hello, Hello everyone, I am your Doushui mother.
. Which kind of person is most hated by others?
This questionnaire has been launched online, and the number one ranks: people who love to show off.
I think so. Although people who show off everywhere are caused by vanity, serious inferiority complex and insufficient inner energy, their behavior is "harmful" to the outside world.
This is like when I was a child, my parents compared us with other people's children, praised others and belittled their own children; the same is true for those who love to show off. They try to compare their glorious things to others' "dullness".
is not very harmful and extremely insulting. After getting tired of talking, there are hidden dangers.
There are three things in the family. Just know clearly. Smart parents never say that when they see others, they may even encounter jealousy and cause trouble for their children.
Children are promising and filial, not talking about
Friends say that their mother is very upset recently. An old sister of my own used to be a neighbor. The relationship between the two is not very good, and they don’t meet for many years.
However, that aunt always comes to her mother at the "highlight moments" of her life, saying that she is chatting and reminiscing about the past, but in fact she is showing off nakedly.
Not to mention the distance, there are a few things that are close, which make people quite "disgusting". Her daughter was admitted to a 985 university in another place, so she came to their house every day to tell her daughter how good she was in a big city outside, how good she chose a major, and how good the school environment was.
didn't consider it. She just got into an ordinary school. Her mother had always had "blanks" in her heart, but she kept talking about this.
After graduation, her daughter stayed in the local area, found a husband from a foreign company, bought a big house and gave birth to a child, anyway, no matter how big or small things happen, she would take the initiative to go to her mother to "talk".
Later she went to a big city to see her daughter's child. She didn't contact her for a long time, and her mother felt much more peaceful. Because she hadn't contacted her for a long time, her mother also deleted the WeChat account of the old sister.
In the second half of life, many parents have no self while living, and everything is centered on their children. When the child is doing well, the parents also feel that there is light on their faces and can't help but want to say a few more words when they see others.
Children have also become the topic of conversation for the elderly. Children who have excellent exams, successful careers, and are filial and capable, will make these "happy things" publicly publicly, hoping to be praised by others.
saw a message that his son was admitted to Peking University with high scores. A mother happily posted on her Moments to hope to get everyone's likes. Who knows that there are very few comments, and there are even some sour replies: Peking University is no longer popular now. Don't you come out to find a job after graduation?
I believe that the mother's mood was really low to freezing point, which undoubtedly hurts people, but it hurts her deeply.
The show-off between people is hidden in joys and sorrows. There is no such thing as "sad and joy" in this world, but it's just "living their own lives well".
Family financial don’t say
Friends go on a blind date, the matchmaker introduced said that the other party’s synonym is “three houses”. If you can have three houses in the city, your family's economy will definitely be good.
Who knew that the more friends came into contact with each other, the more they felt that this was strange. She has also attended her boyfriend's family gatherings, and her boyfriend's mother always has a sense of superiority and mentions her "real estate" from time to time.
Every time at this time, she would keenly feel the subtlety of the atmosphere. The other party’s relatives all agreed and said that the house will belong to you in the future, but they obviously felt very perfunctory.
Later she found out that one of these three houses is the one where his parents live now, and one is in the county town of our home, which is far from their workplace, so she will definitely not live there in the future. There is also a house on the homestead of his family, who has not lived in for many years.
Although there are three houses, my boyfriend's family is really simple, he is very good at living, and he is also known as stingy among relatives.
Later, my boyfriend told her that whenever he heard her mother mention these things, he would secretly sweat. I am always afraid that others will look at him with strange eyes and think that he is a family member of the family who is dependent on his parents.
Not to mention his own connections
Neighbor Wang is a very easy-going person. He has retired and has no time to walk his birds and raise flowers. He lives a very leisurely life.
Once I saw several people coming from his house, carrying large and small bags of things. Uncle Wang received them and sent them away politely, as well as the gifts they brought together.
I asked Uncle Wang curiously, what are those people doing?
Uncle Wang said, begging me to help their children install them in Yumiao Primary School.
Yu Miao Primary School is our famous key primary school. Apart from the school district housing, it is not important for ordinary people to get into it.
Later I learned about it and found out that Uncle Wang was the principal of Yumiao Primary School before he retired. He just didn't want to be disturbed by human nature, so he moved to our community to live.
Uncle Wang said: "We have also shined and heated, but those are all things that have been gone. When people leave, the so-called resources and connections have also gone away. "
" Look at the old dean played by Zhang Guoli in " Xiaoshede ". In order to be able to go to a prestigious school, he gave up his figure and asked his former subordinate District Mayor Li, but he was also given a "warning" and let him do the "two choice" and experience her difficulties back then." Uncle Wang added: "
I have said hello to the child, don't do things for me under my guise. If you agree, you can't do it, and it will not look good at that time."
Relationships are in place, use once and once less. Show off your connections. If you have relatives and friends who need your help but you can’t help yourself, you will eventually be a joke.
is written in the back
Smart and stylish parents will not tell everyone that their children are promising and filial, how happy and happy their lives are, and how strong their relationships and backstage they have.
This thing about life is originally an experience of "like a fish in water, knowing the cold and warmth". Your feelings do not represent the feelings of others. How can you make others cheer for you from your standpoint?
Low-key is a way of dealing with people and a great wisdom. Smart parents will consider problems carefully and will not talk to everyone about these three things, leaving any trouble for their children.
Today’s topic: Do your parents love to show off? Welcome to leave a message and interact with each other.
Douya Mother, a second child in the workplace, Shanghai University is studying for an MBA, a psychological counselor, focusing on children's psychology and growth.
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