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Someone once said: The fate of children and parents is divided into two types, one is to repay kindness, and the other is to collect debts.
Faced with children who repay their kindness, parents will live a easier life in their later years. When facing children who collect debts, their parents will become very down and out in their later years, and they will even fall to the point of having no support in their old age.
We always say that children and grandchildren have their own blessings, so don’t be a cow and horse for their children. Smart parents will let go appropriately. But the worried parents will only take over everything. In the end, not only will they not be able to get it well, but they are also complained of being partial.
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55-year-old Aunt Luo has now fallen to the point where he is not pleased with both sides and is complained about being partial to his daughter-in-law. She obviously helped her eldest daughter-in-law take care of her children and paid for her younger daughter-in-law to take care of her children, but in the end, both daughter-in-law complained that she was biased and shouted that she should not expect them to support her in the future.
Aunt Luo has two sons, and the eldest son is 3 years older than the younger son. Since Aunt Luo retired, she has been summoned by her eldest son to help take care of the child. At that time, the youngest son had not yet gotten married and started a family, and the two brothers did not have any conflicts.
Until the youngest son got married and started a family, and the youngest son got pregnant and gave birth to a child, Aunt Luo was in a dilemma. The youngest daughter-in-law gave birth to a granddaughter, and Aunt Luo wanted her wife to take care of her. But the young daughter-in-law disliked the difference between men and women, and was unwilling to let her wife go, so she insisted on Aunt Luo to take care of her.
Aunt Ke Luo discussed with her eldest daughter-in-law, but the eldest daughter-in-law refused again, saying that you have been taking care of the child since she was born, and you suddenly left. If you were a grandfather, the child was not used to it. You can't go, let your sister-in-law take care of her mother.
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The eldest daughter-in-law refused to let go, and Aunt Luo had no choice but to tear her face and fight against her eldest daughter-in-law, for fear that the eldest daughter-in-law and her eldest son would have a divorce. She had to discuss with her younger son carefully, either letting her daughter-in-law and mother come to take care of the child, and she subsidized her younger daughter-in-law for 2,000 yuan a month.
At first, the young daughter-in-law was unwilling to do so, thinking that Aunt Luo was biased and favored boys over girls. Her brother and sister-in-law’s son Aunt Luo regarded him as a treasure, and her daughter was treated as a grass, and she was unwilling to leave to take care of her. Aunt Luo was very heartbroken when she heard this, but she had no choice but to have no choice but to give her daughter-in-law a subsidy of 1,000 yuan and a monthly subsidy of 3,000 yuan.
Aunt Luo promised to subsidize 3,000 yuan per month, and the young daughter-in-law calmed down. But she calmed down, but the eldest daughter-in-law didn't know where to learn about Aunt Luo's subsidy for her young daughter-in-law. She made a big fuss at home and blamed Aunt Luo for being partial to her young daughter-in-law.
Aunt Luo patiently explained to her eldest daughter-in-law that there is no way to do this. If I send someone to take care of your children, I will not be able to help the young daughter-in-law take care of her children. Since you can't contribute, you can only pay.
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But the eldest daughter-in-law did not listen to the advice, but instead quarreled with her eldest son at home and had a divorce. After being tossed for a week, the eldest son couldn't bear it anymore and begged Aunt Luo to either give money or not, treat everyone equally.
Aunt Luo felt very distressed when she heard this. During the years she lived in her eldest son's house, she sometimes had to pay for her family expenses, which was equivalent to spending money on her eldest daughter-in-law to take care of her children. As for the youngest son, she did not take care of her youngest daughter-in-law during her confinement period, nor did she take care of her children. It is natural that she owes her youngest daughter-in-law some subsidies.
Seeing that Aunt Luo refused to give in, the eldest daughter-in-law said angrily: You subsidize the youngest daughter-in-law 3,000 yuan a month, and you also have to give me 3,000 yuan a month, treat everyone equally. Seeing that the eldest daughter-in-law was in trouble, Aunt Luo also said angrily, since you have to treat everyone equally, I have taken care of you for a few years, and now I have to take care of your children for a few years. I am not your mother-in-law alone, and I have to be fair and just.
Seeing that Aunt Luo really packed her luggage and was about to move to her youngest daughter-in-law's house, the eldest daughter-in-law suddenly panicked and said that Aunt Luo was gone, what should her son do? She and her eldest son have to go to work every day and have no time to take care of their children.
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Aunt Luo was unmoved, and the eldest daughter-in-law became angry. You were just biased towards your younger son and rely on this excuse to subsidize them. If you leave today, don’t expect me to retire in the future.
Aunt Luo was hesitant and didn't know whether to leave. When the young daughter-in-law heard that her sister-in-law wanted 3,000, she refused to give up. She said that either Aunt Luo would go over to help take care of the children, and she would not want to pay for the money, or Aunt Luo would raise her by 3,000. She would not be able to take all the benefits by herself.
The shouts and shouts of the two daughters-in-law made Aunt Luo in a dilemma. My wife advised her to forget that she would not take care of anyone's children and would not give money. Anyway, the children belong to them, and they did not give birth to us. We have no obligation to raise a son and have to raise a grandson.
Although that is the case, Aunt Luo is still worried that after she makes such a breakup, no one will take care of her and her husband's retirement in the future.
Today's topic:
What do you think Aunt Luo should do to be fair and treat everyone equally?
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