Friends, ask you a question, why do merchants sell certain products in a purchase-limited manner? The answer to the question
is related to the "scarcity effect" in psychology. The so-called "scarcity effect" refers to people's belief that the rarer things are, the more valuable they are.
Regarding the "scarcity effect", I think it is related to the three characteristics of the item, namely brand, celebrity, and era.
brand power will affect people's perception of products. Celebrity endorsements, things used by celebrities, and things created by celebrities will make people think that the item is worth owning. The older a certain item is, the more collection and ornamental value it has.
brands, celebrities, and eras are the key to inspiring people's "scarcity psychology", and it is also the reason why people buy crazy after learning that merchants restrict purchases of certain products.
talks to friends who betray their marriages "scarcity effect" in the hope that friends can understand one thing: the original wife with a sense of responsibility and kind heart is a rare species. If she loses it, she may not have it again. Why do you say so?
1. After betrayal, high-quality opposite sex will be discouraged
as an emotional counselor. I met a female friend who divorced her husband in order to marry an extramarital lover. After the divorce, she thought that her lover would marry her, but unexpectedly, her lover was perfunctory and had no plans to marry her at all.
, discouraged, chose to break up. She believes that with her appearance and ability, she can find a satisfactory partner again. However, because of her betrayal of marriage, those high-quality men who have ideas about her can stop, and she is surrounded by a group of "hungry wolf".
The female friend told me: "I regret it very much now. I am really too naive. I abandoned a man who is willing to protect my life for a man that is not worthy."
People have the intention to seek profit and avoid harm, and people don't want to be betrayed by their partners. Therefore, when choosing a spouse, people will think about the character of the opposite sex. If they find that the person who makes them betrayed the marriage, they will choose to let go and seek other love.
Perhaps some friends will say, "If a person really loves another person, he will not care about the past of another person."
I agree with this very much, but I want to ask my friends a question: What is love?
Love is not just a feeling, love is not just an emotional or physiological need, love also involves responsibility, loyalty, and quality. Love is related to life, and love is related to reality. Therefore, most people are more rational in their face of love and will not be affected by emotions. Only those who are controlled by love will think that loving someone does not have to care about the past of another person.
When you choose to betray, when you choose to divorce or be divorced because of betrayal, you will find that there are so few high-quality partners with kind hearts and strong sense of responsibility. You will find that the high-quality opposite sex hates the betrayal and the people who betray the marriage. You will also find that it is difficult for you to meet someone like the original wife in your life.
Because, people with kind hearts and strong sense of responsibility will not be with those who betray their marriage at all, even if the person who betrays the marriage is the one they love.
2. Human nature is selfish.
In this society, there are countless people who are kind and responsible in their hearts.
is not that there are fewer people of this type than those with bad values, but that these people generally have lower EQ and are very strict in doing things and will not attract too many people's attention.This is like an old saying in China, good things don’t go out and bad things spread thousands of miles apart. It is difficult for real good people to be paid attention to by everyone. Only bad people, villains, and people with low qualities will be paid attention to by everyone.
has two reasons for being followed, one is that the emotional intelligence is high, and the other is that what they do often makes people angry.
As an emotional counselor, I have met many people who are unhappy in their marriage. Most of them have met partners with weak sense of responsibility and selfishness. I asked these people why they married people of inferior quality. Most of them said, "I was too stupid and naive before marriage and didn't see the other person's behavior clearly."
really didn’t see clearly? There may be reasons for this, but I think the real reason is that people with low quality have high EQ, good-looking, and successful careers. People will be immersed in the false illusion created by people with low quality and cannot extricate themselves, so they choose to marry them.
In this society, many people cannot see through other people's disguise and cannot tell who is the good person and who is the bad person. Therefore, I think it is a blessing for friends to meet a kind and responsible partner. This kind of blessing requires friends to protect it with their responsibilities, loyalty and kindness.
I hope that what I said can inspire your "scarcity psychology" and truly realize the importance of family and the importance of the original wife. Don't lose someone worthy of love because of betrayal, or those who can bring you happiness and a stable life.
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