When chatting with friends in the afternoon,
My friend told me that someone was going to get married.
I happened to know each other, so he was embarrassed to invite me directly and invite her to come and tent.
I said it's okay, where is the date? If time does not conflict, you can go.
She told me the time and address and told me that the bride is my fellow countryman. Then I talked to me about some things about this wedding, and she said that the bride's family was not present.
I think it is a custom, after all, some places in Guangdong cannot come forward if they get married.
However, she told me that it was because the wedding day was not based on the woman's family, so her family was so angry that she didn't let other relatives and friends come, and they called each other one by one.
She found it incredible. This is too domineering. What should the girl do? It was originally time to discuss the wedding day. The girl agreed, but her family might be a little worried about it, but she was unwilling to do so. The girl was useless to persuade her. Now the wedding was held as scheduled, but the woman's family refused to attend.
She asked me, is this the case in your hometown?
Originally, it was a good thing for a daughter to get married. The man’s family is well off. He has a car and a house in his hometown, and he also has some small achievements. It is absolutely possible. But it's really embarrassing that my mother-in-law can't handle it.
I thought about it: This is indeed not good. After all, my daughter found the person she liked and wanted to work together. In addition, the wedding was not convenient to be rescheduled due to the epidemic, so it would be better to do the work. Anyway, they are all living together. There is no need to lose the essence of the happiness of marriage because of this, for the so-called face. Force your daughter to an uncompromising adversity.
I can't understand their parental mentality.
can only say that as a fellow countryman, I would like to give you a blessing.
When I calmed down at night and analyzed this matter again, I felt that the contradictions should not just be about choosing the day. Perhaps more importantly, the collision between the two families is indispensable when this couple gets along, and the only thing that insists on life is biased.
First of all, the man should have a strong attitude. Since it is a marriage between both parties and involves both parties' families, the choice of the day should be reached by both parties, rather than a conclusion on one party, which makes people feel arbitrary and do not pay attention to the woman's family.
Secondly, both parties should have lacked the necessary communication and understanding. Neither parties compromised or concessioned during the friction during the period. If the wedding was really done like this, it should be a pity for the girl. Originally, Mi Liangma deserved the support and blessings of her family, but she could only choose one side, and her relatives and lovers could not have them at the same time.
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actually has a lot of things to say, I don’t want to write it anymore.
Lover or relative,
has no standard answer.
is just a different choice for everyone.
When extremes occur,
still hopes that both sides will take a step back,
should not lose the big one for the sake of the small part.
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