Those who respect others will respect them;
Those who love others will love them.
Author: Insight yebo
A few days ago I saw someone discussing online: What is education?
This reminds me of a sentence that the philosopher Heraclitus said: "Education is the second sun of man."
Educated people will make people around them feel warm and comfortable no matter where they go.
As the saying goes, a gentleman is as warm as jade.
A person’s true upbringing is to know how to leave comfort to others.
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scholar Golden once recalled a past event in the book.
1988, during an academic conference, Huang Jinling lived in the same room with physicist Xu Guangxian. The night before the closing of the meeting, Xu Guangxian stayed up late to write a speech.
Huang Jinling went to bed first because she was too sleepy.
Wait until he woke up in the middle of the night, and he was surprised to find that there was no one at the table, and the lights in the bathroom were on.
He walked closer and saw Xu Guangxian sitting on a small stool in the bathroom, pressing the manuscript paper on his knees, and bowing his head to write with the help of the faint light.
Huang Jinling asked in confusion: "Old Xu, why are you writing here? Come out quickly."
Xu Guangxian smiled and said softly:
"I am very comfortable staying here. Keep sleeping. The tomorrow will be open for a long time."
At this time, Huang Jinling suddenly realized that Lao Xu was afraid of disturbing his rest, so he hid in the small bathroom to work.
When Huang Jinling thought of this, he was very moved and still remembered this matter in his heart many years later.
I have heard a saying: "Kindness is not a label that is easily bought from other places, but a dazzling sentiment that permeates you in the inner side of your life, the bottom of your skin."
People with kindness will always unconsciously give priority to others in everything and put themselves behind.
Make others comfortable is to give others the most considerate care in a quiet manner.
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Writer Cai Lan once went to a bookstore with his friend Ni Kuang and was recognized by a female student.
The female student immediately took out a notebook and pulled Ni Kuang to ask for the signature.
Who knew that after signing one, the female student turned the notebook over a page and asked Ni Kuang to continue signing it, signing several times in a row.
Cai Lan asked the female student: "Did you ask for the signature for the classmate?"
The female student said embarrassedly:
"That's not. Other students have the signature of Andy Lau . I asked her, and she had to ask me to exchange the signatures of five Teacher Ni's with her."
Cai Lan was shocked after hearing this, thinking that Ni Kuang would be angry after hearing this.
Unexpectedly, Ni Kuang said with a smile:
"Andy Lau is much more famous than me. If you change five, you will make a lot of money. I will sign a few more for you, and you can change them with your classmates."
Then, he carefully signed dozens of names.
The female student was very happy to get so many signatures and put away the notebook and left happily.
Afterwards, Cai Lan said to Ni Kuang: "She used your signature to exchange with others. I was surprised that you would not get angry."
Ni Kuang smiled and said:
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After hearing this, Cai Lan deeply admired him and regarded him as a close friend from then on.
Yishu once said: "Cultivation and cultivation are not hypocritical, and intentionally embarrassing people is not straightforward."
is less polite or inadvertent offense to others, and you will be more considerate.
All the comfort given to others is actually a release of kindness.
Those understanding and tolerance come from a broad mind and the warmth in the bones.
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Peking Opera master Tan Yuanshou came from a family of Liyuan, and his great-grandfather was Tan Xinpei , who was respected as the "original" of Peking Opera .
He himself is a national first-class actor and has attended state banquets many times.
But in daily life, he has no airs at all.
Tan Yuanshou is invited to attend the Spring Festival Gala almost every year, sometimes performing programs, sometimes just a simple audience.
Many CCTV staff still remember that every time he enters the CCTV gate, he starts to greet everyone.
From the doorman to the security guard, to the staff, no matter his age or position, he bowed his hands one by one, and said with a smile: "I wish you a happy new year! I wish you a happy new year!"
When he saw the waiter who received him, he would also say: "Thank you for your hard work, we have caused you trouble again." People in
said that getting along with Mr. Tan is like a spring breeze, and even standing next to him, he feels warm.
In 2015, junior Wang Qianxiang and Li Zengrui held a 55th anniversary celebration performance.
At this time, Tan Yuanshou was already 86 years old. Because he was old, it was inconvenient to come to the scene.
But he still asked his son to send a flower basket and a congratulatory letter to express his congratulations.
In fact, Mr. Tan, Wang Qianxiang and Li Zengrui only met once many years ago.
To this day, Wang Qianxiang and Li Zengrui recalled this incident, but they were still moved:
"Mr. Tan is a master, he is so old, and he still remembers us and congratulate us. We will always remember this kindness in our hearts."
The ancient saying says: Humility is the handle of virtue.
The more noble a person is, the more he can lower himself, take himself lightly and others seriously.
has a kind of cultivation, which is called not being a bitch for being noble.
Leave comfort to others, no matter how high your status or your identity is, you can respect others everywhere.
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1919, Lin Yutang studied abroad at Harvard University in the United States.
Because the school suddenly stopped his scholarship, his life was in trouble for a moment.
At the end of my life, Lin Yutang asked for help from Peking University Hu Shi ;
"Can brother Zun be the guarantee and borrow $1,000 from others, and repay it when I finish my studies and return to China."
After receiving the letter, Hu Shi was in trouble. 1,000 US dollars is not a small amount. Who would lend it to a student?
But he didn't want to disappoint Lin Yutang, and he was even more unwilling to delay Lin Yutang's studies, so he took out the money from his savings and sent it to him.
He said in his postscript: "This is a funding for you by Peking University."
After Lin Yutang graduated from Harvard , he went to Leipzig University to study for a doctorate. He sent Hu Shi again:
"Can you still apply for funding from the school?"
At this time, Hu Shi's life was not rich, but he still saved money and collected 1,000 US dollars to transfer.
By this money, Lin Yutang successfully returned to China after studying. After returning from
, he went to Peking University to thank Principal Jiang Menglin . Principal Jiang was confused after hearing this and said that Peking University did not have this funding at all.
Only then did Lin Yutang realize that the $2,000 was all Hu Shi’s own pocket.
was worried that I would be embarrassed and was uneasy, and I deliberately said it was funded by Peking University.
After understanding this, Lin Yutang couldn't calm down for a long time, so he immediately came to the door to thank Hu Shi.
I have heard a saying:
"A truly kind person can feel the difficulties of others, but not embarrass others."
People like this can face up to others' situations, understand others' difficulties, and take care of others' feelings at any time.
but never care about their own gains and losses, nor consider any reward.
makes others comfortable and is a kind of kindness to sacrifice oneself and benefit others.
Only by being sympathetic from the heart can you rather suffer losses yourself and help others.
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writer Ye Xiaomo, the granddaughter of Ye Shengtao , mentioned in an interview that a grandfather often said:
"Everything you do, you must have the habit of considering others." "
When I was a child, my grandfather liked to teach her the principles of dealing with people than reading and writing.
For example, when handing someone a knife, you should face the handle of the knife to the other party so that the other party can take over;
When putting the bowls and chopsticks, the chopsticks should be placed on the right side of the plate, and the spoon should be turned to the right so that the diner can pick it up easily;
In public places, you should walk and close the door lightly, and the sound of putting things lightly should be light.
Wait until Ye Xiaomo became an editor, and his grandfather told her:
should think about readers and sentences should be smooth; copying manuscripts should be thought about typists, and the words should be written neatly; when the manuscript is published, you should think about the author and send the manuscript fee as soon as possible.
Ye Xiaomo has always followed his grandfather's teachings, and based on his literacy and reputation, he finally Entering the ranks of the most well-known editors in the industry.
I have heard this sentence:
A person wants to gain a foothold in the world not only needs to maintain his integrity, but also have the care and compassion of himself and others.
The so-called upbringing is not to stick to and demand, but to know how to give and give.
Take others to heart, and when you can do your best, take more exams for others Worry, give more convenience to others.
The ancients said that there is nothing more to do kindness to others.
Only by giving comfort to others can you exude elegance and pride from the inside out.
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American psychologist Gorman once said: "The degree of comfort you make people determines the height you can reach. "
Give others a comfort, just like building a good relationship, or building a long bridge.
If you have fate, there is true love everywhere in the world; if you have bridges, the natural barrier will become a thoroughfare.
As the saying goes: Those who respect others will respect others; those who love others will love others.
Make others comfortable, while bringing warmth to others, it is also achieving your own life pattern.
Click likes , I hope you can learn to treat others well and be treated gentlely by this world.
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