A few days ago, the Civil Affairs Bureau of China released the latest data, and the number of marriage registrations in China in 2021 was only 7.643 million.
directly hit a record low in 36 years. Do you know what this concept is?
In 2013, the number of married people in China was nearly 14 million. In less than
10, the number of married people in China was directly half.
The number of single unmarried people in China exceeds 240 million, which is equivalent to the total population of Britain, Germany and France.
and this number continues to soar.
The previous generation of people was urging people to death every day, and they could not understand this situation.
They feel that their generation's living conditions are so difficult and can get married smoothly. Now the living conditions of the post-90s and post-00s are much better, so why are they unwilling to get married and have children?
If you want to figure out this problem, you have to start with the survival problems of contemporary Chinese young people.
First of all, getting married, having children and reproduction is the instinct of all living things in nature.
We all have the urge to have a child in our bones.
Some people will definitely say that there is no, that is not you don’t have it, it’s you who dare not have it.
New China young people carry three heavy mountains on their shoulders, houses, dowry gifts, chicken kids, elderly care,
Any of these three mountains is breathless.
There is a joke on the Internet,
Grandpa only uses half a bucket of rice to marry grandma,
Dad only uses half a pig to marry his mother,
I have to use half a life to marry my parents.
is actually not an exaggeration. Now that young people get married, a wedding house is the standard configuration. Although the housing prices have dropped a little,
However, until May this year, the average housing price in the country was still more than 9,500 per square meter.
Even in third- and fourth-tier cities, a 100-square-meter house will cost nearly one million yuan to buy.
In the first half of this year, the average disposable income of Chinese residents is only 3,000 yuan.
is counted as an ordinary person who can only afford a house without eating or drinking for more than 30 years.
Not to mention the 996 young people who work in first- and second-tier cities.
can only sigh at the high housing prices in big cities.
Nowadays, young people earn enough wages to live without dependent on their parents, which is already good.
How dare you spend money to fall in love?
In addition to buying a house, wedding betrothal gifts in various places have also risen.
In the past, as long as there were three turns and one sound when getting married, you would be the hottest player in the marriage and love market.
In order to save enough capital, young people today can only choose to put aside their marriage and not fall in love.
first concentrate on working and saving money to buy a car and a house. After completing all these prerequisite goals, they are basically in their 30s.
This is why half of the people who got married last year were over 30 years old.
The main forces of marriage are born in the 1985 and 1990s, and they are basically only children.
Once both parties get married, it means that they have to assume the obligation to raise four elderly people.
After getting married, they have to consider having a baby.
Now the cost of parenting in China is not low.
According to the data of the "China Reproductive Cost Report 2022 Edition", the average cost of raising children aged 0-18 in my country is 485,000,
Urban families are about 630,000, and rural families are about 300,000.
needs to assist children in completing undergraduate studies, which costs about 700,000 yuan.
is like some developed first-tier cities, Beijing, which costs about 970,000 yuan, and Shanghai, which costs about 1.03 million yuan.
Secondly, the workplace in big cities does not seem so friendly to getting married and having children.
Many companies immediately prepare to fire the female employee as soon as they hear that a female employee is planning to get married and have children.
Many companies have unwritten regulations in private and will never provide high-paying jobs for married and unpregnant women.
Because this person plans to get pregnant or have a baby one day, he has to take at least three months of maternity leave.
The key is that you have more than three months of vacation and can't do any job. How dare you hand over the important jobs in the company to you?
Do you think the company dares to promote you with confidence after giving birth?
Most companies' first reaction when they hear that a female employee has a child is that she will definitely focus on her children and will not be able to concentrate on her work.
is unwilling to promote her and give her a higher salary.
Now there are 17.52 million more men of marriageable age than women.
Judging from the data, is the small number of young people getting married because there are insufficient resources?
is definitely not.
Even if you forcefully prepare all 1:1,
probably won't change much.
Under "significant pressure",
Everyone seems to be very busy, eager to invest and get out.
Boys hope to find someone who can share the joys and sorrows not just for money and material things, so as not to make him so desperate and tired;
Girls hope to find someone who understands her, loves her, and is willing to spend money for her, and earns money for her;
Some people hurriedly break into your world, and it only takes a few days from strangeness to good feelings.
Following a few sweet words, the good feelings quickly escalate into likes.
The two people have not really understood each other, so they started a so-called romantic relationship with their imagined character.
One day, the characterization collapsed, so I watched each other leave and look for the next one.
Just like that, we have been dating one after another, but there is no one who is sincere and unforgettable.
It seems that people nowadays are thinking about what they can get in love, treating marriage and emotions as a business and calculation, for fear of losing.
Over time, I found that the pain of two people is far less relaxed than that of one person, and I became less and less eager for love and marriage.
Finally, I share a point of view with everyone to encourage you.
People who have not grown up fully are not suitable for marriage.
People who are suitable for marriage must have sufficient and good abilities both physically and mentally.
have physical abilities and can have children; they can also live independently financially, so they get married.
If you lack psychological ability and have a child, the children will live hard, they will work hard themselves, and the people around you will also work hard.
People in the world have ignored the importance of mental health. In fact, almost all marriage problems are caused by insufficient psychological ability, and physiological problems are often caused by psychological problems.
All people must grow up under the love of their parents in childhood. Growth is the ability to build and take care of their own lives.
Unfortunately, human society has formed some tangible or intangible rules in the long-term development. These rules may completely ignore the actual situation and just arbitrarily determine whether a person "grows up".
So, it is actually quite difficult to get married. Have you understood it thoroughly?
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