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I have seen a topic online: "How much impact does the original family have on people?"
has a highly praised reply: "A good native family can make people spend a rich and beautiful life. But the bad impact brought by the original family also needs to be healed for a lifetime. I do not deny the efforts and love of parents, but one code is the same. They can create a paradise for their children and hell for their children."
Children who cannot be treated well by their parents will always be accompanied by their inner pain and powerlessness.
Even the famous writer Maijia admitted the huge impact his parents had on him.
He said: "No matter how much glory and wealth I have gained in my life, I always lack a sense of happiness in my heart."
He also quoted the sentence Borges said: "I have committed the deepest sin of mankind, and I never feel happy."
Such a famous writer has been admired and respected by many people, but he still feels ashamed because he does not have the ability to make himself feel happy.
He has been reflecting on this question, but he doesn't know where the answer lies.
Maijia also said that if there is really an answer, it is childhood, and a person's childhood must be happy. He hopes that all parents will be kind to their children.
Unfortunately, everyone's native family cannot choose actively. You can only learn to adapt and accept what kind of cards fate gives you.
There are many people in life who always fall into grief because they cannot get the love of their parents and feel pain and hard to endure.
Especially girls, since they cannot get pampered from their parents, they will look for them from their partners, and they will always meet scumbags.
When you are still immersed in sorrow, what you can do is not escape and self-deception, but to give yourself a chance and find a way to heal yourself.
How to get along with toxic parents? There are often only two answers:
01: If you have an indifferent personality, stay away as soon as possible and live your life well
I have seen some bloggers on social media who have successfully got rid of the influence of their original family on themselves. Completely turn against your parents and stay away from them.
girls who can do only a little bit are lucky, their personalities are relatively stronger and cold. I won’t lose my bottom line just because my parents cry.
No matter how they ask for it or cry, the other party can ignore it, and will not let their parents kidnap themselves or give them a penny.
can even go home during the Chinese New Year, and will block your parents' contact information and will no longer contact you.
If you can be selfish and colder than your parents, then congratulations, you must also have the ability to manage your social relationships.
You will not be so sensitive, and you will be willing to be close to others and can trust others. Most girls of the type of
are more independent and knowing how to spend time working hard in their careers will make themselves more confident.
Finally, they can also find husbands with good character and be able to manage a good relationship between husband and wife. How to get along with
? Suppose you can make up your mind and draw a line with them, it is the easiest way.
However, not all girls have such courage.
Assuming it is difficult for you to be indifferent, don’t force yourself, otherwise when you cannot be selfish, you will only hate yourself even more. The internal emotions of
will make you exhausted.
02: If you are too kind and can't let go, then you can only endure it. No matter how uncomfortable you feel, you must accept
People often ask this: "Why is the more filial a child, the more likely it is to be bullied by his parents?"
Especially for elders who prefer boys over girls, they are obviously serving them meticulously, but they leave all their property and house to their son.
In their opinion, daughter should give selflessly.
Those girls with too kind personalities fall into pain when facing injustice. They can't understand why they are so kind to their families, but their parents can be so selfish and unreasonable?
It seems that no matter what they do, they will not only fail to satisfy their parents, but will also be scolded and criticized. However, even after suffering so much grievances, they will continue to take care of their parents after crying.
So, no matter how poisonous parents bully you, as long as you can't make up your mind and you are too soft-hearted, you can only endure it.
No matter how uncomfortable you feel, you can only accept it, because if you really cut off your relationship with them completely, you will only be more painful and you can't do it at all.
All of this is due to personality, you must see clearly the essence of your heart. Never blame yourself for not being cruel while giving.
Getting along with toxic parents will not actually drain your energy, but your continuous internal friction is the bottomless abyss.
When the people around you persuade you, don’t be so stupid, stay away quickly. Or you see some people who can leave their parents freely and freely, leave their homes, and no longer care about them, don’t feel envious, because everyone’s missions and personalities are different.
There is a saying: Good people are bullying heaven but not others.
Just be yourself, there is nothing wrong with being kind. On the premise that you can protect your life safety, you just need to have a clear conscience.
is bullied by poisonous parents, what can you do?
You can only endure it, you have no choice, you will never win a selfish family. However, God will not bully truly kind people, you have to wait patiently.
You can't change yourself because you are so by nature. You can only do this. Many times you can only be bullied by your parents. No matter how much you struggle, you must accept it.
You can feel sad about your own experience. This is your right, but remember not to force yourself to do things you are not good at.
It’s already pitiful that you don’t be loved. If you don’t understand yourself, you really can’t stand it.
How to get along with toxic parents? The answer is often only the above two. Different personalities require different ways to heal yourself.
Life is full of hardships. May you and I be the lucky person in the next life, you can have a happy childhood and be loved forever.
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