Introduction
In the old age, some of us single elderly people will choose to live in nursing homes in order to allow ourselves to live in a happy and comfortable old age in the future, while others will choose to hire a nanny to live. Of course, some elderly people will choose to live with their children, and most of the choices of these elderly people are very good.
. In most cases, most of us single elderly people will choose to find a new partner for ourselves in their later years and then live with each other. Because in this way, the two of them can achieve "mutual assistance retirement in the future." The most important thing is that there is no worries about living together. To put it bluntly, they can live as long as they can, and they can break up if they can't.
is also because of the advantages of living together, so it is now popular and favored by more and more single elderly people. On the surface, the elderly choose to live together, which will not only improve the quality of their life in their later years, but also allow themselves to live a happy life in their later years.
But sometimes, this lifestyle will not only not allow the elderly’s wishes to be realized, but will also bring many troubles and pains to the elderly. The 65-year-old Gao happened to encounter this situation. He was single in his later years and chose to live with a 58-year-old woman. However, after less than a year of time, he decisively broke up with the other party. He said that the other party was too much and he couldn’t stand it anymore! So is this really the case? Let's listen to his story together.
65-year-old Gao’s self-report
My surname is Gao, I am 65 years old this year. People who are about the same age as me call me Lao Gao. When I was young, I worked as a math teacher in a middle school. I have a senior professional title. Five years ago, I officially retired from the school, and my pension was relatively high. Under normal circumstances, I couldn’t spend all my monthly pensions, and I saved the rest for it.
My situation looks very good now, but people who know my background know that I am actually more painful than anyone else. When I was young, my wife gave birth to a pair of twins for me, which made me so happy. From then on, after every day after school work, I would hurry home to help my wife take care of the children.
As I watched the two children grow up day by day, I felt that they were full of all kinds of beautiful longings and hopes. However, when my youngest daughter was thirteen years old, she left me forever because of a sudden physical illness. At that time, I felt that the sky was about to collapse. Fortunately, the continuous encouragement of relatives and friends, I gradually came out of my grief.
Then, I and my wife worked together to pull my son to grow up. Ten years ago, my son met a girl at work. They both had a good impression of each other. Since my son was willing, my wife and I had no objection, so we arranged and got married for our son.
Originally, my son had a happy family, so in the future, I should live our happy life with my wife. However, in the year I just retired, an accident made my wife leave me too early, and as a result, my life became more and more bleak.
When my wife was alive, my wife was doing all kinds of housework at home. I often watched from the side because I don’t do housework at all, and I only occasionally do things for my wife. My wife is also responsible for all my food, clothing, housing and transportation.
The most important thing is that when I encounter any grievances or discomforts in my life, I will go to my wife to talk to me, and every time my wife will constantly comfort me and be content with me, so that I can get out of all kinds of discomforts as soon as possible.
But now my wife is gone, what should I do in the future? After thinking about it, I finally had the idea of finding a new and old partner for myself and living with each other. After all, life in a person's later years is really too difficult, especially in my current situation. After
, a friend introduced me to meet Xiao Sun. Through conversation, I learned that Xiao Sun is 58 years old this year. She divorced in the early years and did not remarry, but raised her daughter alone to grow up. She retired from the company at the age of 50. Now her monthly pension is only 2,300 yuan, which is enough to maintain her daily life.
Originally, after she retired, she decided to live with her daughter and son-in-law, but her daughter and son-in-law were very busy at work and had a lot of pressure in life. Seeing this, she had to give up the idea of living with them, because the only house had been given to her daughter and son-in-law, so she later had to choose to rent a house outside, and she usually worked for someone hourly work, or temporary workers to subsidize the household income.
Over the years, she felt that life alone was too hard, so she wanted to find a support for her second half of her life. Xiao Sun's conditions basically meet my requirements for finding a new and old partner, but even so, I decided to date Xiao Sun for a while before talking about it.
During this period, Xiao Sun not only made good food, but also did all kinds of housework. Most importantly, Xiao Sun was also particularly caring and considerate. Therefore, after only two months of dating with Xiao Sun, I decided to live with Xiao Sun.
Considering that Xiao Sun's financial situation is not very good, I decided to give Xiao Sun 5,000 yuan a month in the future. In addition to our daily expenses, she can save the rest and keep it for her future retirement. Xiao Sun seems very happy.
Later, we lived together. During the day, Xiao Sun was responsible for buying vegetables and cooking, and doing the housework at home. During this period, she could also talk and chat with me to relieve boredom. Of course, I didn’t do anything. I would do everything like mopping the floor and watering flowers.
For night, I would go to the small square downstairs with Xiao Sun to dance square dance. After the dance, we both went home to rest. On Saturdays and Sundays, I went out for a walk with Xiao Sun. Our life is basically like this every day, and this is the life I need, and I am very satisfied with it. Life like
lasted about two months, and I found something was a little bit wrong. Why did I say that? Because, every Saturday and Sunday, Xiao Sun's daughter, son-in-law and others would come to my house for free in the name of visiting us old couple. At the beginning, I didn't take this matter to heart. Instead, I felt that eating was more lively as there were too many people.
Not only that, every time Xiao Sun's family came to my house for dinner, I would ask Xiao Sun to make a sumptuous meal for them. Later, Xiao Sun told me that I would give her five thousand yuan a month, which was too little, and it was not enough. Without thinking, I immediately decided to add another 2,000 yuan a month to Xiao Sun's living expenses.
, but the good times didn't last long. Usually, Xiao Sun's daughter and son-in-law would choose to come to my house for free. They seemed to have regarded my house as a free restaurant. This way of doing this not only disturbed my normal life, but also further increased my life burden.
The thing that made me most angry was that later, Xiao Sun's family not only ate and drank for free at my house, but also took away some meat, fruits and other things in my refrigerator before leaving. On several occasions, they even took away several barrels of oil and bags of the door of my house when they left.
But even so, I have never talked about them, and I have never blamed Xiao Sun, because I think it is not easy to find a similar wife in my later years. Just just live a life of muddles. Just begging for one's own worries. What I didn't expect was that my repeated tolerance and concessions were exchanged for Xiao Sun's progress and pressing step by step.
One night, Xiao Sun was washing his feet and cutting me toenails for me. I was secretly happy. Suddenly, Xiao Sun said to me: "Lao Gao, my son-in-law has encountered difficulties recently and urgently needs 200,000 yuan to turn over. Anyway, you are not short of money. Can you lend him 200,000 yuan? He can also borrow money for you. In the future, he will make good money and repay the money as soon as possible. . "
Xiao Sun's words made me very angry. I am not short of money, but my money is not from the strong wind, not to mention that 200,000 is not a small amount, so how can I give it if I say it? Besides, the family of their family had eaten and taken food and took it with me before, and I haven't even bothered her yet. She has made such excessive demands on me now. What did she treat me like?
I can guarantee that if I agreed to her request today, it won’t take long to make any other requests to me. This is clearly an invincible hole, so I immediately rejected her request. Then, in order to avoid other things happening, at noon the next day, I asked Xiao Sun to pack up his luggage and leave my house.
At that time, Xiao Sun refused to say anything, but after my repeated insistence, she had to agree. At this point, Xiao Zhou and I had to join us for less than a year and we completely broke up because she was too much. I really couldn't stand it. I could raise her, but she still wanted me to support her whole family. How could I agree? I can only break up with her!
Xiaowei Conclusion
The ultimate goal of Mr. Gao’s life with his wife is to make his later years live a better and happier life than before. That’s all, but what he never expected was that since he lived with his new and old wife, although he treated his new and old wife sincerely, his new and old wife was not only unhappy and unsatisfied, but in the future, he also plotted against him everywhere, and treated him as a free ATM. After Mr. Gao could no longer bear it, he could only choose to break up with the other party, because this had touched Mr. Gao’s principles and bottom line. Mr. Gao did this not only to say no to bad behavior, but also to be an effective protection for himself.
To sum up, we can understand the mood of the elderly who want to find a partner, but when looking for a partner, our elderly must open their eyes wide. Not only should they carefully observe the other party's situation, but they should also inquire about the other party's family's situation in detail. Although the partner is different from getting married, we should pay attention to and follow what we should follow. We should still be responsible for ourselves in doing so. If the old man finds that the new and old couple have any bad behaviors and behaviors during the process of getting along, the old man must ask the other party as soon as possible. If the other party actively corrects the mistakes, that is the best. Otherwise, the old man must decisively disband with the other party to avoid causing unnecessary trouble for himself.
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