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20-year-old me was "stirring" at home for four years because of social fear. While I was eager to have a stable job, I was afraid to get in touch with the outside world. The unwillingness to actively communicate with strangers made me feel that no matter where I go, I feel like I am redundant, and habitually escaped and gave up.
There are many things you want to do and where you want to go, but you don’t know what to do to achieve it. I want to have a lot of wealth through my own efforts, but I don’t know where to start.
One day I was wandering around in a bookstore and was accidentally attracted by the title of a book called "When you are busy and tired, you must be awake in the world". The book mentioned that " is the winter, the more suitable it is to shut up, study, and accumulate strength. People cannot change the environment. The only thing they can do is to change themselves. ." Two simple sentences of
enlightened me, and since then, I stopped my internal friction for more than 20 years and completely changed my life trajectory.
I started to learn writing, starting with a simple diary. Before I knew it, I learned to review the difficulties I encountered in my life and began to accept many reality that I had previously been unacceptable. After
stopped internal consumption, anxiety about the future became the driving force of life. I have gradually explained the many bad things in the past.
01. Stop the internal friction with the past
A happy childhood can heal a lifetime, and an unfortunate childhood needs to be cured in a lifetime.
and I belong to the latter. Under the influence of my original family, I used to have a serious social fear. It seriously affects normal life and work. The family’s incomprehension and complaints are like sharp knives stinging me again and again.
I spent too much time struggling with those memories of the past. Later I found out that only needs to go out bravely. Stop internalizing the past and live a free and free life.
02. Stop internal consumption of fear of failure
clearly has its own ideals and goals, but he dare not try it because he is afraid of failure. Before I even started, I imagined a lot of difficulties myself, and I didn’t dare to take action when I thought I might fail.
You obviously don’t like your current life, but you choose to spend every day comfortably. I am used to staying in my comfort zone, afraid that the change will not be the result I want.
stop fearing the internal friction of failure. Anyway, we are born with nothing, so what are you still afraid of losing?
really like a sentence in "You have no way out, only you have a way out": " In this world, there are really people living the life you want. You can live this life too, just a little determination, a little courage, a little hope and a little faith. "
03. Stop internal consumption of anxiety about the future
03. Stop internal consumption of anxiety about the future
The past is foregone conclusion, the future is unknown, and fearing the unknown is human nature. In fact, most people are like you and will worry about their unknown future.
is not doing well now, so what are you talking about in the future? You will spend the year as you spend it. If every day is unchanged, don’t expect how much you will grow in a few years. Live in the present and live every day of the present. Please remember that today is always your youngest day.
04. Stop the internal consumption of others' views on themselves
One of the biggest weaknesses of human nature is that it cares about others' views on themselves.
Girls should be generous in their words and actions, and should not be too naive to be looked down upon by others.
Look at you, you are in your twenties in your clothes. If you dress like a doll, others will feel disgusted and pretend to be tender.Such things have been heard too much since childhood...
Excessive self-esteem is actually inferiority complex. Why can't you live your life openly, do what you like, and express your thoughts bravely?
others really don’t have that much time to pay attention to you. If someone keeps staring at you and hopes you are not doing well, it means that this kind of malicious intention comes from jealousy and there is no need to waste time and care.
From now on, stop caring about other people's views on themselves, and being yourself is really cool!
written at the end
There are all kinds of things in life every day, troubles in life, conflicts in family relationships, problems at work... they are all easy to get us into internal friction with ourselves. No matter what kind of internal friction is, we must detect it as soon as possible and then end it as soon as possible. If we have to process external information while also consuming ourselves, it will only make you unable to do anything well.
From now on, let us put aside our internal friction, stop our anxiety about the unknown, and work hard to live a free and free life!
No matter what happens, please believe that it will definitely get better and better in the future.
The author introduces
Yaya, a post-95 freelance writer. Everything starts from scratch and starts from the heart. The best time to plant a tree is ten years ago, followed by now. Looking forward to meeting you and becoming your best friend.
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