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01, Volume Beginner
Parents' love is like spring rain, moistening things silently.
A lifetime, as parents, I always want to give my children the best life. For the sake of their children, parents devote their lives to their energy and time just to make a difference when they grow up.
Visguan once said: "Parents and children are the best gifts given to each other."
As children grow up, parents put more and more effort into it until they grow old.
Parents long for their children to have a future, but they hope that they can rely on themselves and have a better life. At the same time, I also hope that I can get the care of my children when I grow old.
However, many parents only realize that the relationship with their children is a process of drifting away when they get old.
Once thought that when you are old, you can live with your children and be cared for and accompanied by your children. However, the children after getting married have limited energy, and they will be entangled by various things and contradictions in life. For parents, I often have no intention of taking care of them.
A sixty-year-old aunt gave birth to six children. After falling ill, she saw clearly how shallow the relationship with her son and daughter was.
02. There are too many children, and they shirking responsibility for each other when they are retired
Aunt Li is 60 years old this year and has given birth to six children in her life.
When she was young, in order to support her six daughters, she bought vegetables in the wind and rain with a tricycle; she opened a breakfast shop, got up at three or four every day to make breakfast; she worked as a nanny, drove a taxi, and even drove to deliver goods to others like a man...
Aunt Li's life has been living for her children. Because, when she was forty, her husband died of illness. At that time, many matchmakers wanted to introduce Aunt Li to a partner, so it would be easier to raise six children.
However, Aunt Li felt that she had six children. First, she felt that she had so many children and did not want to drag others down; second, her children were still too young, and she was afraid that if the second marriage was not well managed, it would have adverse effects on their growth.
That's it, Aunt Li is both a father and a mother alone, and she has worked hard to raise her six daughters. During those difficult days, Aunt Li insisted on sending them to school and even trained two graduate students.
I thought that when I was old, I could enjoy my happiness. Unexpectedly, at the age of sixty, Aunt Li fell ill. During her days in the hospital, her children often quarreled over whom she took care of.
Some say that you have to go to work and can’t take a leave; some say that you have three children in your family and don’t care about your mother; some say that your business cannot be delayed, and delaying a day will be a few thousand yuan in income...
Aunt Li fell ill and saw clearly that he had too many children and shirked responsibility for each other when he was in retirement, which made her live like a burden and a burden, which made her feel very heartbroken.
03. Giving everything for my children is the most wrong decision I have ever made
Aunt Li often thinks: If I have money in my hands, I don’t have to rely on a few children. The children also had a big fight in the hospital over Aunt Li's medical expenses.
Although Aunt Li didn't say anything, she finally thought of a truth in her mind: she really shouldn't spend all her savings for her children.
Originally, Aunt Li had a deposit of more than 200,000 yuan, but when her daughter said she wanted money to do business, she gave him 50,000 yuan; her son said she wanted to buy a house, and gave him tens of thousands... In this way, all the money was spent on her children.
See the friendship between children and themselves clearly. It turns out that it is so shallow. She sighed: giving everything for her children is the most wrong decision I have ever made.
Aunt Li said to his children: Mom, if you have enough hands, return the money I lend you to me. I also want to live...
Aunt Li's health has recovered, she started her old business and opened a small shop. Although Aunt Li is already sixty years old, she still doesn't want to live as a burden to her children.
She wants to make more money and give herself more protection in the days to come. People, for the rest of their lives, they should consider themselves more. This is Aunt Li's vivid insight in her later years.
04. Summary
Liang Shiqiu In "Dreams and Memories of Huaiyuan", he once said: "Parents' love is born and natural, like the rain from the sky, but nothing can control it. It is unconditional gift without expecting reward. This account between parents and children cannot be calculated."
Live in this world, don't overestimate your relationship with anyone. Even if you have to do with your children, don’t give too much hope.
On the road of life, raising children is a responsibility. However, when children become adults, they should learn to be responsible for their lives. As parents, learn to let go and put more energy into yourself.
People will rely on themselves in this life. Even in your later years, you need to learn to rely on yourself. Maintaining the ability to be independent and self-care can make yourself live more dignified.
In his later years, no matter how much he loves his children, he will learn to accumulate some savings for himself, and at the same time, he will manage his life in his later years more. When there is a running-in and conflict between
and children, don’t be too sad and learn to let go.
Face life with a good attitude, use your own hands to create the living environment you like, and make yourself more comfortable and comfortable in your old age.
People are old, reconciling with themselves and living happily is the blessing they give themselves.
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Author: Xia Mo, a new emotional tutor, psychology scholar, a popular emotional writer on the entire network of over 1 billion, a happy woman manager, focusing on emotions, gender, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.
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