People want to marry a good wife for the rest of their lives.
Are there any standards for a good wife? There is naturally a standard for
, but everyone has different values and different preferences. The standard for
is probably very different, and it is difficult to unify.
Lao Zhan is over 70 years old and has lived with his wife for 49 years.
is just right. Yesterday, October 1st, was our wedding anniversary!
carefully considered and thought about it repeatedly. I thought that the following three standards,
is a sufficient and necessary condition for choosing a spouse.
can fully meet the standards, and few people are unhappy in the family.
Let’s stop talking. Take my wife Yang Qiao as an example, and
and talk about three criteria for choosing a spouse.
1 is kind.
Kind daughter-in-law, always and anywhere, think about others.
Yang Qiao is kind, you can see from a small thing.
In the early 1970s, she worked as an announcer in the commune and bought a large bottle of sugar to moisten her throat.
However, as long as an educated youth comes or an old member comes to sit in the house,
She knows that when she is tired, she must make a cup of sugar water and ask others to drink it.
After getting married, when asked about this,
Yang Qiao said, isn't this supposed to be? What's so strange?
It can be seen that she is a kind person at heart. She can't make any mistakes when she spends her whole life with such a person.
In the early 1980s, Yang Qiao was transferred to Beijing to hold petition receptions at the Social Department of Economic Daily.
At noon, everyone likes to have dinner in the office. Yang Qiao always brings a few side dishes.
We sat face to face, chatting and tasting slowly.
Colleagues knew that Yang Qiao brought Sichuan kimchi and came to the door one after another.
Yang Qiao was very happy. Come on, come on, eat whatever you want!
"rush" all the kimchi to others!
I said aside, hey hey hey, I'm here!
Yang Qiao smiled, stop joining in the fun, are you eating less?
Everyone was happy and the atmosphere was lively.
In the early winter of a certain year, I went to a Guizhou restaurant near the community for dinner. In the lobby of
, there was a girl playing the flute .
Yang Qiao said, I don’t know whose child is cold, it’s not easy!
and you will go and see it. Unexpectedly, in a blink of an eye, the girl disappeared!
Inquired and rested behind, Yang Qiao went in and handed the 100 yuan to the child and said,
Girl, you are very good at bragging, thank you for your hard work!
The child is a student of Conservatory of Music. He took the money and looked up at Yang Qiao.
Yang Qiao held the girl's hand and said, it's cold, go out and wear more clothes, be careful not to catch a cold.
The second is a hardworking
A hardworking wife, inside and out, you don’t have to worry about it.
Yang Qiao is the eldest, and her parents are very busy, and she is all in charge.
When I was in elementary school, I was less than 10 years old, so I took my younger brother and sister.
was buying vegetables and cooking again. I had to get up in the middle of the night to send my mother to work.
Sometimes when you go to the classroom, carry a large bucket of clothes, and after school, you go to the river to wash and clean.
When he went to the countryside, his neighbor sighed that Yang Er had broken his hand at home when he left.
After getting married, a small house,
, although it is an old house, it was clean and tidy by Yang Qiao, and it was as warm as a hotel.
Later, her husband went to Shanghai to study.
Yang Qiao was a commune cadre. He carried his son in the daytime and went to the production team to participate in labor.
Come back in the evening and then do laundry and cook, and is busy until midnight.
Every Sunday, I must go to my parents-in-law’s house to clean, wash clothes and quilts.
Mother-in-law said, Qiaowa, why are you so diligent? You don’t know how to take a break!
came to Beijing, and the family was reunited. The house gradually grew bigger and the decoration increased.
However, it was not messy at all.
Yang Qiao is also patient and wipes all kinds of gadgets cleanly and shiny!
Although I live in a building, there is no kimchi jar in the house,
earthen pottery , glazed, colorful, seven or eight!
In fact, where can I eat so many kimchi?
I know that Yang Qiao never gets tired of moving it up and down, changing water and adding salt,
She is used to hardworking, and she also expresses her feelings for her hometown in a jar of kimchi.
Third, a wise wife, wisely
A wise wife will never be confused whenever she encounters major events.
Remember to fall in love with Yang Qiao and walk to the commune river together.
Yang Qiao said that in the future, we will be a family, we two,
As long as which job is more promising, the other one will fully support it.
Do you think you want it?
I said I should get it, of course I should get it.
11977, I was "building the center" on Jinshajiang . When I heard the news that resumed the college entrance examination , Yang Qiao also called me and asked me to go back to the county to take the exam.
Back in the county, Yang Qiao was suffering from acute nephritis and was lying on the bed.
I said forget it, I won’t go to the exam!
Yang Qiao refused to do it, and he would not be able to review it!
Finally, he was admitted to the Fudan News Department as the top spot in the region.
Since then, they have been separated for several years.
Yang Qiao is at home, taking care of her children, and all kinds of hardships are hard to describe.
I remember that our salary was 74 yuan, and Yang Qiao actually sent me 40 yuan a month. I also accepted
calmly. Looking back now, I feel very regretful!
was transferred to Beijing and was divided into newspapers. Yang Qiao has been distributing letters and receiving visits in the social department.
I had the opportunity to study at TVU to obtain a college degree, and I also had the opportunity to transfer a department to the deputy department level.
, but Yang Qiao was unmoved.
I didn't study at TVU because I was afraid I couldn't take care of my family.
second is not a deputy director, worried that it will have an impact on Zhan.
I just wish to be at ease and be unknown, and have worked in the Ministry of Social Affairs for more than 30 years!
When he retired, he took it home and only had an old pair of scissors,
and calluses ground from the middle finger of his right hand.
After retirement, Yang Qiao knew that I loved writing articles, so she freed up time to let me write.
also supports opening a public account. When someone asked about the reason,
Yang Qiao smiled, "Oh Zhan, it's better to let him write, so as not to Alzheimer's !"
My official account logs on the articles written by Yang Qiao in the past,
"My Neighbor Wang Zengqi", "My Teacher", "Commune Story" ...
Fresh and simple, with smooth texts. Some netizens left messages and sighed,
Teacher Yang's article is unique, no worse than Teacher Zhan at all!
This is true. Yang Qiao's writing has three true feelings, true feelings, truth and sincerity.
is indeed better than Zhan.
After talking about the three standards, I suddenly thought that I could add half of it, called can be used as .
That day, having dinner with Yang Qiao at home. The red and green are there, and a few small dishes are very refreshing.
Yang Qiao said, Zhan Guoshu , do you believe it or not,
If we two are still in Sichuan and in the countryside, we will definitely live a happy life!
I said, believe it, believe it, definitely believe it!
Yang Qiao is simply too capable. As long as she is there, any miracle can happen.
Originally there was nothing in the refrigerator, so it would be a good meal and good food!
No matter where the house moves, the bed is always clean and comfortable, and I don’t want to get up if I lie down!
I said Yang Qiao, you are so awesome,
As long as you can be there, the desert will become an oasis!
Yang Qiao smiled, I like your comments very much.
OK. After talking about the three and a half standards for choosing a spouse, I wonder what you think?
The whole family's opinion is to generalize it from a side point. If everyone does not agree, it is actually normal.
The key is that you have to adapt to it yourself and feel comfortable.
As the saying goes, only the toes know whether the shoes fit their feet.
There are thousands of women in the world, and marrying a good wife is difficult, but it is not difficult.
In 2011, after Lao Zhan retired, he returned to his hometown in Sichuan with Yang Qiao, and took a picture in Huili county town
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