Xiaoke and Dawei are newlywed couples. They work in the same office building. They go to and from get off work together every day, buy groceries and cook together. They have the tranquility of life in their ordinary days, and both of them feel very happy.
But such days ended soon, and with the arrival of my mother-in-law, the two often quarreled. Originally, I wanted my mother-in-law to take good care of their lives, but when she came, she urged them to have children all day long and interfered with their living habits. What's even more excessive is that the couple had to hand over all their wages to her. She wanted to manage their money and finances for them. Sometimes when Xiaoke bought the fruit she liked, her mother-in-law said that she would not live a life, which was too wasteful.
Sometimes Xiaoke and Dawei have a quarrel over trivial matters, so their mother-in-law stands on Dawei's side and scolds Xiaoke. It was Xiaoke who was acting spoiled by Dawei, but it turned out to be a real contradiction and eventually turned into a family war. Not long after, the marriage came to an end.
In life, when people encounter trivial things, they will inevitably argue sometimes. The tactful mother-in-law should not get involved at this time. Maintaining a certain distance and sense of proportion is the right choice.
In any relationship, only feelings with a certain sense of proportion can last and be warm. Being able to properly grasp the sense of proportion is a sign of a person's maturity, because he knows that everyone must keep a necessary distance.
This distance does not refer to the distance of the body, but to the sense of proportion that should be. And this sense of proportion is a kind of respect you give to the other party as an independent personality.
Each of us is a relatively independent individual, so we must grasp this sense of proportion between friends or parents.
A truly smart mother-in-law will not get involved in the lives of her children. Instead of guiding them all day long, it is better to care more about yourself and make yourself have a healthy body. This is the blessing for her children.
A The same is true for families. The ideal state is that everyone is not tired of getting along with each other. Everyone has their own qualities, neither being bored nor being distant.
A family is like this, and it is also the same between husband and wife. Why do some couples gradually separate from each other? A big reason is that they are not sure about this sense of measure and the blurred emotional boundaries make it difficult for them to get the happiness they want.
Love is intimate, but without a sense of proportion, it will make people feel an unbearable sense of restraint. Only when both of them use a sense of proportion to manage their love can love be more harmonious.
People often say that distance creates beauty, which is what they mean. No matter how close you are to your parents, you must have boundaries. No matter how close you are to your partners, you must have a proper sense. No matter how familiar you are to your friends, you must have rules.
If you don’t respect this measure, it will cause problems in all relationships, so you must remember that mastering the measure is an iron law in life.
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