You proposed the divorce at that time, but he tried hard to win you back but you rejected him. After he persisted for a while, he would no longer look for you. He disappeared in front of you, no longer looking for you and no longer contacting you. Or he had given up and helped you back before you agreed to make peace with him, and he began to contact other opposite sex. But you gradually turned around and wanted to get back with him. You took the initiative to express your intention to reconcile with him but he rejected you.
Rebellious psychology is the main reason why he refuses to reconcile
In fact, this situation is very common in the process of divorce recovery. We call this situation a psychological rebellion in the process of divorce recovery. It may appear on the party who actively filed for divorce, or on the party who recovered it. The general rule is like this.
When the party who took the initiative to file for divorce has begun some divorce actions and is still in a divorce hesitant mentality. If the recovery party's recovery practice is more violent, dense and humble, the party who takes the initiative to file for divorce is very likely to develop a rebellious mentality. At this time, his rebellious mentality broke his hesitation in divorce. He no longer hesitated whether to divorce, nor did he consider the pros and cons of divorce and whether there is any need to divorce. He only has one idea, he must leave! Leave quickly! His rebellious psychology will be manifested as urging the party to get a divorce as soon as possible.
Restoration party will suffer great pain in the process of recovery
When the recovery party starts to recover, he enters a state of continuous self-reflection and anxiety. This put the Huanfang under great mental pressure and inner torture. When he insisted on repaying for a period of time but did not see any effect, or the more he repaid the other party, he was more determined to divorce. The pressure and pain of the recovery party reached its extreme, and at this time he would give up the recovery to relieve himself from the pressure and pain. If the party who actively proposes divorce suddenly turns around and seeks reconciliation at this stage, the party who regains will have a rebellious mentality. Under the influence of this rebellious psychology, he transformed the huge pain he had suffered before to save it into his resentment towards the party he took the initiative to file for divorce. He resented the other party for causing him to suffer for so long, but also made him feel that the other party's sense of value in his heart had disappeared. He would think that the other party had no value at all worthy of his reunion, and he would think that the things he did to save the other party was meaningless at all. He will eventually show that you are looking for him to get back but he rejects you.
So how to solve this problem? You must first reach a consensus with him, then increase the number of contacts and meetings with him, and find opportunities to express your recognition of the efforts he made to save you, and reiterate the reasons for your divorce and your various dissatisfaction with him, and finally wait for him to take the initiative to reconcile with you.
Restoration of this matter requires both feelings and human nature game
Consensus, that is, if he tells you that he refuses to reconcile, he says he no longer loves you and has no feelings for you, there is no need to get back together. Then you just say to him, "Okay, let's be friends in the future!" Once this consensus is reached with him, his rebellious mentality will disappear more than half. He will not block you and refuse to contact you and meet you, and you will have the opportunity to keep in touch and meet him.
Increase the number of times you contact and meet him, that is, although he refuses to get back with you, not only can you not break off contact with him, but you also have to contact him more and more. A breakdown of the connection will cause him to maintain his rebellious mentality towards you, and he will not take the initiative to find you to get back together. He will develop attention and interest in other opposite sexes in this rebellious mental state. This can easily lead to him finding other opposite sex, and you may lose the possibility of reuniting with him. Contact him, don’t talk about relationships, meet, don’t talk about reunion. Just like a friend, you can contact us and chat, chat, work and life, have a meal, go out to play, or you can ask him to accompany you when you go out to do something, and you can accompany him if he needs to do something. If he resists, you will take the initiative to lean up. But don't make him feel like you're doing this to lick him and win him back. If he questions you and stick to him just to get back with him, you firmly deny it.
Increase the number of contacts and meetings mainly to make you appear frequently in his life, which allows you to keep communicating with him and understand his various situations. It can not only rebuild your relationship, but also prevent him from finding his partner again, and reduce his resentment towards you during the process of getting along with you. In the end, it can arouse his feelings and recognition of you, play a role in completely eliminating his rebellious psychology, and achieve the purpose of allowing him to take the initiative to seek reconciliation with you.
Make it a matter of two people to save marriage
Find an opportunity to express your recognition of the efforts he made to save you at that time, and reiterate the reasons for your divorce and your various dissatisfaction with him, so that he knows that you have seen and remembered the pain and suffering you suffered in your eyes and heart, and he did not do these things in vain. It makes him feel that although you turned around, you are still not very satisfied with him. Let him think that the reason you turned back was because what he did for you before touched you. Let him think that your return is his success, not that you have no new choice or you are jealous of him and find another woman to return. When he does this, he will naturally take the initiative to find you to get back together.
OK, I am Brother Qin, that’s all for today’s content.
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