It is hard for a woman to have children. If you have to make money to support your family, it will be more and more painful. If there is another mother-in-law who is easy to provoke trouble, it will be a purgatory.
A woman in Hebei just had her confinement after a caesarean section and was in a wheelchair to go for a divorce. What a big deal that made the woman so angry, leaving behind the hungry baby and eager to divorce?
It turned out that she gave birth to a girl and was disliked by her in-laws. My mother-in-law doesn't serve her during her confinement period and even makes troubles.
Due to caesarean section, she was unable to move in bed in the early stage and could only sit in a wheelchair in the later stage. Only her husband's grandmother, who was in her 80s, was by her side, washing, cooking and taking care of her children.
She was extremely angry and could not bear it anymore, so she ran to get a divorce as soon as she was confinement.
A woman took the matter into a short video and posted it online, accusing: Why do I have to tolerate and tolerate when I meet a mother-in-law who is provoking trouble? Not only do I have to look at the children, but also earn money to support my family! In the comment section of
, almost all of them are strong voices.
Someone supported her to divorce decisively, with more than 100,000 likes.
Someone showed up and complained that "the hatred of confinement is irreconcilable."
Some people also say that the combination of "mother-in-law + mother-in-law husband" is on the stage, please leave as soon as possible!
Everyone was furious about this matter and completely disappeared from the previous arguments of persuading peace and not sharing. It can be seen that the daughter-in-law in the world has been making trouble for a long time!
Why do women have to make money to support their families, have children, and endure mother-in-law who is provoking trouble?
In reality, more and more women are using practical actions to declare: I don’t want to!
In reality, some mothers-in-law are very weird. They make trouble in a variety of ways, constantly exaggerate their presence, create family conflicts, and fear that their son and daughter-in-law will live too peacefully.
A netizen Xiaoli (pseudonym) from Zhihu complained that her mother-in-law had a strong desire to control herself. Although she lived separately, she insisted on interfering in the decoration of her new house.
Xiaoli decorates her house for the first time. She bought a lot of furniture according to her favorite style. After reading it, her husband liked it repeatedly.
has been renovated, and my mother-in-law comes to visit. After entering the door, she walked through the room one by one, looked around, and pointed at the whole process. She was not satisfied with this or that.
Seeing the screen partition in the middle of the toilet and the restaurant, my mother-in-law's face suddenly became gloomy: "The screen is ugly and takes up space, so remove it quickly!" After
After that, my mother-in-law always comes, she will say that she will remove the partition barrier. She usually calls and mentions it repeatedly.
The mother-in-law's desire to control made Xiaoli very distressed.
I really want to ask this mother-in-law, you don’t live in the house, but you do it according to your preferences. What is the reason for this? If you don’t ask for trouble, what is it?
The mother-in-law has a strong desire to control and loves to nag, which is really annoying. Some mothers-in-law are even more powerful and make trouble every day, which makes the family restless all day. In an episode of the program " Gold Medal Mediation " by Jiangxi Satellite TV, Ms. Xiong cried out for her grievances.
After giving birth to the child, she took the idle maternity dress to her mother-in-law and said, "If you want it, change it, throw it away if you don't."
But my mother-in-law actually ran to her son to complain: "No wonder people say she can't live, and she has to throw away such good clothes!"
The husband was very angry after hearing this and had a big fight with her.
Ms. Xiong ran to her mother-in-law with grievance and begged her not to talk to her husband.
The mother-in-law rushed upstairs in anger and complained to her son. After hearing this, my husband shouted in anger: "I have seen this woman for a long time. She is not a thing. I will divorce tomorrow!"
The two pointed at Ms. Xiong, and her mother-in-law complained, but her husband said no. She suddenly felt dizzy and she slid from the edge of the bed to the ground.
Later, family conflicts continued to escalate, and Ms. Xiong's family directly made a fuss on the show. This kind of mother-in-law is really creepy. The scary thing is: you are obviously not wrong, but she can make a difference out of nothing.
This kind of mother-in-law can't stand being destroyed every day, and in the end it can only end up with a breakdown.
What should the wives in dire straits do? Should I endure it?
As the saying goes, "Be patient for a while, and take a step back and the sky will be wide open."
Although this is the case, when encountering a mother-in-law who is provoking trouble, enduring may be calm for a while, but enduring will only make people completely collapse.
netizen Huiwen (pseudonym) posted a post, denying her mother-in-law's trouble and causing her divorce.
Huiwen was born in a cadre family and her ex-husband came from the countryside. The two are college classmates. At the beginning, his parents did not agree to the marriage between the two, but Huiwen twisted her parents and married her ex-husband wholeheartedly.
When she got married, she brought a dowry of 200,000 yuan, but her ex-husband's family didn't get a penny of the dowry. Her parents paid 650,000 yuan for the 800,000 yuan for buying a wedding house.
Unexpectedly, the mother-in-law actually had the idea of marrying a dowry and urged her "fascinating" son to help her brother and take out the dowry to buy a wedding house.
The ex-husband didn't want to agree, and was inconvenient to refuse. She repeatedly pushed Huiwen out to be a villain, and her heart was cold because of this.
She repeatedly tolerated her, but her mother-in-law became even more serious.
Relatives were imprisoned for violating laws and regulations, but their mother-in-law came to find Huiwen's father to catch people.
Seeing that he refused, my mother-in-law was furious and came to mock her. At that time, she was more than two months pregnant and had severe morning sickness. She buried her head in the sink and vomited heavily, but her mother-in-law stood by and pointed and cursed.
Finally, Huiwen completely gave up on this marriage, secretly abolished the child, and divorced her husband.
shows that blind tolerance will only make the mother-in-law become more and more eager and constantly escalate family conflicts until it is completely impossible to reconcile.
Tolerance once is demeanor, tolerance twice is tolerance, and tolerance three times is weakness.
The more you tolerate, the more others will bully you.
At the beginning, he just pushed it tentatively; when he saw you not saying a word, he slapped again; if you still don’t say anything, the next thing must be a punch and kick.
The more you tolerate, the more greedy others will be.
Once others find out that you are easy to bully, their appetite will grow bigger and bigger.
Originally, he only wanted a little bit of big sesame seeds. When you see you tolerate it, you will definitely speak loudly in the end and have to ask for a big watermelon.
The more you tolerate, the less likely others will be to be satisfied.
Many bosses like to squeeze employees. When arranging six points of work, the employee will not refuse, and next time, the eight points of work will be arranged, until the employee cannot bear it and rises up and resists.
is visible. Tolerance cannot solve the problem and will also make the situation worse until you can't bear it.
Since this is the case, what should women do when facing mother-in-law who is provoking trouble?
Faced with the mother-in-law who is provoking trouble, you only need to do two things well.
As the saying goes, every family has its own difficult sutras. If you have such a mother-in-law, don’t be anxious or upset. For the sake of harmony between husband and wife and happiness in family, women need to do two things well. First, be independent and second, manage the relationship between husband and wife well.
First, try to live separately from your mother-in-law.
As the saying goes, "Eat people with short mouths, but use soft hands." Try to do everything yourself so that you can be confident at critical moments.
lives separately from her mother-in-law, and the distance becomes farther and the contact becomes less, so naturally there are fewer conflicts.
After the daughter of colleague Linlin was born, her parents-in-law helped to take care of the child. The mother-in-law prefers boys over girls, and she nags her for having a second child for no reason, and Linlin has a headache. Later, my father-in-law fell ill and the two old men returned to their hometown.
In desperation, Linlin sent her two and a half-year-old daughter to the nursing home. While busy with work and taking care of the children, the couple was busy. But she was very satisfied with the status quo, without conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and had no educational differences, and was very comfortable.
My mother-in-law is not around, and her biggest troubles disappear. No matter how much my mother-in-law wants to hold her grandson, she just nags occasionally, and she just pretends that she doesn't hear it.
Now, there are more and more young people like Linlin. They would rather work harder than let their mother-in-law help. They have gained freedom and avoided many conflicts.
Some netizens also shared a happy life after living with their mother-in-law:
"The stove, pots, bowls, and floor in the kitchen are clean and comfortable;
The house is cleaned and bright, the furniture is arranged in an ideal shape, lying and sitting casually, without any scruples;
breathing free air every day, and I feel very happy!"
In addition to living with my mother-in-law, the most important thing in a small family is to manage the relationship between husband and wife with care.
After all, the relationship between husband and wife in the family is the foundation. As long as the husband and wife are well managed and the husband and wife are united, even if the mother-in-law is provoking trouble, she will not cause much storm.
A husband who truly loves his wife will first understand the situation from his wife, and then take the initiative to communicate with his mother to solve the problem, and act as a lubricant to avoid head-on conflict between his wife and mother.
Friend Postpartum depression . Every time my mother-in-law holds the child, she feels angry, feeling that her mother-in-law is snatching her child.
After feeding, the child cried and the mother-in-law came in and took the child away. She completely collapsed, ran to the balcony and cried bitterly, and in anger, she slammed the door and left.
She was walking near the community and did not walk far. Her husband who came back from get off work found her as soon as possible and taught her for a long time.
At night, my husband ran to my mother's room and communicated for more than an hour, asking her to just cook and take care of the children in the future. Although the old man was puzzled, he nodded in agreement.
After my friend went to work, he slowly got out of depression. He remembered that he had misunderstood his mother-in-law before, and couldn't help feeling ashamed. Fortunately, she had the understanding, support and company of her husband, and finally repaired her relationship with her mother-in-law.
can be seen that only by managing a husband-wife relationship can one have a good relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
There are indeed mother-in-law who are provoking trouble in life, but they are a minority after all. A search for "Mother-in-law is here" on a certain blog, and many blog posts appeared.
Someone posted delicious meals made by her mother-in-law, some were spreading the refrigerator stuffed by her mother-in-law, some were eating at the time, some were holding the baby, and they were only responsible for feeding two meals of milk.
Not only do they regard the food made by their mother-in-law as delicious, but they also regard their hard work and remember them in their hearts.
It turns out that so many women get along very happily with their mother-in-law.
can do all this. I believe that in their daily interactions with their mother-in-law, they must communicate more, understand each other, and seek common ground while reserving differences.
Don’t just tolerate yourself, don’t suppress yourself, and keep your mood happy. In this way, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will naturally be simple.
I sincerely hope that every kind daughter-in-law can be treated gently by her mother-in-law!
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Author: Sting
Editor: Daniel Li
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