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Carnegie wrote in "The Weakness of Human Nature": "The saddest person in the world is that he does not have the advantages that he can show off, but he also conceals his pitiful inferiority complex with annoying arrogance and boastfulness."
We always emphasize that we should not show off in life, but keep a low profile. But after achieving success and becoming rich, how can you suppress your inner "smugness"?
A person who is not very successful will find out his own advantages and praise him. Not to mention successful people.
Children will get the first place in the exam and show off in front of adults; young people will be more arrogant because they wear new clothes; elderly people will show them to the people around them because of their good teeth.
Therefore, we cannot curb our weaknesses for the rest of our lives. We must dare to expose our weaknesses within the appropriate range. For example, when couples get along, they can talk about money boldly and show off their recent achievements. Doing so will make the relationship between husband and wife better.
Just, be a person with self-knowledge and be free to control and let go. As a middle-aged person, don’t show off your own abilities in front of the following types of people.
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First, don’t show off in front of people who are arrogant and avoid being crushed. In the early years of the Warring States Period, Wei Wenhou sent Leyang as a general to attack Zhongshan Kingdom.
After defeating Zhongshan Kingdom, Leyang happily returned to Wei Kingdom . He expressed his merits in front of Wei Wenhou , and he spoke frantically.
Wei Wenhou arranged for the officials in charge of the documents to take the latest memorials over and take a look at them. It turns out that in recent times, many ministers have written letters to say bad things about Le Yang and accused him of attacking Zhongshan Kingdom.
Leyang immediately realized his mistake and said : "The actions of Zhongshan are not the power of the minister, but the achievements of the king."
No matter how great a person is, he cannot surpass his superiors; no matter how broad a place is, he cannot surpass the world.
When a person has achieved grades, he must be polite in his words and say that his grades are his boss. You must understand that without a platform, you are nothing. The platform is given to you by your boss.
The reason why an expert becomes an expert must be outstanding. Even if you don’t find any special ability, it doesn’t mean that the master is mediocre, but the master is good at hiding himself.
has its own strong hands. You don't have to fight against the strong, avoid being crushed by the other party and hurting yourself.
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Second, do not show off in front of low-level people, avoid being jealous and resentful.
"Lüshi Chunqiu " has a story: King Xiang of Wei summoned the ministers to drink. He took advantage of the alcohol and said, " Ximen Bao is our role model..."
Minister Shi Qi stood up and said, "The land of Wei State is in units of hundreds of acres; Ye land is in units of two hundred acres. Because Ye land is not fertile, the harvest of two hundred acres is equivalent to the harvest of others' 100 acres."
At that time, Ximen Bao was the top leader in Ye land.
Shi Qi's words made King Xiang of Wei very embarrassed. But it is also the truth and there is no way to refute it.
People with achievements like to show off themselves in front of ordinary people. Because there are distinct levels of differences between people, the results are even more prominent in comparison.
In fact, those people with very low positions are not without wisdom, but they do not have the opportunity to achieve their ambitions.
It is said that everyone is getting firewood and flames high.
The person who can be superior is actually sought after by everyone and gets what he wants. If you always show off yourself, everyone will hate it. Otherwise, there wouldn't be anyone who hates the rich and the officials.
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Third, do not show off in front of career rivals, avoid being caught.
When we meet our opponent, we should think of words like "open and secretly fight". Don’t expose yourself just because you have achieved your grades. Otherwise, your relationship with the other person will become - your light, the other person is in the dark. Your chances of winning are naturally lower than those of the other party.
For example, on the same street, both shops are doing activities.Whoever shows the content of the event in advance will be "restrained" by the other party. The power of taking action cannot be underestimated.
people reach middle age, and they have competitors in the workplace and business world. Don't show your abilities casually. When you surpass your opponent, your ability has been exposed, and you have to pretend to be incompetent. After all, you are not at the age of retirement and will still compete with your opponents in the future.
Smart people are all weak in front of their opponents. Watch the changes, discover the characteristics of your opponent, and then take corresponding measures to protect your own interests.
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Fourth, don’t show off in front of your own relatives, and avoid your relatives cursing you.
Maybe you encounter this situation: you have worked hard for several years and made a lot of money. When you get together with relatives, you brag about yourself and say you have a lot of savings.
There are some poor relatives, so I will borrow money from you immediately. If you don’t lend it, it means you don’t give face; if you lend it out, it’s not your original intention. You are always worried that you can't collect the money you lend out.
If you tell your position, your relatives will come to your door with gifts, hoping that you will find a job and find a position for him. Because you have the power in your hands and can help relatives. But if you use power, the people in this unit will be eyeing you, making it difficult for you to be a human being.
Dating relatives will inevitably lead to enmity. Your achievements will arouse their "flattering favor". You should keep a low profile and don’t make things difficult for yourself just by helping your relatives.
If you do something beyond your ability, you will hurt yourself. If you can't do it, your relatives will gossip.
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There is a saying in "The Weakness of Human Nature": "In order to win comfort and attention, it means that you feel that you are important. People sometimes become patients."
People reach middle age. No matter how powerful or important you are, don't be too self-righteous, otherwise you will be praised by yourself to the sky and will not be able to get down at that time.
You must understand that the person who can truly help you is your family, and the person who really hopes that you will get better and better is your parents and lover.
Therefore, if we have to show off, we will just say it at home.
is the best, keep your skills and enjoy yourself secretly.
Author: Common people eat coarse food.
Follow my text and enter your heart.
The pictures in the article are from the Internet.
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