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Zhang Ailing When she was 22 years old, she met her first love Hu Lancheng . She wrote a sentence at that time: "I am willing to be as low as the dust and bloom there."
This is what my friend Xiao Qin told me, and it is also a true portrayal of her life a few years ago. Time went back a few years ago, when I rushed to the bar to pick up Xiao Qin, she was already drunk.
She asked me, "I'm already low in the dust, why has my love not bloomed yet?" I knew it was because of her boyfriend again.
Xiao Qin is really a very good girl. She is gentle and sensible and considerate to her boyfriend. However, her boyfriend is a real scumbag. It would be fine if I don’t cherish Xiao Qin. Just seeing that there are several girls around him, it’s not worth Xiao Qin’s sincerity.
I took Xiao Qin home and made sober soup for her. When she gradually woke up, I told her: "When it comes to the relationship between Zhang Ailing and Hu Lancheng, Hu Lancheng is just a stain on Zhang Ailing's resume. A 22-year-old girl who is very knowledgeable and has the ability to argue for a hypocrite when she meets a proud and hypocritical middle-aged player in the officialdom. But Zhang Ailing has become a glorious chapter in Hu Lancheng's life's crazy erotic hunting history. Have you ever thought about why?"
"Why?" In fact, the answer is about to come out, "Because Zhang Ailing is excellent enough to love herself enough."
Instead of waiting for others to love you, it is better to love yourself hard.
There are many people who always like to question themselves in close relationships: Is it because I am not doing well enough? Is this sentence wrong? We are always asked by the world to treat others well, but we forget that the person we should love the most is ourselves.
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I read a speech by TED a few days ago, and the topic was who should you marry the most.
A woman in a blue dress on the station tells her bad original family and three failed marriage experiences. She said that because she felt that she was incomplete, she always looked forward to having her own home, someone could love herself, and she felt that love could make herself complete.
Actually, she is right. Love makes people complete, but it is not the love of others, but its own.
The person who spends the longest time and never leaves you is yourself!
Xiao Qin later broke up with her boyfriend. Her failed love experience did not make her unable to recover for too long, but perhaps because of the deep hurt, Xiao Qin did not have the next relationship in a few years. In the years when the Internet was developing rapidly, Xiao Qin seized the opportunity to start a business and became a self-media. Seeing her spare no effort to invest in herself, I was really happy for her.
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A few days ago, Xiao Qin told me that my family had arranged a blind date for her. When she was dating a boy, she suddenly realized that she did not think too much about how to leave a good impression on the boy, but instead considered whether she felt comfortable when she got along with the boy.
I clearly feel that Xiao Qin is really different from before. "So, did you feel comfortable when you were dating that guy?" I asked her jokingly.
"He is different from my ex-boyfriend. He respects me very much. I was very happy when I was with him. It turns out that after loving myself well, I will soon meet the right person."
Xiao Qin and his new boyfriend are inseparable and sweet. In her words, it is: Gifts given by the rich, and those who love themselves love each other. After she learned to love herself well, she learned to love others in the way she loved herself. Every day now, she loves and is satisfied.
There are so many beautiful things in this world waiting for us to discover, appreciate, and love, but before these, we must first learn to love ourselves well.
click "Looking". I hope you understand before rushing to the mountains and seas that loving yourself is the beginning of lifelong romance.
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