has an ancient school of philosophy called Stoic school .
It advocates that people should be persevering, determined, and not easily moved.
Massimo Pigridge, a philosophy professor at , City University of New York, published a book "How to Become a Stoic: The Application of Ancient Wisdom in Modern Life".
In his article "If you want to be happier, pay attention to what you can control", it introduces a small content of Stoic , called "Stoic control dichotomy."
means that in life, some things can be controlled, and some things cannot be controlled, and we can only focus on what we can control.
Simply put: accepts what cannot be changed, and changes can be changed.
This is a bit like a cliché, and a bit like chicken soup, dull.
But if we can really do this, that is, distinguish between what we can control and what we cannot control, and truly treat it differently, then our psychology will be very strong.
Facing the ups and downs of life, truly be calm and composed.
Pigric gave an example of himself.
Once, he took the subway in Rome . A thief stole his wallet. Before he could react, the thief had already escaped from the subway and just closed the door.
has his ID, credit card and cash in his wallet. It is very troublesome to lose it. You have to apply for a certificate and report your lost credit card.
Most people will definitely scold thieves and even blame themselves for not hiding their wallets.
may be affected in the future, but Pigridge is an Stoic school. When he encounters such a thing, he uses the Stoic control dichotomy.
He thought that if the thief could not control the matter of stealing his wallet, he could only accept it. If you lose it, you will lose it. There is no need to waste time and energy on it.
Instead of being upset and lost, it is better to focus your energy on things that can be controlled.
He originally made an appointment with his family and friends to watch the performance together that night and then have dinner together.
So, after adjusting his mentality, he should watch the performance or the performance, and he should have dinner together, and he will not be affected by this matter at all.
The family was envious after hearing his incident and said that he lost his wallet and had nothing to do and was in a good mood.
is a step further, and one can divide one's personal goals into external goals and internal goals.
What are external goals and internal goals?
For example, you want to get a promotion and raise salary, which is an external goal.
Because many factors are beyond your control, for example, there are other competitors competing for this position together, others may be better than you. The personal preferences of the superior supervisor, etc.
What should I do? Transfer your energy to the parts you can control, that is, work harder. Focus on learning and constantly improve yourself.
actively communicates with superiors and subordinates and cooperates to increase efficiency.
These parts are something we can control.
Just do this part well. As for whether the external effect can be achieved in the end, it depends on luck.
Even if you don’t get a promotion and salary increase in the end, your personal abilities and comprehensive professional qualities have been greatly improved.
When faced with other opportunities, you will also have a higher grasp.
In summary, in a word, it is to leave the will of heaven.
Doing and doing things is to focus on the part that you control. Leaving one's fate is the part that one cannot control.
The final result is good, if it is good, if it is bad, if it is bad, accept reality.
also has some experience with this.
Take writing as an example. Can it be monetized? Can you increase your fans? This is uncontrollable. What
can control is to write an article every day, ask yourself to think and reflect on yourself every day, and write about the part of your growth.
polishes the article over and over again, and applies what you have learned to practice.
actually did these tasks, and the result will most likely get better and better.
I didn’t dare to imagine 100,000+ articles before, but now it has reached it. I couldn't write the manuscript before, but now I can also write it.
This is the result that can only be achieved by focusing on the implementation and execution every day. All things, the underlying principles are the same.
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