People's guesses about marriage are always beautiful, but only those who have truly experienced marriage know.
Marriage is like a tedious life. It can not only make you feel sweet, but also torture you all over your body at any time.
"The ending of marriage is nothing more than two types. Even if you love each other, you will always be in the other person's heart. Even if you don't love each other, you will be in the same bed and a different dream." Therefore, don't regard marriage as your own way out.
A person has another life besides marriage. If they entrust them together to marriage, then such days will only become more and more boring, and they will even gradually get lost in the boring days and cannot find their way.
You should always be firm in your direction and maintain the highest enthusiasm for life. In this way, you will not be confused even if you enter a marriage, and you will still find a way forward even when facing a failed marriage.
So, in life, don’t stop doing these two things regardless of getting married or not.
1: Keep matter independent
The most basic thing to survive is matter, so if you want to live beautifully, or even want to live, you cannot do without matter. Those who talk about ideals with aside matter will only be trampled by life and ruin their future.
Therefore, even if you enter a marriage, you cannot completely put aside material things. Marriage without material things, even if you have not experienced strong winds and rains, there will be storms everywhere under a harmonious plane and will eventually end in failure.
And "Marriage is like a dangerous building. You never know when it will collapse. When you realize that it may collapse, it has collapsed." Many people choose to rely entirely on each other when they enter marriage, but when the marriage encounters a sudden change, there is no way out at all.
No matter whether a person gets married or not, he cannot stop maintaining material independence. With the ability to support himself, he does not have to completely place his happiness on others, nor does he have to be afraid that sudden emotional changes will leave him without a place to go.
Maintaining material independence is to protect yourself the most solid backing. Whether you pursue your love or enter marriage, this guarantee can become the sharp blade of your road to ride the wind and waves.
If you do not have the ability to be independent of material things, you will lose your basic ability to live. Whether you get married or not, it will be difficult to have a high-quality life, let alone pursue love, which will only be even more difficult.
Your material independence ability will accompany you throughout your life, more firmer than feelings. Even if you enter marriage, you will be more confident and do not have to rely on anyone. You can decide your feelings in the process of weighing the pros and cons.
2: Continuously improve yourself
When you first enter into your relationship, many people can't extricate themselves fall into love for each other. At this time, all the shortcomings of the other party can be ignored, but over time, getting along with you day and night will bring you boredom, so no relationship can be truly the same as before.
If a person never knows how to improve himself, even if the other person likes you in the past, he will feel bored after you get along for a long time. The best way to maintain his relationship is freshness, and in the process of improving himself, he can exude a different charm.
Moreover, whether you get married or not, improving yourself is a very good way to keep discovering your strengths and fully utilize them. This way life will become more interesting and you will not have a headache about trivial matters.
After all, a person who does not know how to improve himself will stay where he is, calculating the daily life of daily life. Slowly, he is always used to placing his emotions on others and letting others control his emotions.
Because it takes time and energy to improve, they are reluctant to let it go, so they will naturally lose themselves in this process.
How can people like this talk about marriage? Even if they enter marriage, they will not know how to coordinate their relationships. They will focus too much on each other, which will bring a sense of suffocation to the other party and slowly make themselves lose confidence.
Moreover, such people have no pattern, do not know how to think about long-term development, only know how to enjoy the happiness in front of them, and they also think that even if they do not change, they can rely on the charm of the present for the rest of their lives. However, they do not know that there are many fickle people in the world.
And those who know how to improve will feel crisis regardless of whether they get married or not, and will try their best to plan, and will not waste energy to place happiness on others, because they know that they are always the most worth investing in.
Of course, continuous persistence will always have effect. In the process of persistence, they will become more active and love life more. Even if they encounter emotional setbacks, they will not be depressed. Even if they fall into the mud, they will be able to bloom different flowers.
So whether you get married or not, you must know how to improve yourself. You will find that although this process is hard, you will gradually enjoy it and be able to find a shining self in continuous persistence.
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