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The most beautiful love words in the world are: hold your hand and grow old with you.
people in their lifetime, it is a blessing to be able to meet someone who loves themselves wholeheartedly.
You have always been looking forward to having such a person who will break into your life one day in the future, hold your hand, and be with you for the rest of your life.
Later, you finally met someone who moved you. You willingly gave him, and he was gentle and considerate to you and cared about everything related to you.
He treats you like the warm sun in winter, warming you at any time. At that moment, you thought you would become his whole world, and he would be you in his eyes and heart.
After getting along for a long time, you will find that he treats you very well and can be said to be able to answer all your requests.
But there seems to be a person in his heart who always keeps talking. You can never walk into his heart and become that unique person.
You have more or less understanding of his past. You know, he still has not let go of his previous relationship, and he still has the shadow of his ex in his heart.
But you are always unwilling to admit that you have been deceiving yourself, and unwilling to accept that there are other people in his heart. In order to continue to maintain this hard-won relationship, you can only compromise and support yourself alone.
But does it really make sense to do this?
If he has you in his heart, he also plans to keep going with you, but he needs some time to adjust himself, and you just need to wait patiently.
If he doesn't have you in his heart, he chooses to be with you just to forget the pain brought by his ex, or if he has the shadow of his ex, you must stop the loss in time and leave as soon as possible to avoid hurting yourself further.
In fact, everyone will have one or two exes, the difference is that once some people miss it, they will look forward and will not continue to get entangled.
And some people, knowing that it is no longer possible, are still struggling, not only hurting themselves, but also deceive others' feelings.
If you happen to meet such a man, who has not given up his ex in his heart and crying cannot solve the problem, please learn to deal with it like this.
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accepts the existence of his ex and does not escape reality
Zhang Ailing once said:
Perhaps every man will encounter two such women in his life, at least two.
married the red rose. Over time, the red one turned into a smear of mosquito blood on the wall, while the white one was still the bright moonlight in front of the bed;
married the white one, over time, the white one would become a sticky rice on the collar, and the red one would become a cinnabar mole on the heart.
people will always meet one or two people who are unwilling tolerate in their lives. If you are destined to fall in love, but you are not destined to stay together, you can only end up regretfully.
This kind of regret often accompanys a person's life and takes a long time to be healed.
So, after a man is with you, he has not completely let go of his ex. He will still be lost when he hears news about his ex occasionally. When he sees some familiar scenes, he will still involuntarily think of it. This is very normal.
After all, even if the person you truly love is uprooted from your heart, the scars will never heal.
So, if a man treats you sincerely and does not hide anything from you, you might as well try to accept the existence of his ex and not escape from reality.
When he accidentally talks about his ex, you cannot lose your mind and make trouble because of jealousy or jealousy. You must learn to empathize, understand his suffering, and be a qualified listener.
In this way, when he lets go of his ex, you will become the person he loves the most.
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Refused to be a substitute for your ex and do not compromise on your entire
Zhang Ailing once said: Forgotten one person only requires two things, time and a new love.
Time is the best medicine to heal everything, but it is a long process to heal the pain through time, and few people are willing to do so.
So many men will quickly find the next target once they break up. They can't wait to invite you to move in before they can't wait to open their hearts.
On the surface, his love for you is indeed true. He often talks about sweet words and vows and promises, and he is never stingy with you for spending money. You can feel the warmth and security he gives you.
But after getting along with each other for a long time, you will find that always asks you intentionally or unintentionally, changes you, and always forces you to do something you don’t want to do.
For example, you like to wear jeans and tie a high ponytail, but he will always say that you are too rustic and not good-looking in dressing like this, and ask you to wear a skirt and disheveled hair.
and most of the gifts he bought for you are either not suitable for you or you don’t like them at all. At first you thought it was because he didn’t know you enough, but then you realized that he was just changing you according to the appearance of another woman.
His love for you is not sincere, in his eyes you are just a substitute for your ex.
If a man treats you like this, you don’t need to compromise, and don’t lower your attitude and take the initiative to cater to you.
You should know that true love is not change but acceptance. If a man really loves you, he will not compare you with his ex, nor will he ask you to live like his ex. In his opinion, his ex is just a past tense, you are you, and no one can replace him.
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Author: March.
The pictures in the article are from the Internet.
I hope my words can touch your heart and resonate with you. If you like this article, please like it, thank you for your company~
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