick up my luggage and I walked out.
My mother hurriedly stopped me and said, "She called my sister to tell me if there is anything her family can communicate with her own people, so why do everyone know it."
I curled my lips and sneered, you just need to know that it is ugly, you can still not make it ugly, but if you don’t know that it is ugly, it will be difficult to deal with it.
05
My mother called and my sister came to my house soon, and she kept her back.
When I entered the door, my sister took the initiative: Mom has lived in my house for six or seven years, and you haven’t seen it before. Do you think it’s appropriate? Now that my mother wants to live with you, and give you a chance to be filial, what else are you dissatisfied with?
Good guy, let’s turn the tables!
I gritted my teeth and smiled and said: Raise it, I didn’t say I won’t raise it.
The tense nerves of my sister and mother suddenly relaxed. My sister also gave my mother a wink, and her complacent feeling was beyond words.
I continued: I said to me as a mother, but if you throw someone at me, it’s like throwing a piece of leftover rag, and you don’t even explain the words, can’t you say it right?
My sister came over, hugged my shoulder, and said intimately: Sister, isn’t this mom missing you? I have something urgent to do, it’s because I’m too anxious. It’s me wrong. I think mom has made it clear to you. She wants to live with you now, and mom is thinking about you.
is thinking about me. I have never had anything you have since childhood. My mother has taken care of your child for six or seven years, and she has never even asked me. Now she knows that she is thinking about me. It's really strange. I snorted from my nose.
My sister's face darkened and she asked me how she spoke.
I said: I am the only one in my heart. She is the only one who is a cow and a horse for you. She buys a house for you and sells the old house. She also has lumbar spondylosis for you. Now that I think of me, how is it possible?
Mom and my sister looked at each other and lowered their heads guiltily, but my sister was so stubborn that she asked me: Do you raise me?
I asked her: Did you raise you? I raise my mom, should you raise your dad?
My sister raised her head: Dad raised me, but he passed away.
Yes, Dad passed away, but some things are still there. I walked into the bedroom and took out a stack of documents: This is the details of all the expenses I paid for my father to treat my doctor, not including living expenses, and other expenses.
What are you doing with this? My sister looked confused.
06
install? I won't give you a chance.
I spent nearly 220,000 yuan in total. If you say you support your dad, should you pay me 110,000 yuan in alimony, half of each person, fair! I said to my sister with the receipt trembling.
My sister's eyes suddenly dodged: There are so many, let's talk about it, you support your father, I support your mother.
Then you send your mom over now, what does it mean to raise it for me? I asked her.
Sister said in a voice that she didn't even believe in herself: Mom misses you.
It’s really time to think about it! When you have money to hire a nanny but have no money to support her, when she is sick and unable to work anymore, after I sent off my father who has been tortured by the pain for several years, your conscience is eaten up!
The muscles on my sister's face twitched. She tried hard to laugh, but she couldn't laugh, showing an expression that was even worse than crying.
Ask my mother what she wants to say, and I looked like a sharp knife, and she finally closed her mouth.
I then said to my sister, there are three ways in front of you:
First, give me 110,000, let's sit down and discuss my mother's pension issue;
Second, you throw my mother in my house, or I go to your unit to your community, we find someone to comment and let everyone talk;
Third, see you in the court.
After I finished talking about my plans, my mother started crying, and my sister was like a leaking ball, and she was completely out of her temper.
07
After a while, my sister walked to me and whispered: Sister, I really can’t live in my house, can I pay for it?
I smiled, tears rolling in my eyes: Pay money? How much is it to pay? My dad has been sick for more than 6 years. You came to see him once and hoped that you would give me money. The turtle that had been in danger of being hungry for ten thousand years!
Is this a money problem? My father can’t do any work, I take care of him day and night, and for more than 6 years, I have been suffering from my child’s husband. My father has been in bed for two years and doesn’t even have a bedsore. Do you know how much I have paid? How much is my child missing, do you know?
You have been to the suburbs of the city this week and go out to visit next week. Have you ever thought about me?
Now throw my mother to me, and you'll be fine if you pay for it. Do you think I'm a robot? I think you are a robot, you have no warmth, no conscience, no feelings, and you want to take any good things, why?
My sister's face was pale, and she seemed to be unable to pinch a drop of blood.
I shivered, telling all the grievances, anger, unwillingness, and disappointment over the years. I poured water directly on my sister's head, letting her tremble.
My mother couldn't even say a word, she just stood there in a daze. She didn't seem to expect me to have such an attack.
I pointed at my sister and said word by word: I raise my mother, the premise is that you throw 110,000 yuan into my account, and you have to sign an agreement with me in black and white, how much alimony will be paid every month, and when will you give it? What should I do if my mother is sick and what should I do if I am disabled?
At worst, let’s rent a house for my mother and hire a nanny in the house.
Before everything is reached, I don’t accept my mother, let alone if she uses it, she will throw it into the garbage basket and throw it out.
My mother looked at me, crying in her eyes, and she opened her mouth to laugh, but she couldn't laugh.
In the end, my sister was unwilling to give me money, and she didn't plan to pay a penny either. She decisively dragged my mom away. When I left, my mother turned around frequently, but I really didn't dare to take on a big bag.
I admit that I am unfilial, but I dare not promise how much I have the strength to do what I have. I still have the energy to take care of my mother like I serve my dad.
Not only because my mother never had me in her eyes, but because she and her sister never regarded me as relatives and father as relatives. In their eyes, they themselves are the most important.
I don’t think of me as a relative, I don’t have to be heartless, no matter who she is.
Because I am not only a daughter, I am also a wife and mother. I still have a responsibility to my husband and children. My sister can ignore my life or death, but I cannot ignore my husband and children's life or death.
I can't make them think I favor one and the other, it's time to compensate them.
Do you think I did the right thing? If it were you, what would you do?
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