From love to marriage is a particularly happy thing in life. Everyone expects to be able to go through this life with those who love each other in this life, but feelings will change. The two people who are together today may change tomorrow.
As a woman, you should know that a man faces marriage for the first time and faces marriage again. He is happy at the first time and wants to spend his whole life. There is nothing in it, but it is different again and there will be changes in his heart.
We always thought that as long as two people can be firmly tied together, it is love. In fact, it is not necessarily true. Sometimes it may be responsibility or something else.
Women in their 40s should know that it is no longer the beginning of love for a man to marry you at this time. Maybe even if he does not have special love, he will choose to be with you.
That is to say, it is basically profitable for a man to marry you after he was 40 years old. He will not only talk about love with you, nor even have love.
1. Find someone to share the responsibility
You think you have waited for the so-called love, but in fact what you have waited for is a kind of hurt. She may really not love you that much, but just to find someone to share his responsibilities, so that he can be more busy with his career. Although a man like
is a bit selfish, he has no way to do it. He can only do this. If it weren't for the fact that he wanted to take care of the child, he might not have continued to look for it again.
So don't look for love in such a man, because there is no such thing.
saw a video online and was quite touched:
video is about a woman in her 40s. It was her first time getting married. Because she didn't find the right one, she married a man who was married to a second marriage.
Frankly speaking, this man is particularly outstanding. He is an executive of a company. The only thing that makes the woman dissatisfied is that he brought a child in junior high school.
Although the woman is not satisfied, she has no choice. In this way, she becomes the child's stepmother. Since the child is in a rebellious period, she can't control it at all. She talked to her husband several times, but her husband just asked her to take care of it more.
in the end she couldn't stand it anymore. She decided to show off with the man and let him make a choice in front of the child and herself. When the woman made this decision, she discussed it with her best friend.
Best friend told her not to do this. When he said this, she asked her best friend why, and her best friend said, "Do you think that your relationship with him is particularly strong, but it is not strong at all? The reason why you can unite is because of this child. He may not have feelings for you, just to let you take care of this child for him."
Best friend told him that if you want to force the other party to make a choice, then she is naturally the biggest loser. After her best friend's analysis, she finally understood that the other party did not love her so much, but just wanted to find someone to share the responsibility for her.
Simply put, the other party didn’t think so much, just to find someone to take care of the children, that’s all.
2. You are just a spare tire, he doesn't love
Men will pursue love desperately, but not every man can have love. Maybe he can't meet love that makes his heart beat faster even if he tries his best. But even if he meets, he must not get married, so they will settle for the second best to find someone he doesn't love.
When a woman is not particularly disgusted by herself, she will choose to be with the other party, which means that he has no choice anymore. Either find such a person when getting married, or not getting married.
If you think the other person has true love for you, then you can only be hurt. In other words, you must be clear about it when marrying such a man. It is not just asking for love, because there is no love between each other at all.
You are just a spare tire, the other party has never loved you at all, and there is no way to marry you. It is a product of loneliness, so you can't blame anyone.
If you can't stand it, you can choose not to marry the other party. If you can bear it, then get married. This is the reason. Two people are just living together, not because of pure love.
3. No love, just for property
We always say that women are too material, but men are the same. Material people do not distinguish between men and women. When you are in your 40s, if a young and handsome guy comes to you, can you be sure that the other person really loves you?
You may say that the other party really loves you, but I advise you not to joke. He is afraid he only wants your property. If you didn’t have property in your hands, he wouldn’t have been with you.
At this time, you must be sober and don’t foolishly regard the other person’s intentions as true love for you. Once you do this, you will only be yourself who will be hurt.
If you have no property, not glamorous and have a job that everyone envies, then the other party will not come to you. He doesn't love you at all, he just wants your things.
It is indeed not easy for a woman to encounter a good relationship in her life. If she can meet, cherish it. If she can’t meet it, don’t worry, otherwise the relationship will be fascinated and you will eventually be hurt.
People who are over 40 should not always think about their relationship, nor should they expect too high. If the other party is suitable for you, you may start a relationship and your life will not be unhappy in the future. Isn’t it?
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